To ask what age you consider to be socially acceptable to have a baby these days?!
campino · 26/07/2017 22:50
I'm currently pregnant with my first and from chatting with my 24yo sister today I was shocked when she told me how many of her school friends have had babies of their own already. Not a bad thing by any means but thought it'd be interesting hearing your opinions on what age it goes from "OMG 'X' is pregnant" to "how lovely 'X' is pregnant!"
IcingSausage · 26/07/2017 23:03
I don't think of it as an age thing so much as an individual/personality thing. My sister had a baby at 18 and was/still is, a wonderful mum.
A friend I've know since primary school who's now 34 just announced she's pregnant and my reaction was 'OMG X IS PREGNANT'. She's just not someone I can imagine with a baby. But I'm sure she'll be great in reality.
missymayhemsmum · 26/07/2017 23:14
it depends. Round here most of the kids will be at Nana's 40th birthday party. In polite, middle class john lewis shopping circles 30-35 is customary. It also depends on circumstances, surely. A wedding is generally regarded as notice that you intend to procreate forthwith, announcing pregnancy without having permanent relationship/home/income sorted assumed to be unexpected/ problematic at any age.
MelinaMercury · 26/07/2017 23:14
I had a kid in school by the time I was your sisters age, he's a bit odd but generally alive and thriving well :o
In my hometown it's almost normal to have a baby (or 2) by 18 but where I live now it's probably more accepted around 21.
Personally I'd rather my kids waited until 25+ but if the parents are responsible and willing to put their kids wellbeing first then I don't think it matters.
BackforGood · 26/07/2017 23:42
It's more about 'stage' than 'age'.
If you left school and went to work at 16, or 18, you are at a different stage of your life aged 20/21 from your peers who are at University at that age.
If you are in a steady relationship and have been living with your partner for some years, you are in a differnt 'stage' from someone (who could be years older) who met their partner 2 months ago, or, who might have been seeing each other for a while but who live apart.
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