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AIBU?

Happy fucking birthday to me

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Anaffaquine123 · 29/07/2017 08:34

AIBU to be pissed off? My h, not dh right now, went out yesterday afternoon for work drinks. I did stuff with the kids. It was hot, they found it difficult to get to sleep and ended up in our bed with me. The three year old performing bloody somersaults, kicking me in the head. I had very little sleep. I was either putting them back to bed like boomerangs or being kicked in the head.
H gets home at 3:30am and says, "what? I'm home aren't i. It isn't even late!"
I rolled my eyes too knackered to respond.
He grabs my pillow and tries to get me to go through to the spare room with him for sex. I say no, I'm shattered, he reeks of booze and is drunk. He told me to, "fuck off" then collapsed onto the bed snoring loudly.
I move him to spare room, away from the kids.
6:30 - the kids are up and full of beans. I'm up have given them breakfast. The older one is upset because she doesn't know where my present is to give to me.
8:30 and he still won't get up and hasn't given them the presents to give to me. I now have two sad kids who want to give me a brilliant birthday and I am exhausted.
I suppose I will have to just suck it up when he does finally decide to get up for the kids sake. I want them to be able to give me my present as they wish. I think they have made me something! After that though, I'm taking the kids out and he isn't welcome today.
To top it all, yesterday was our 20th anniversary too.
Most of the time my h is lovely and thoughtful. Every so often he acts like an arsehole though. If I say anything I'm apparently just nagging.
Happy fucking birthday to me.

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DrHorribletookmycherry · 29/07/2017 08:37

Just grab the kids and go out. You'll only get pissed off waiting for the oh so charming drunken arse to deign you with his presence. Hopefully demanding sex and then swearing when you say no wasn't your anniversary/ birthday gift. He sounds a delight. Well done there.

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Gizlotsmum · 29/07/2017 08:38

Oh no. Happy Birthday ( and Anniversary) I would get the kids ready, go out and tell them you will do presents when you get back...it'll still be your birthday ;) that should cheer them up and let (d?)h realise what an arse he has been. Lovely day here ( hope it is with you).

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NoddysBell · 29/07/2017 08:39

Go out, leave him to it. Have a lovely day with the kids and treat yourselves. Happy birthday anyway!πŸŽ‰πŸΎ

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Marmalady75 · 29/07/2017 08:40

Go out before he gets up and tell the kids they can give you the present later. Go do something fun that will take your mind off the crap start to your birthday.

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kate20091985 · 29/07/2017 08:40

Sorry but he sounds like a dick. I also wouldn't wait for him to get up. I'd tell the kids you're excited to open your presents later, but you're going out for a fun day first (minis dickhead husband obviously)

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MummyPigLovesAppleSauce · 29/07/2017 08:41

Oh fuck him. Go out with the kids and have a lovely time without the selfish arse. Then while you're out, txt some mates and arrange something for fun for next weekend, and he can have the kids.

Happy Birthday Chick WineCakeFlowersGin

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mumnyorks · 29/07/2017 08:41

Go and have a great time without him. Happy birthday. He doesn't deserve youCake

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Therealslimshady1 · 29/07/2017 08:41

Just go out

And from now on, don't let the kids "sleep" in your bed if it means you get no sleep

Go out and treat yourself and have a nice day

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Bluerose27 · 29/07/2017 08:42

Happy birthday Cake

Like pps said, take the kids out - pancakes for breakfast? Enjoy your morning.

Sorry your husband has chosen this weekend to be a total dick Angry

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sparkleandsunshine · 29/07/2017 08:43

Another vote for taking the kids out now and having a fabulous day!! And be nice and loud and bang about whilst you get ready!!
Don't wait around for him, it'll just piss you off even more.
Sorry about your anniversary OP, and I'd be really upset about birthday too, it's not nagging, this is hurtful x

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Dragonflycushion · 29/07/2017 08:43

Yup. Go out.

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mysteryfairy · 29/07/2017 08:44

Happy birthday from me anyway.

You're not unreasonable to be pissed off at all but I would make the best of it for yourself and your DC. Tell them you are really excited to open your presents and have cake later on and go out for the day. If he has any sense he will surface at some point and make an effort for your return. He really would not be good company if he got up now so tell yourself it's for the best he hasn't. .

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Pollydonia · 29/07/2017 08:45

Happy Birthday op, leave the childish prick in bed and go out with your DC .

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OnePlanOnHouzz · 29/07/2017 08:45

🎢 happy birthday to you,
🎢 happy birthday to you,
🎢 happy birthday dear Anaf !!!!
🎢 happy birthday to you !!!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚

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Dragonflycushion · 29/07/2017 08:45

And what will you do about him telling you to fuck off when you won't have sex with him?

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sparklybuttired · 29/07/2017 08:46

Happy birthday to you !!

I've been there where you are my husband is adorable and love him to bits and all my friends comment on how good he is but frankly he can be a self absorbed twat at times xxx

Fuck him off today ... frankly he shouldn't have gone out the night before you're birthday it's very selfish....

Please make him suffer is start hoovering now around the bed tell him you have your birthday treat tomorrow demand a sleep in and some time for you !!

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sandgrown · 29/07/2017 08:47

Go out and have a nice day. Tell the kids you can do presents later. When he rings you remind him he is making you a birthday dinner and putting the kids to bed. Happy Birthday CakeFlowers

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MrsMozart · 29/07/2017 08:48

Tell him to piss off.

Happy Birthday lass Flowers

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Tweennightmare · 29/07/2017 08:50

Yes definately go out head to the nicest cake shop you have and have some yummy cake and coffee with the kids. This is your day make sure you have a fab one. Happy Birthday

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Crunchymum · 29/07/2017 08:52

The million dollar questions are a) is this a usual occurrence? b) how is your relationship in general? Because he sounds like an absolute cunt from your first post.

I'd do something nice with the kids this morning, let them know they can give you your gift later.

It's awful behaviour without it being your anniversary and birthday OP, I hope you manage to salvage the day for you and the kids.

As an aside I am flabbergasted you have even asked the question about being pissed off. Of course you aren't being unreasonable - why would you think you are?

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JaneEyre70 · 29/07/2017 08:55

Don't make your birthday about him. Get up, get dressed and do something really nice with your family/friends and the kids. Preferably funded from his wallet. He's chosen to behave like this, and tbh it's pretty piss poor. He knew it was your birthday, but is happy to ruin your day. Don't give him that satisfaction. Happy Birthday and hope you have a lovely day.

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Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 29/07/2017 08:56

Happy birthday πŸŽ‚ to you. Get the kids ready and go out ASAP. He'll wake up and realise he's been a monumental dick and hopefully grovel, grovel and grovel some more.

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Smeaton · 29/07/2017 08:56

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embo1 · 29/07/2017 08:57

Don't let your poor kids feel upset!
Have a fab day out with them, let your battery run flat and come back in time for him to give them dinner and go out with some friends. If he's only going to say you nag, don't bring it up with him - actions speak louder than words. Let him know he has the kids all day tomorrow and book yourself a spa day!

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Needsomeflapjacks · 29/07/2017 09:00

Why was he out for drinks on your anniversary???

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