AIBU to be pissed off? My h, not dh right now, went out yesterday afternoon for work drinks. I did stuff with the kids. It was hot, they found it difficult to get to sleep and ended up in our bed with me. The three year old performing bloody somersaults, kicking me in the head. I had very little sleep. I was either putting them back to bed like boomerangs or being kicked in the head.
H gets home at 3:30am and says, "what? I'm home aren't i. It isn't even late!"
I rolled my eyes too knackered to respond.
He grabs my pillow and tries to get me to go through to the spare room with him for sex. I say no, I'm shattered, he reeks of booze and is drunk. He told me to, "fuck off" then collapsed onto the bed snoring loudly.
I move him to spare room, away from the kids.
6:30 - the kids are up and full of beans. I'm up have given them breakfast. The older one is upset because she doesn't know where my present is to give to me.
8:30 and he still won't get up and hasn't given them the presents to give to me. I now have two sad kids who want to give me a brilliant birthday and I am exhausted.
I suppose I will have to just suck it up when he does finally decide to get up for the kids sake. I want them to be able to give me my present as they wish. I think they have made me something! After that though, I'm taking the kids out and he isn't welcome today.
To top it all, yesterday was our 20th anniversary too.
Most of the time my h is lovely and thoughtful. Every so often he acts like an arsehole though. If I say anything I'm apparently just nagging.
Happy fucking birthday to me.
AIBU?
Happy fucking birthday to me
Anaffaquine123 · 29/07/2017 08:34
Happy Birthday to you! 
Have a lovely day out with the kids and leave him to sleep it off. If he's a good bloke he'll feel like shit! And hopefully make amends. But don't let him ruin your day!
A bit early but cheers! 
VERB
nagging (present participle)
harass (someone) constantly to do something that they are averse to:
As you can see, telling him he's an arsehole and treating him as such is not nagging. He's not averse to being an arsehole, he is a fucking arsehole!
Take the kids out and enjoy your day with them. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Anna' HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU 
Go out somewhere nice with the kids for brunch! Somewhere expensive & take dh's plastic to pay for it 
I agree with Smeaton I wouldn't be able to forive that.
My husband left me right before our 15th anniversary and just before I was due to go into hospital for a major operation so I had to ring round ALL my friends and cancel the party and get a £50 taxi to hospital with the zero money in the bank account he had left me.
One year later he is begging to come home becasue his new life didn't work out. Fucking tough mate.
How hard is it to celebrate your 20th anniversary and your wife's birthday gracefully without being a twat. I'd dump him personally.
I hope you manage to have some good times today and happy birthday
Let us know how this unfolds, I am dying to know.
Happy birthday
I'll join the chorus. Go do something you will really enjoy and that means you get to enjoy your kids today. Leave dh to it.
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Happy Birthday! Hope you have a lovely day with the kids!
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