To wish the world was more autism friendly?

[Tobythecat]

I wish for the following -

• dimmed lighting in all supermarkets shops and offices

-neutral packaging with no patterns in shops and supermarkets

• every road or busy side road to have a crossing
• Easily read signs to helps with finding your way around
• Phone calls not allowed on public transport unless an emergency
• No loud chatting on the bus and giggling like a banshee

-Autism-friendly jobs (perhaps linked to individuals special interest)

• Autism rooms in shops/supermarkets to retreat to if feeling overwhelmed

-No music in shops -Loud people must be fitted with a volume control device, and if they exceed the limit, they get hit on the head

• People who beep their car horns to greet friends on the street/road should have their horn removed and wear a t-shirt that says I am a twat.

Feel free to add your own!

Thornyrosie I think the issue there was that no support was given to the child to go on the ferry. It was NOT the fault of the child. And it still makes your 'blood boil' to this day? That is a disgusting attitude to have

No rightknockered it was not the ferry, it was the whole trip. And why is it disgusting to believe everyone has rights, not just those with extra needs? I do believe that we should be an iclusive society, but it should NOT be a case of the abe bodied and those without special needs being given no consideration at all surely?

Thorny, given what you wrote I very much doubt you have any understanding of how difficult it must be.

What a bloody shameful attitude to have. You'd rather a disabled child be left out so your kid got the fun of going on a ferry. If going on a ferry matters so much to you that you're still resentful of a disabled child 20 years on, take him on a bloody ferry yourself. You disgust me.

I Just wish the world was a more friendly place in general....My dc is not autistic but i like some of the ideas!

I hae an autistic nephew (who I love very much) and my DH has Aspergers, so I do think I understand totally, but none of my family believe the whole world should revolve around just the needs of my nephow or my DH

Thorny Perhaps you'd like to think again.

If that is still upsetting you after 20 years you have had a piss easy life. Be grateful.

IT WASN;T THE FUCKING FERRY ...it was the whole trip, the ferry would have been just a nice extra. The centre they shoudl ahve gone to did a lot of physical activity... the place they ended up at wasn;t at all the same

My dd once cried all the way home from school because the grass was too green! I have just checked with her (she's 20 now) apparently grass is fine, but she'd like no music and no televisions in restaurants please and libraries to be a wee bit more accepting of some low level noise!

It is just not possible to include everyone all the time, end of

the place they ended up at wasn;t at all the same
So? You surely had the choice of taking your child on that sort of trip another time. A choice that the parent of the child with a disability didn't have.

So may be on that occasion your child's wants were less important.

No unwritten rules; such as you're supposed to be on time for a children's party, but you're supposed to be late for other parties. (I was so shocked when I learned this!)

None of those cheery "Welcome to Sainsbury's!" announcements.

spikeball I have a far from piss easy life. I have cancer (incurable), my DH has cancer (curable but treatment is nasty) and my DS2, in his thirties is now being tested for the same bastard shitty disease. So piss easy it aint

A bit more understanding and consideration from people would be nice.

But from OPs list - DS1 has ASD and he is horrifically noisy. He has no concept of volume control. Talks loudly, often shouts, and tends to vocalise loudly at inappropriate times (such as trying to imitate a train whistle while we're in the supermarket). He'd probably be hit over the head constantly if that was a consequence of being too loud.
Ironically, he hates unexpected loud noises.

dawndonnaagain - so you realy feel 32 children should do what suits 1 child? even though it wasn;t THE only trip that school year, and that one child was fully included in the normal day to day stuff as well as days out?

At the moment with my autistic 2.5 year old I'd just ban hand dryers. He's absolutely terrified of them.

Thorny Being angry over something like that from 2 decades ago really isn't healthy, end of.

I'm very sorry about your cancer and that of your family's Thornyrosie
But that doesn't excuse disablism

so you realy feel 32 children should do what suits 1 child?
School trips should include all the class.

Places are gradually coming round to the idea of Autism friendly sessions though aren't they? I think it'd be a great idea if parents and adults with Autism wrote to places with sensible suggestions.
My dad wants to suggest an ASD friendly session on the Santa special train that he volunteers for every year. He doesn't know where to start really though so suggestions would be welcome.

I'd like a noiseless vacuum cleaner and hairdryer