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Parking wars - on my own drive !

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AlphaBites · 26/07/2017 14:34

I know the rules, diagram is attached. 😉

I'm on half days this week and have just got home to find a car in my driveway. As we are a corner house we have two driveways, big enough for one car each. Parking is really tight around here and permit only too. Opposite us is 8 terraced houses with no allocated parking, so quite often they either park in their garages or in the handful or visitor bays opposite my place but in front of theirs. My front drive is VERY clearly my driveway.

Cheeky Fucker Neighbour (CFN) runs a business from home which involves a lot of clients coming and going from her house throughout the day (pet groomer) and he employs two people to help.

I came home today to find a car in my drive which was not DHs. So I park down the side (pink section) of the house on the road where neighbours park their cars. I go and knock on several doors to find out who it belongs too, turns out it's one of the employees who is staying for a little while longer (P/T). "But I'll only be another hour, so I'll move it then." I reply "No, move it now please as I have to unload my car." Person refuses and I end up leaving telling them to move it within 30 minutes.

That was an hour ago and when I knock on the door there is no answer.

My next door neighbour has just told me that this car is on either my front drive or rear drive each morning ! When he questioned them about it, apparently CFN has said it's OK for them to park there and they have cleared it with us. No they bloody haven't!

Thing is this went on last year but after words it sooner stopped but obviously they are doing it again.

I'm sat here glaring out my front window waiting for the fucker to move his car then we will have words. I would block it in, but the road is only wide enough for one car so would block the road.

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strawberrygate · 26/07/2017 16:52

neutrogena she went to have a calm civilised word asnd the cheeky fucker refused to move. Most people would lose their rag at that. why should they get yet another chance?

Goodythreeshoes · 26/07/2017 16:52

Wow. What time is your DH due home OP? Have you warned him about the shenanigans?

Goingtobeawesome · 26/07/2017 16:52

I can't believe some people. Good luck OP and yay for supportive NDN.

DigitalGhost · 26/07/2017 16:52

Not to sound overly extreme but you could always smear some poop on the door handle....Grin

peggyundercrackers · 26/07/2017 16:53

write DICKHEAD on his car window with oil or grease - it doesn't come off. cover his car with eggs and then flour, write on the windows with lipstick, block him in. superglue in his door locks. superglue the caps on his valves on so if he needs to blow up his tyres he wont get them off. run a bead of liquid chocolate along his window wipers - it will smear when he puts his wipers on.

park on the drive and not move the car -erm no... it aint gonna happen.

MyCalmX · 26/07/2017 16:53

The fucking cheek of some people Shock

IdentifiesAsYoda · 26/07/2017 16:53

Neutrogena

I agree

But i think there's a way of confronting this that doesn't involve or provoke rage. Humour?

From that point of view, an impromptu picnic, with big smiles, bunting and offers of lemonade to the CF as they come and retrieve their car, might be the thing

Meanwhile, this is kind of fun...

Neutrogena · 26/07/2017 16:56

I don't think there needs to be a big song and dance.
They will move their car, then have a word with the neighbour.
Don't get all shitty and eggy and resentful.
Resentment is you drinking a poison and hoping someone else gets sick. It's a harful, destructive, and unproductive feeling.

alfagirl73 · 26/07/2017 16:56

Excellent blockade OP! Loving your approach! Keep us updated!

lucydogz · 26/07/2017 16:57

much as I'm loving this thread Neutrogena is right.

monkeyfacegrace · 26/07/2017 16:58

I need an actual photo please.

Groovee · 26/07/2017 16:58

Brilliant bollard OP. Good for you! Love the fact that NDN is keeping shottie too.

I'd be finding out if the business has an email address and sending an email informing CFN that as he had never cleared it with you, your driveway is NOT for parking in unless he's paying you £100 ph to rent it and enclose a rental agreement!

IdentifiesAsYoda · 26/07/2017 16:59

Neutrogena

Alright mum Grin

I do enjoy a good revenge fantasy though

PavlovianLunge · 26/07/2017 17:01

Just leave it - I'm sure they will move their car soon and won't park there again.
Have a NICE AND CIVILISED word with the neighbour about parking on your drives. Make it clear that no-one is to park there, but be gracious, calm and cordial.

Unless I've misread the thread, the OP's neighbour has said that the parking is a regular, if not daily occurrence. And the OP HAS tried the NICE AND CIVILISED word, which worked, until it didn't.

The CFN is completely out of order, and his inconsiderate employee needs something more than a nice and civilised approach.

EscapingAdultLife · 26/07/2017 17:01

Neutrogena.... I'm wondering if you park on many people's drives or are you the CFN?

I'd be pissed off... OP has paid for those driveways as part of her home purchase whiec I'll presume cost a lot more than CFN's house

alfagirl73 · 26/07/2017 17:02

Neutrogena - I agree in general about taking a more reasonable and calm approach... however in this case, the OP not only has spoken to the driver of the vehicle who refused to move the car, but she HAS previously had discussions with the neighbour about using the driveway without permission - and the neighbour has apparently been continuing to use it and lying about having permission to do so. Seems to me the OP has been more than reasonable and patient... at what point does "being reasonable" cross the line into "being taken for a mug"? The neighbour clearly doesn't care about doing the right thing or about behaving in an appropriate manner. Seems to me that any discussions with the neighbour are a bit pointless - the neighbour says one thing and does the complete opposite.

Marmalady75 · 26/07/2017 17:03

I love the idea of you setting up a deckchair or a picnic at the end of your drive 😂

tam23 · 26/07/2017 17:03

I'd contact the council and see if they're allowed to run a business from the house. Someone did this to my step dad and he had to buy a business premisis as he wasn't allowed to run a business from his house.

PurpleDragon76 · 26/07/2017 17:03

Screw the rational posters! This is war. We all have to give so much in so many area's why shouldn't our home, our land be exactly that and no be there for the ease of others. Hope the fecker learns his lesson OP

I applaud the use of bollards. Bravo!

peggyundercrackers · 26/07/2017 17:03

does your CFN have a facebook page? get on there and give him dogs abuse.

IdentifiesAsYoda · 26/07/2017 17:04

Escaping

That's unlikely to be true

It's possible to hold a different viewpoint about how to deal with someone who has pissed you off, without being the one doing the pissing off (and whilst also acknowledging that the other person is in the wrong)

Motoko · 26/07/2017 17:04

Nice and civilised doesn't work with cheeky fuckers.

SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 26/07/2017 17:04

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CauliflowerSqueeze · 26/07/2017 17:06

Just looked on Amazon - loads of parking bollards for sale. I'd invest.

guinnessgirl · 26/07/2017 17:06

I like the idea of putting something sticky on the barrier. It's just the right level of retribution without doing anything ott or potentially legally dodgy. Enough to make them realise they've been a cheeky fucker, but not excessive.

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