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To want to tell others to do their research before judging!

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Mumzzy88 · 31/07/2017 10:51

I get stopped every day by other dog walkers.i get rude comments about my parenting because of my choice. I get shocked faces and utter disbelief when asked do I have a pet!
I have a pit bull!
He was not my choice of breed and I didn't even want a bloody dog!
But.... a family member was treating him very badly he was under weight riddled in fleas being hit and attacked by other dogs in the house being given just left over food from whatever takeaway they had that night I observed this for a few months until I was invited to a barbecue five years ago in 30degree heatwave I could hear this dog crying in a room upstairs. I went up to see the dog who was in a boiling room with NO water!
I lost it! And took the dog home that moment to mine !
Iv now had him 6 years he's now a confident gorgeous family pet and we all adore him and he's amazing with my children he sleeps with my 10 year old every night as he hates being alone (naughty I know) and even lives peacefully with two cats!
He's not got a aggressive bone in his stocky body Smile
But nearly every day people stop me and demand I put THAT dog on a lead ( in a huge field) or how could you own such a monster!. Or omg how could you allow such a dog around your children!
I'm so sick of this it makes me so upset Because he's so lovely he's and been given a second chance to be a happy pouch.
I feel like I have to explain his story constantly AIBU to think that people should just mind their own bloody business or do some research on the breed!

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IDoDaChaCha · 31/07/2017 19:41

Strawberrybubblebath so sorry to hear about your brother's scar from the dog bite. My sister was bitten by our cousin's shi tzu when she was young and has been uncomfortable around dogs ever since. Personally I'd approach the fear a different way: try to meet well behaved dogs to dissipate the fear. Like treating a phobia. Dogs are very much a part of life in the UK and they're everywhere. Surely it would be easier to co-exist than to be anxious and scared around them. My phobia is heights; i couldnt stand on a dining chair without feeling nervous! So I set myself challenges: first I went on the Pepsi Max big one at Blackpool and sat at the front- and didn't hold on! Then I went up in a 2 seater light aircraft. Then I went hot air ballooning over the valley of the kings in Egypt. Next I want to learn to climb (climbing walls). I feel better and better the more I face my fear and it diminishes. Now I can stand on chairs (and ladders!) to reach things and do diy. Dog attacks aren't actually that common. I know you have close experience with one via your brother but they aren't an everyday occurrence. If you got to know some chilled, friendly dogs it could help diffuse the anxiety x

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 19:41

Just one small favour to ask of all those who fear the breed please look at this I'm not trying to change your minds before having him I was also on your side!
Go to google and type in NANNY DOG please read this you'll be very surprised:) god bless

kali110 · 31/07/2017 19:41

Good. Unfortunately as you can see some people see the dog and judge!
I would hate for your dog to be pts!
Stick to the rules, lead and muzzle.
It's better for him to have these and to live a long and happy life with you Smile

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 19:42

No Kali. For walking a dog of that breed off lead. Funnily enough, I am not in the habit of accosting every innocent dog walker. Are you wilfully misunderstanding? Hmm

kali110 · 31/07/2017 19:43

No its seems me and the op both didn't understand your post, obviously it was clear Hmm

kali110 · 31/07/2017 19:43

Wasn't*

sunfloweras · 31/07/2017 19:44

I am frightened by dogs after being bitten as a child. I wish all dogs were kept on leads In public places not any specific breed.
I have also had to tell several dog owners to leash their dogs after several have knocked my toddler dd over and also stolen food at picnics. Literally feel like I can't go to places like the woods or some parks and just sit down on the grass without a dog sniffing at our food.
Have also had a dog leap up at me in the woods and wipe its muddy paws all down my coat whilst the owner just stands there and says it's ok it won't hurt you. Totally irrelevant when stuck in a coat now covered in muddy paw prints. It's easy to judge people that don't like dogs but unfortunately many of us have simply had poor experiences with them and no longer wish to be near them unleashed.

sunfloweras · 31/07/2017 19:45

Ps can I add I think it's amazing you rescued the dog but it won't stop me wishing it want on a lead!

