AIBU?
Happy fucking birthday to me
Anaffaquine123 · 29/07/2017 08:34
AIBU to be pissed off? My h, not dh right now, went out yesterday afternoon for work drinks. I did stuff with the kids. It was hot, they found it difficult to get to sleep and ended up in our bed with me. The three year old performing bloody somersaults, kicking me in the head. I had very little sleep. I was either putting them back to bed like boomerangs or being kicked in the head.
H gets home at 3:30am and says, "what? I'm home aren't i. It isn't even late!"
I rolled my eyes too knackered to respond.
He grabs my pillow and tries to get me to go through to the spare room with him for sex. I say no, I'm shattered, he reeks of booze and is drunk. He told me to, "fuck off" then collapsed onto the bed snoring loudly.
I move him to spare room, away from the kids.
6:30 - the kids are up and full of beans. I'm up have given them breakfast. The older one is upset because she doesn't know where my present is to give to me.
8:30 and he still won't get up and hasn't given them the presents to give to me. I now have two sad kids who want to give me a brilliant birthday and I am exhausted.
I suppose I will have to just suck it up when he does finally decide to get up for the kids sake. I want them to be able to give me my present as they wish. I think they have made me something! After that though, I'm taking the kids out and he isn't welcome today.
To top it all, yesterday was our 20th anniversary too.
Most of the time my h is lovely and thoughtful. Every so often he acts like an arsehole though. If I say anything I'm apparently just nagging.
Happy fucking birthday to me.
DrHorribletookmycherry · 29/07/2017 08:37
Just grab the kids and go out. You'll only get pissed off waiting for the oh so charming drunken arse to deign you with his presence. Hopefully demanding sex and then swearing when you say no wasn't your anniversary/ birthday gift. He sounds a delight. Well done there.
Gizlotsmum · 29/07/2017 08:38
Oh no. Happy Birthday ( and Anniversary) I would get the kids ready, go out and tell them you will do presents when you get back...it'll still be your birthday ;) that should cheer them up and let (d?)h realise what an arse he has been. Lovely day here ( hope it is with you).
sparkleandsunshine · 29/07/2017 08:43
Another vote for taking the kids out now and having a fabulous day!! And be nice and loud and bang about whilst you get ready!!
Don't wait around for him, it'll just piss you off even more.
Sorry about your anniversary OP, and I'd be really upset about birthday too, it's not nagging, this is hurtful x
mysteryfairy · 29/07/2017 08:44
Happy birthday from me anyway.
You're not unreasonable to be pissed off at all but I would make the best of it for yourself and your DC. Tell them you are really excited to open your presents and have cake later on and go out for the day. If he has any sense he will surface at some point and make an effort for your return. He really would not be good company if he got up now so tell yourself it's for the best he hasn't. .
sparklybuttired · 29/07/2017 08:46
Happy birthday to you !!
I've been there where you are my husband is adorable and love him to bits and all my friends comment on how good he is but frankly he can be a self absorbed twat at times xxx
Fuck him off today ... frankly he shouldn't have gone out the night before you're birthday it's very selfish....
Please make him suffer is start hoovering now around the bed tell him you have your birthday treat tomorrow demand a sleep in and some time for you !!
Crunchymum · 29/07/2017 08:52
The million dollar questions are a) is this a usual occurrence? b) how is your relationship in general? Because he sounds like an absolute cunt from your first post.
I'd do something nice with the kids this morning, let them know they can give you your gift later.
It's awful behaviour without it being your anniversary and birthday OP, I hope you manage to salvage the day for you and the kids.
As an aside I am flabbergasted you have even asked the question about being pissed off. Of course you aren't being unreasonable - why would you think you are?
JaneEyre70 · 29/07/2017 08:55
Don't make your birthday about him. Get up, get dressed and do something really nice with your family/friends and the kids. Preferably funded from his wallet. He's chosen to behave like this, and tbh it's pretty piss poor. He knew it was your birthday, but is happy to ruin your day. Don't give him that satisfaction. Happy Birthday and hope you have a lovely day.
Smeaton · 29/07/2017 08:56
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embo1 · 29/07/2017 08:57
Don't let your poor kids feel upset!
Have a fab day out with them, let your battery run flat and come back in time for him to give them dinner and go out with some friends. If he's only going to say you nag, don't bring it up with him - actions speak louder than words. Let him know he has the kids all day tomorrow and book yourself a spa day!
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