To take my son on holiday with my partner

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Taking my 3 year old on holiday next year, I've been with my partner for over a year and we have a child together. I've just told my ex that I'll be taking our son on holiday and have been told that I'm majorly BU!
Am I?

No of course not! (Unless you have some legal agreement that states you can't take him out of his DF's care or out of the country) Happy hols !

I've been in the same situation. I've been with my partner since my DS was little and we have a child. We also all live together and leaving DS out could cause resentment or him feeling like he's been pushed out. I wouldn't really like my exDP and his gf to take DS away but realise I have to suck it up. YANBU

No legal agreement or any court orders in place or anything like that
He's proper made me feel like shit for this

His reply
"Na you get a grip B is nothing to our son but someone who stays in his house so stop getting him involved. I wouldn't take our son on holiday with anyone but me but pointless telling you because you won't respect my feelings"

* partner isn't called B, changed for the thread of course *

I take it he's never taken your 3 yr old on holiday or has plans to do so then? Or is his nose just out of joint because you seem to have moved on with your life fairly swiftly after him?

He thinks you are being unreasonable for taking your own three year old on holiday!

Tell him you did plan on leaving him home alone while you go and enjoy yourself but he can't quite reach the fridge yet.

YANBU but I can understand that your ex feels sad at the thought.

You can't argue with crazy. Just nod and smile at him.

Is your EX named on the child's birth certificate? You may need his written permission to take DC out of the country.

But no, of course you aren't being UR to take your child on holiday with someone who I assume is living with you and he knows well.

No he won't take our son on holiday, I remember I wanted to but his words were "it'll be too hard to take a child in a pram to another country" he also doesn't have a passport and I've just applied for my sons
I realise he feels sad but he can't take this out on me surely? I've bent over backwards so much for him and now this I'm sick of it

"Na you get a grip B is nothing to our son but someone who stays in his house so stop getting him involved

And your son's sibling's father.

I wouldn't take our son on holiday with anyone but me

So he says now. Wait until he's loved up.

YANBU.

there could be an issue taking your DS against your ex's wishes, assuming he has PR and you are taking him abroad..

You can apply to court..He would have to show reason why not and would look stupid in reality.

I have took my DS abroad 4 times with no issue however I have no contact with Ex for him to consent.

He will consent eventually, he will just sulk and get annoyed at me for days
I am already aware that I may need his permission

So I'm not BU?
This is also the same guy that wanted to come over on Christmas morning and watch our son open the presents that me and my partner had got because he doesn't believe in buying a child so young presents

I don't think he's BU. Youve rushed into a new life and within a year your first son has new man and sibling to contend with. Most wouldn't want that for their child as you can't know a person within three months to decide they are good enough to be a parent.

He can't control much so maybe he is doing so on the elements he can.

Well OP is talking about taking him on holiday next year so that is another year to decide if it's right for the child.

Yeah it is abroad, my partner has been living with us since September and my son couldn't love him more! They have a bond that even I'm envious of!
It may have been rushed but that isn't what I'm asking about and do not want judgement on

"You denied your son a right to a family holiday when you broke up his actual family" that's what my ex is saying
I cbf with this

Have you got a residency order? if you are the resident parent, you don't need his permission

"Do I need permission to take my child on holiday outside of England and Wales?
You require the permission of all those with parental responsibility or permission from the court before you can take a child under 16 out of England and Wales. For more information on whose consent is required see our information page on Parental Responsibility.

If you are named as the person that the child lives with under a Child Arrangements Order or a Residence Order then you may take your child out of England and Wales for up to 28 days without the consent of others with parental responsibility. If you hold a Special Guardianship Order for the child then you can take the child out of England and Wales for up to three months without the consent of others with parental responsibility. The only exception to both of these is if there is a Prohibited Steps Order in place preventing you from removing the child from the jurisdiction."

childlawadvice.org.uk/information-pages/taking-a-child-on-holiday/

No judge would rule against you taking your child, your Ex would be wasting his own money to attempt a PSO.

"I'll let you tak3 him on holiday if I get him on Christmas. Why should you get to take him and another child on holiday and have Christmas with him"
I'm going to hav3 to take this through court arejt i