To think that I don't have to style my hair every day for dp!

[toughasnailz]

I've come back after work where I wore a cap as had been swimming with my mindees!

Dp as usual when my hair isn't styled non stop complained about it to me since the minute I walked in the door. Now, I do style my hair, but with the young kids, there just wasn't time after swimming and there were more important things to do.

This happens any day of the week and tonight I've just had enough of it and told him that I couldn't be bothered to listen to him any more! I've said that it's ridiculous that I get all his grief on how my hair is and that I can't just not to it any day of the week, even Sundays! Because of him!

I'm usually a very quiet person, but ffs, I'm tired, and I'm trying to cook our meal and leave me alone!!

My aibu is that this is very out of character for me, was I being unreasonable to be so rude to him?

@iwannapuppy and a make up artist!!

He is being ridiculous.

I had an ex who used to criticise my appearance and once had a go at me for leaving the house with wet / unstyled hair as it didn't look good

That was just one sign that he was a dickhead who wanted to control me....

Needless to say I soon saw the light and kicked him to the curb.

I am now married to a lovely man who loves me for who I am - and still loved me when I was in hospital after an accident with a smashed up face and hair that hadn't been washed or styled.

This type of behaviour would be a massive red flag to me personally

@britnay Hahahaha. It'll be his Christmas present 😂

@U2HasTheEdge Yea we have a 5 year old ds who I do 90% of the hands on care for

I don't say this lightly but I would honestly question if this is someone who deserves your time. He sounds awful and I could not tolerate that behaviour for a day let alone the rest of my life.

If my DH asked me to do my hair I'd definitely have to do it....

.. but i'd make myself look like some batshit bitch with an 80's style. I'd add some horrific eye shadow to go with it and happily go out in public showing off my new look to piss the penis right off.

Buy him an old fashioned girls' world toy and let him play with that.

Sorry you are with a dick OP.

I don't blame you for telling him to fuck off! Yesterday I had a no makeup day and if DH had even mentioned it I would've lost it!

Haha mamabae!

Tell him you're thinking about shaving your head because the comments are drivin you mad. Then proceed to look through old photos of Britney Spears on the internet.

If DH did this to me I'd actually stand in front of him and cut a massive chunk off I'm not high maintenance at all can you tell? and walk off.

You do realise he doesn't own you?

And while you're threatening the shave, get one of those fake bald head wigs just to see the look on his face.

Seriously though, I would have snapped a long time ago. He's a knob.

@gamerchick I have enough anger about it now that I would literally just shave big chunks out of it to make the point

Yea we have a 5 year old ds who I do 90% of the hands on care for

What exactly is the appeal of this man? What do you get in return? You work full time in a stressful job, do most of the childcare and I'll bet most if not all of the cooking and cleaning and you have to look like a show pony whilst doing it all?

'Oh you look nice today'

Is the extent of dh's comments on my appearance. OK he also says 'foxy chick' but nobody's perfect

Do you criticise his appearance? Stop, if so. If you love him, tell him if he can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all.

I would ask him what's with his obsession with my hair?
Does he obsess with his own hair?

If not just say you have an unhealthy interest in my hair, how or when I choose to style my hair is down to me and only me so do shut the fuck up.

Why are you with him?
He sounds a prize cock head.

People will call me extreme for telling you to leave him, but ...

I just cannot imagine him being a decent person. Just can't. The entitled attitude that is required to say such a thing in the first place ... I just can't.

Definitely don't have another child with him. Put yourself in a situation where you can walk out of the door with a suitcase and your son, and know exactly where to go.

Then, when he next annoys you, do exactly that.

So you're working 12 hour days, doing 90pc care for a child and you're not having perfect hair and make up at all waking hours? The 1950's called, they want their "brush your hair and put on lipstick when your husband is on his way home" attitude back.

Wow. Most men wouldn't have a clue whether you have make-up on or not. I do wear make-up every day, for myself, as I feel washed out otherwise, but DH can't even tell the difference. Why does he even notice these things? Very odd.
I presume he is immaculate at all times?

He sounds like a twat!! Be with someone who tells you you're beautiful when you first wake up of a morning

Dye it pink then point out how much effort you've gone to with your hair just for him. Or a Mohawk, cornrows, dreads...

No wonder you don't have the time or inclination to mess with your hair and make up if you are working, doing the majority of childcare and the home. What does your DH do? And tell him you will do your hair how you like it not him!

He is rude and unsupportive of the great things you are doing
How does his hair look when he has taken kids swimming etc ?