To take my son on holiday with my partner

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Taking my 3 year old on holiday next year, I've been with my partner for over a year and we have a child together. I've just told my ex that I'll be taking our son on holiday and have been told that I'm majorly BU!
Am I?

You sound like a child all this all day/ half day christmas whining!

Yes it is very quick to have met and had a baby with someone else. A lot of women only think of introducing new partners to children after careful dating of a year or so.

That's nice that they do that beep, I didn't. So what?
How long do we now have to be together before ex won't have a problem with it. Considering we are looking at marriage before 2020. Its a relationship that will last, if I wasn't sure of it I wouldn't have introduced my son to h8m

Op - you sound like a child.

Reading threads like this really does make the mind boggle.

Honesty op you are rushing into relationships, getting pregnant by people you dont know. This is not appropriate behaviour to raise children. You didnt know your ex when you got pregnant and you didnt know your currently oh when you got pregnant. You still have not known him long enough to have a good idea of who he is.

You might benefit from some counselling addressing why you feel the need to have a man all the time. It is probably what is making you make unwise choices, rather than being a little more choosy.

Whether youd only get a small amount or not seriously gonthrough cms. It send your ex a clear message that you wont be fucked with at the very least.

If he pulls crap like collecting your child early again you say a firm no and close the door. Or just dont open it.

I'm sure you thought your relationship with the ex would last too, didn't you? If not you need to rethink who you have kids with.

He should let you take the child on holiday. Much like you should let him if he wants to. If he is reliable the starting point is that you both have equal entitlement to time with him, present or no present.

I think I would back out of the argument with him right now about either the holiday or Christmas. He's just doing it to wind you up, so don't give him that satisfaction. Discuss Christmas on its own and don't even mention a summer holiday until Christmas is over and done with...

Oh, and I'd ignore the posters judging your new relationship on here. Some posters seem to love trying to put people down and show how morally better they think they are.

Count, I've known this guy longer than I've known my ex. I've known him for 7 years. We were friends before

Your ex sounds like a piss poor excuse for a father OP. Any chance you can get access and CM sorted on a legal basis?

Count, I've known this guy longer than I've known my ex. I've known him for 7 years. We were friends before

We all know how this relationship is going to unfold.

Why do we know that? Is no woman allowed to make an unwise first choice and then turn to a man she has known long enough to know he is more reliable?

I find it quite touching how eager posters are to believe that the man who raped his sleeping mother only has the little boy's best interests at heart. Way to show it.

Really you know how it's going to unfold? Because me and my dp have been through 2 miscarriages, a house move, a new baby in a year and we are stronger than ever. I love him more every single bloody day. I can't believe that I've got so lucky. Whatever you think of my posting style whether it's child like or not doesn't give you a right to come along and be rude about my relationship. Or suggest I need counselling the only counselling I could ever need is to work out, why I was the one my ex chose to abuse. Why did I deserve to be his punch bag? Why has he allowed me to believe it was all my fault. Or the time He claimed I had dreamt it!
If you're going to try and pluck facts of failing relationship out of thin air then I'll get the post taken down because that's not what I'm asking for