FloofyCat · 31/07/2017 19:48

Why have you NCed?

Personally I think it's irresponsible for your dog to sleep unsupervised in a child's bed and I would judge the fuck out of you for that - both as a pet owner and a parent.

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 19:53

sunflower that bugs the heck out of me too. All that "he won't hurt you" rubbish makes me rage. Your dog is big, it just jumped all over me/my children, and I don't know it from Adam. Plus no dog bites until it bites. Maaaan.

When I had a dog I never let her do that. I understood that other people didn't know anything about her, and that some people have had bad experiences of dogs that they EKL never get over.

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 19:54

floofy what is NDed?

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 19:55

Many of my clients will cross the road to pass this “Devil Dog” and many are fearful of their reputation, especially as they assume they are all inter-human aggressive. It may come as somewhat of a surprise to find that this could not be further from the truth. These poor dogs are being unfairly stigmatised by the media and the general public.

They assume these dogs are highly dangerous to any human or dog. That assumption is often incorrect, especially when it relates to people and children

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Now I have to admit that I do not own a Staffie, and never have done. I have generally owned Gundogs, German Shepherds, and some crossbreeds. I thought it important to point this out. I am also not looking through rose-tinted glasses, like many of the dog owners, that see no wrong in whatever breed of dog they own.

I have written this article with my behaviourist and trainers hat on. It is based on fact and long term experience of working with all breeds, including the SBT for over 45 years. Like most of my articles, I try not to use jargon or half truths. I generally say it as it is.

The Staffie Devil Dog or Nanny Dog

The Staffie's (Staffordshire Bull Terriers) reputation is built on hearsay rather than fact. On the way, it looks rather than the way it acts.

It is often identified incorrectly. In reality, many of the dogs that show aggression are bull breed crosses.

The purebred Staffie is a whole different ball game. It has a nickname, “The Nanny Dog”

That nickname came about because this breed is known to be so good with children. The Staffie is the breed that is recommended for a family with young children by many of the welfare and re-homing organisations.

MotherPie · 31/07/2017 19:56

I know some and yes they can be lovely dogs but personally I like having dogs I could overpower if they were to ever 'lose it'.

FloofyCat · 31/07/2017 19:57

Takesthecake NameChanged.

The last post from OP is Hmm

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:01

My parenting is amazing thank you so is my dog I have had many years now :) my 10 yr old will not sleep without her best friend
Just annoying I have to change the sheets every two days that's annoying do I think my dog would savagely rip her apart whilst they cuddle up together lol no I don't lol he's incredible around my daughter and she is with him I'm sure if it was a little Lap dog no one would mind right lol
No of course not

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 20:01

Yeah, is she flogging dog treats now?!

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:03

Yes name change as I commented on another post and hid this thread as I thought ild like to see more good advice or shall I say nasty comments now on my parenting can also rely on that SHOCK

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:04

And it was a passage from nanny dog site
Use your head lol

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 20:07

YEah, see, I would have cut that bit out.

TakesTheCake · 31/07/2017 20:08

Try posting under a different name, so completely afresh, asking "Is it safe for a child to sleep in a bed with a pitbull?"

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:12

without his muzzle a rare treat for him thanks to all the asshole owners who think it's cool to own a status dog with no brains. But he's happy at least he goes out rather than sat in a cupboard in this weather with nothing but his own shit and vomit how dare I take pity on such a monster

To want to tell others to do their research before judging!
FloofyCat · 31/07/2017 20:12

So you allowed a pitbull to share a bed with your 4 year old child, and you're surprised that people think that's shit parenting?

OK then.

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:14

He's a pit cross staff and yes I feel comfortable allowing it have no reason not too

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:15

She's not 4 she's 10 he started doing this a year ago when we moved I think it's was being scared and fear of being alone

mumzilla88 · 31/07/2017 20:15

If you knew him you wouldn't have this opinion