Wedding First Dance

[TheCatOfAthenry]

Getting married to DP next July.

I feel doing a choreographed YMCA, Macarena or ShaddapaYaFace would be spectacular. He disagrees.

We have discussed the possibility of omitting it entirely, but are still looking for common ground.

AIBU or is he BU? Any alternative suggestions?

Please don't do it OP, they're very old hat now and unless you're particularly nifty on your pins, they look crap. My friend did a 'surprise' one, she tripped on her dress, accidentally kicked her husband and failed to do a star jump at the end in her huge dress (only rehearsed in leggings and the £20per hour dance teacher assured her it'd be fine. It wasn't).it was awful and cringey, bless em

Are people objecting to the intentional cheese factor or are people assuming I'm unaware and will be accidentally cheesy? On a side note, this is my kitten.

PLEASE do Wigwam Bam and post it on here! Pleeeease?

Hey kitty! Beautiful kitty!

What's that 'song' that is just 4 minutes of silence? Do that but just stare at each other.

Please do NOT do a choreographed first dance, they are just so unbearably cringeworthy for guests to have to bother watching.

What have you called him/her? I love Black cats, I have one that is a bloody nuisence.

""I think it should just be a communal Oops Upside Yer Head.""

I've been to a Wedding that this was the opening dance. The bride wore trainers under her dress and drank pints. It was a three day affair,we all met up at her Mothers the day after, to carry on drinking/socialising,she had platters of food delivered and we all ordered in takeaways and it ranks as one of my best times.

I didn't bother with a first dance, but my Wedding was small.

The kitten is called Biscuit. Our slightly older Cookie loves him.

We had Biscuit from 5 weeks because his mum was sick so we have a great bond. And Cookie was hanging out at a women's shelter before coming our way so she's like a therapy cat.

They do not dance though.

My dad is a dance teacher

He is fully booked with couples wanting to learn a proper first dance, strictly style!!

He's making a bloody fortune!

Five hundred miles by the proclaimers is my choice next time I get married! Can't be arsed divorcing my DH and meeting someone else just for a dance though.....

Gorgeous cats!

I put my hand through the ceiling of the Michael Collins pub in Barcelona while standing on a table dancing/singing to 5000 Miles in my yoof, it must be said! Not recently.

I think learning to Tango would be really cool. Then you can 'tango' each other at the end - ie slap in the face like those ads from years ago

Is see a PP has already suggested The Grand March. We didn't particularly want a "First Dance" although DH made plenty of silly inappropriate suggestions! Our ceilidh band suggested a Grand March would be a good way to start things off. It involves the couple leading and the families behind joining in.

Just me who thinks that the Macarena would be hilarious-as long as everyone could join in!

Whigfields Saturday might?

Night*!

I think you should recreate Sia's timeless cage dance by Shia la Bouef and Maddie Ziegler....so tasteful. Insist he wears the flesh leotard and wig

I've not been to one wedding where I've watched a wedding dance - of any kind- and not felt really awkward. So, we didn't have one at mine.

Some guests are going to cringe anyway- go ahead and find something you and your fiance can agree on and have fun!

@diddl of course they could. I'm nothing if not inclusive.

I only make a prat of myself by dancing madly in front of my very best friends, or on a crowded dance floor where everyone's at it.

I find the intentionally cheesy dances a bit hey-look-how-wacky-zany-kerrrazy-we-are and therefore find them cringe (sorry). I am beginning to think I am an exceptionally introverted buzz kill though, so maybe don't listen to me!

Biscuit and Cookie are gorgeous!

DH and I had full guest participation for ours. We picked a song we love and got the DJ to drag everyone up. It was either that way or no first dance for us, we're not the type who likes to be the centre of attention.

@Decaffstilltastesweird it's not so much "look how crazy I am" as "even though I have no talent I still like to show off, but feel free to laugh at me because I'm able to laugh at myself".

We've since discussed it and are compromising - we might just sway a bit for a first dance, but Macarena soon after!

We picked a song we liked and asked friends beforehand if they could join in just after it started, so we wouldn't have to do the awkward shuffle round for the whole song. So the best man joined in, plus bridesmaids and some other friends then everyone else took the hint and most people danced for it, which was nice.

I'm totally up for that, but DP really wants a proper first dance and I love the man enough to go for it.

He is very tolerant. He has been around for 5 years of all singing, all cat-loving adventure and I want to keep him here for many more!

I'd just ignore the judgypants cringe comments. Like weddings are supposed to be all about gaining points for how tasteful you are and what level of approval you get from all your guests

It's your big day. The two of you should try to agree on something you'll both enjoy. My DH and me had a few dance lessons for it and it was our favourite part of the wedding prep, bar none - lovely positive 1 on 1 time. 10 years on and it's one of the few enduring memories.

(I did harbour a secret desire to have all our friends doing Fat Boy Slims Praise You but was voted down on that one....)

Like weddings are supposed to be all about gaining points for how tasteful you are and what level of approval you get from all your guests

But surely if it's all about the bride and groom and what the guests think is totally irrelevant, there is absolutely no point in preparing a dance (comic or otherwise) for their entertainment and appreciation ?

Unless of course it's for your own entertainment and you don't give a fig who watches and what they think?

(Which is how I aim to live all my life, not just my wedding day btw )