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AIBU?

To want to tell others to do their research before judging!

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Mumzzy88 · 31/07/2017 10:51

I get stopped every day by other dog walkers.i get rude comments about my parenting because of my choice. I get shocked faces and utter disbelief when asked do I have a pet!
I have a pit bull!
He was not my choice of breed and I didn't even want a bloody dog!
But.... a family member was treating him very badly he was under weight riddled in fleas being hit and attacked by other dogs in the house being given just left over food from whatever takeaway they had that night I observed this for a few months until I was invited to a barbecue five years ago in 30degree heatwave I could hear this dog crying in a room upstairs. I went up to see the dog who was in a boiling room with NO water!
I lost it! And took the dog home that moment to mine !
Iv now had him 6 years he's now a confident gorgeous family pet and we all adore him and he's amazing with my children he sleeps with my 10 year old every night as he hates being alone (naughty I know) and even lives peacefully with two cats!
He's not got a aggressive bone in his stocky body
But nearly every day people stop me and demand I put THAT dog on a lead ( in a huge field) or how could you own such a monster!. Or omg how could you allow such a dog around your children!
I'm so sick of this it makes me so upset Because he's so lovely he's and been given a second chance to be a happy pouch.
I feel like I have to explain his story constantly AIBU to think that people should just mind their own bloody business or do some research on the breed!

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HooplaLoopla1 · 01/08/2017 05:42

Kali110 Well yeah I am a bit tbh. A lot of the negativity at the op has been about her 'always on a leash/sometimes on a leash' and 'muzzled/not muzzled'. Some people have been saying they'd cross over the road, run away etc etc but by no means everyone.

Added to that, the op says she puts up with abuse, comments etc every day yet a few pages ago was talking about giving up her dog a few pages ago because of some of the comments on this thread. I don't really get why the verbal comments every day you'd be annoyed/upset/angry about but the comments on an internet forum are enough to make you give up on your dog that you say you love, adore and trust beyond measure?

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schoolgaterebel · 01/08/2017 07:15

I admire the OP for rescuing a dog from horrible circumstances, and so glad another poor dog has a good home.

I think in this instance the OP needs to take the judgement 'on the chin' as part of owning this dog. It is frustrating when people make snap judgements but they need to be forgiven because everything we know about this breed is negative.

All the OP can do is love her pet and keep him safe, take necessary precautions around her own home and when walking him.

Trying to educate people to understand not all pit bulls are killers will price fruitless. At the end of the day they shouldn't be pets, but this one is and I hope he has a long and happy life with his family.

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StarHeartDiamond · 01/08/2017 07:58

Kali / you were talking about crossing the road and going in the opposite direction etc not specifically making rude comments.

If people are being abusive just on sight then that's different (unless they feel threatened by the dog being off the lead which a lot of people would with any dog as it's not physically controlled by an owner). Abusive comments when the dog is behaving and on a lead is not good.

But you can't expect to have a breed like a pit bull and have strangers automatically know that the dog is safe.

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TeamCersei · 01/08/2017 14:16

Two dogs I know recently came into my garden and killed my cat - bloody awful but I let it go as my gate was open so I take some responsibility and felt very bad for the young lad walking the dogs who I see often.

Woodland, obviously the dogs weren't on a lead.
If they had been on a lead, the young lad wouldn't have let them go into your garden.
So, if they were off a lead then it is his fault and not yours for leaving the gate open.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/08/2017 14:23

It wasn't your fault though, Cersei
Just because you left your open does not mean wild dogs have the go ahead to kill your poor cat
Like if someone leaves their front door open. That does mean intruders have free reign.
Its a bad day when even victims are victim blaming

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/08/2017 14:24

Oh Sorry,Cersei. That wasn't you. You were reply to someone else.

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kali110 · 01/08/2017 17:26

Added to that, the op says she puts up with abuse, comments etc every day yet a few pages ago was talking about giving up her dog a few pages ago because of some of the comments on this thread. I don't really get why the verbal comments every day you'd be annoyed/upset/angry about but the comments on an internet forum are enough to make you give up on your dog that you say you love, adore and trust beyond measure?
Nothing would ever make me give up my pets, but if i got abuse everyday then it would probably effect my mh as it's clearly is the op

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Trustmeimadoggroomer17 · 02/08/2017 01:35

Letting your child sleep In the same bed as your dog is just stupid. Any dog regardless of the breed, temprement or relationship with yourself or your children can turn at any point. What if your child hurt the dog by accident and it bit. If someone hurt my while I was sleeping my instinct would tell me to hurt them to get them of me quickly. I love dogs but I would never ever ever put a dog in the same bed as my child weather it be my bull mastiff or my frenchie both who I trust 100% but would never in a million years leave any dog alone with my child.

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supermoon100 · 02/08/2017 04:33

Staffies are not good looking dogs. They look scary to me. No way would I let toddlers go near them

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 02/08/2017 08:24

TakesTheCake - thinking about it, our Staffie actually wasn't lovely. He twice bit a boy who I was playing chase with, once to the point that he needed a Tetanus booster. He also twice got loose and killed a chicken and attached a sheep on those occasions. This was in the 1980s.

When I said he was lovely until he wasn't, I meant he was loyal and soft until he got to about 9 or 10. Then he became really growly and grumpy. He would bristle at my friends, and if I got out of bed in the night (he lay at my feet) he would snarl when I got back in. Hugely dangerous looking back. He died when I was 17 so we just have had him when I was about 6. There's no way I'd let my kids pet a Staffie now.

Recently I had a woman have a go at me because I stood in front of my kids to shield them as she was dragged past by her huge, growling dog. She insisted it was just its breathing but why on earth would any reasonable person take that chance? I was worried for myself let alone my 6 and 4 year olds.

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kali110 · 02/08/2017 19:19

Staffies are not good looking dogs. They look scary to me. No way would I let toddlers go near them
any dog can bite.
I've been biten as a child and it certainly wasn't by a staffie or any other of the 'scary' dogs!

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Notreallyarsed · 02/08/2017 19:21

Staffies are not good looking dogs. They look scary to me. No way would I let toddlers go near them

See I feel the same about Jack Russells having been attacked by a pack of the fuckers when I was a child. I do think staffs are good looking, because I love their "smile" I know I've posted my mutt further upthread, but this is the "smiley face" I mean.

To want to tell others to do their research before judging!

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Notreallyarsed · 02/08/2017 19:22

Mines not a purebred right enough, she's crossed with a boxer, hence having chops.

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kali110 · 02/08/2017 19:26

Notreallyarsed lovely! It's really sad the rep staffies have gotten.
Ive been bitten by a jack russel

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Notreallyarsed · 02/08/2017 19:32

Thanks Kali she's a wee star I'm absolutely terrified of Jack Russells, especially in a group. I'm more afraid of smaller dogs in general tbh, having had more bad experiences with them. There isn't one big dog I've ever had cause to be afraid of. My BIL has a Dogue de Bordeaux (massive French mastiff) and he's a softie, my cat used to batter him

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Unicorn81 · 02/08/2017 20:01

I have a staffie from dogs trust and out of the pack he runs with (about 8 other dogs) he is the most well behaved. He doesnt jump up on people, doesnt beg for biscuits, comes back when told to do so. He has been attacked by 2 jack russells now on 2 ocassions and did not once fight back, just looked to us to help, the attacks left him with scabs and scars.

ANY dog can attack, judge the people not the breed. The RSPCA, dogs trust and police stand up for staffies. Op get yourself onto some facebook groups for pitbulls and staffs, great support there.

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