I want to harm my baby

[stressedmother5592]

And that's putting it nicely! I have a 5 month old daughter and all she does is scream. To the point where I want to physically harm her to get her to shut up. There's maybe ONE hour A WEEK that she is actually happy for. Any other time she is screaming. I don't want to hurt her and I don't want judgement please but what is going on, I can't take this much longer

Oh love, this is awful. My eldest cried like this for the first 3 months, but I was lucky and it relented then and she became a happy baby. So I do know a little of what it's like, I really feel for you. I didn't bond with her for a long time, I hated my life and was very close to walking out and never coming back on many many an occasion. ADs helped a lot.

I think you need a plan. How about this.

Step 1; can anyone take the baby and toddler for you today, for at least 5 or 6 hours? Husband, MIL etc? You need some peace and quiet to gather your thoughts and step back a little. Don't be afraid of telling them how necessary it is. If any of my friends asked I would do this for them.

Step 2, GP, emergency appointment tomorrow morning. Tell them what you have said here. Tell them your history, how you are feeling and that you NEED support now. No more forgtten prescriptions. Take your DH if you can. He can come in for moral support initially and then take the baby out so you can speak to the GP in peace.

Step 3, urgent call to HV first thing in the morning. Your DH could do this for you. Explain what's happened and that you feel near crisis, and that they need to come round and help put some support together for you.

I'd also say you need to be referred to a paediatrician to get to the bottom of the issues with your baby.

OP - you need to tell your GP your history. And ask for a different doctor if need be. If it is really too much and you think you will harm your baby leave the baby to cry in a different room for half an hour until you are in control again.

Yes, it is always fine to leave a clean, fed baby in a comfy cot to cry while you have a cup of tea and collect your thoughts. Put headphones on if you have to.

I think A and E at peak crying time may be a good plan if you are at the end of your tether.

Science stuff. I liked the comment on gripe water. Could probably do with some of that myself! invernesssurgical.com/hl/?/21576/

You say you've tried calpol, have you tried nurofen?

I'm not suggesting you give it to her as a solution, but more to work out if it's pain that's causing the crying. Give her nurofen and see if it makes a difference. If it does, and I really hope it will, you can then try and work out why she's in pain.

It sounds like you need help NOW though. Can you go to your nearest walk in and just beg for an appointment?

Another seconding cranial osteopath. Hv actually said she'd seen it help babies.

Cranial osteopath is worth looking into but I second going to sit in a&be, take the baby, you don't have to make an appointment then turn up , you just go. People will look and hopefully that helps you realise that you do need help! You MUST tell them about your history with your first child so they can help you. Your gp and hv have to know also but first just go to a&e. Hugs!!

No judgement from me.

My eldest would have the odd crying fit. I'd make sure she was clean, fed, safe, etc and then go to another part of the house, with music playing, just to have a break from it.

My youngest was much more full on - tense, crying. On a friend's recommendation I took her to a cranial osteopath (I'd've taken her to the moon if there was a chance it would help). He passed his hands over her head, hardly touching her, and for the first time since birth she actually relaxed. I could've cried, the peace was immeasurable.

I hope you get to the bottom of it and soon

Honestly? I'd go to a&e. Have you got one with a decent children's dept? I'm not one to advocate this normally (and I'm a paeds nurse) but I think you should. You're at the end and no one is willing to help.

This particular way of holding her a baby has helped my friend:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=j2C8MkY7Co8

Hi everyone,

We've had a lot of reports about this thread asking if we can get the OP some help in real life.

We do understand your concerns, but while checking things out we've uncovered some major discrepancies in the OP's posting history, so we're really not convinced that this thread is genuine.

We can see that there's some really valuable advice on here for anyone in this situation, so rather than delete the thread, we're going to close it for now while we take a closer look into things.

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