To think the idea of having a soul mate or someone being 'the one' is bollocks?

[BoysofMelody]

I would preface this by saying that I'm happily married, but cringe when I hear someone describe their partner as 'the one' or their soulmate. Isn't it funny how someone's soulmate more often happens to live or work with or near them, generally be of a similar age, social class and a similar level of attractiveness etc. (although of course, people do marry across class and age boundaries) but funny how very few people's soulmate is an 83 year old Maori or whatever.

As I said, I'm happily married, but if things had panned out differently, I could have been equally happy with someone else.

AIBU to think we aren't 'destined' to be with our partners and could have equally happy lives with quite a few other people?

Um, obviously, unless you're 14 years old and still need to believe in things like santa claus

I met my DH on a different continent in a different country on the last night of a vacation. He was, and is, perfect for me. Long distance relationship? Pfft. It worked, we made it and now have been married for almost ten years. He's the only one for me.

It's all bullshit but it really felt like it was meant to be. Including very odd coincidences and everything.

RiseOfTheLotus Thu 03-Aug-17 19:26:23
"I find it weird that everyone is saying the same thing about their "one" - They just Knew when they met them, they have never felt the way they do about this person about anyone before and they wouldn't want to be in another relationship if anything happened as they would rather be single."

Not that I would ever go around referring to dh as my soulmate, but what's weird about thinking about singlehood as a perfectly valid option? Some people just aren't that fussed about relationships. Is that not allowed?