Happy fucking birthday to me

[Anaffaquine123]

AIBU to be pissed off? My h, not dh right now, went out yesterday afternoon for work drinks. I did stuff with the kids. It was hot, they found it difficult to get to sleep and ended up in our bed with me. The three year old performing bloody somersaults, kicking me in the head. I had very little sleep. I was either putting them back to bed like boomerangs or being kicked in the head.
H gets home at 3:30am and says, "what? I'm home aren't i. It isn't even late!"
I rolled my eyes too knackered to respond.
He grabs my pillow and tries to get me to go through to the spare room with him for sex. I say no, I'm shattered, he reeks of booze and is drunk. He told me to, "fuck off" then collapsed onto the bed snoring loudly.
I move him to spare room, away from the kids.
6:30 - the kids are up and full of beans. I'm up have given them breakfast. The older one is upset because she doesn't know where my present is to give to me.
8:30 and he still won't get up and hasn't given them the presents to give to me. I now have two sad kids who want to give me a brilliant birthday and I am exhausted.
I suppose I will have to just suck it up when he does finally decide to get up for the kids sake. I want them to be able to give me my present as they wish. I think they have made me something! After that though, I'm taking the kids out and he isn't welcome today.
To top it all, yesterday was our 20th anniversary too.
Most of the time my h is lovely and thoughtful. Every so often he acts like an arsehole though. If I say anything I'm apparently just nagging.
Happy fucking birthday to me.

[StormTreader]

How is 3.30am "not late"??

[Aeroflotgirl]

Exactly Morris, that is not fun at all. I would leave him with the kids and go out myself, providing he is in reasonable condition.

[Thesingingtoad]

Not a stalker I promise, but I think I remember you from someone else's threads and aren't your IL's shitty to you - maybe when your Dh is drunk he reverts to learned behaviour from his family.

[Huskylover1]

How is 3.30am "not late"??

I was wondering this also! If his "normal" is getting in at say, 6/7am, I would think there is OW somewhere actually. Which would explain his avoidance of an anniversary dinner.

[AdalindSchade]

Getting in at 6/7 probably means an alcohol or drug problem rather than an OW

[SherbrookeFosterer]

Park your thoughts, but you are not in a good place, alas.

I hope it all gets better for you.