AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

That's what I get for not rttft. Thought you'd been to wilder weddings than me!

Was it Cotton Eye Joe?

Alge it is the public declaration of love that I'm uncomfortable with. The songs were both made up, quite crap and the singers (grooms) were both smuggy attention seekers. (Think Darius in his Britney Spears rendition) In both cases it was a way to spotlight/showcase themselves under the pretence of it being about the bride. It was a great talking point at the wedding though

With cocaine mountains being carried around on trays by little people.

Now that sounds like a wedding!

Pen Pineapple Apple Pen?

Nobody else will remember what you did in your "amazing" choreographed first dance. Nobody but you. So it is very likely that your friend sat there through you and your husband's demo of your dance thinking "oh shit! It's the same one as we've learned". That's exactly what she explained to you. They didn't mean to copy but they obviously had gone to the trouble of learning it too. And if you hadn't got up and done the dance for your friends again, nobody would have known.. (Unless they happen to be a strictly contestant nobody should subject their friends to their formal wedding dance more than once!!)

@belmontian I see, I see. now, tell me, do you really have penis envy and are in love with your Father?

you then regain some Cred with me....

OMG - Margarita Prakata - I loved her!!!!!

I think it's so odd that people are 'literally cringing' at the idea of people (that they don't know) doing a dance at their wedding. Such that they feel that they have to ignore the actual AIBU and comment on what they perceive to be the OP's lack of taste. How strange and how rude.

OP's post was fairly light hearted in tone and simply said she thought is was strange and did people agree?Yet she's been accused of having a 'hissy fit' which she hasn't done in any way.

Is it odd that someone copies your wedding song and dance - IMO yes it is, no idea why anyone would do that, but there's not a lot you can do about it, so I think you have to let it go. Anyone who remembers your dance will think they are weird, which they are.

Was it One Step Beyond?

I doubt the veracity of the OP anyway. Was is that Tally My Bananas one that was in Beetlejuice? Or the Fast Food Song?

I accidentally on purpose got too pissed to do a first dance. The very idea of everyone watching us dance made me want crawl up my own anus and die.

OP, your first post is brilliant

Pen Pineapple Apple Pen?

Algebraic I too have been to a wedding in which an owl was hired to deliver the rings. But it was a barn owl. The church looked like a barn. The owl decided to roost. The rings were stuck in the rafters. We had to wait while the handler called out the owl's name over and over and over and over again. The owl ignored the handler.

footloose

I do agree though, choreographed wedding dance routines are horribly cringe-y, and no matter how amazing you think your dancing was I can guarantee that the majority of people watching you would not remember anything about the routine and probably not the song either. Because for a lot of people it's really just not that interesting. So most people would not have noticed

This ^

Wig wam bam 😀

Achy breaky heart all guests to be versed in the choreography prior to wedding

The Lambada?

Chu Chu Ua?

I've worked out what's happened here! apologies if already mentioned but I'm a bit excited about this theory..

' first dance ' songs are a type aren't they? think ' Don't want to miss a thing ' from Armageddon, or ' Time of my life' from DD. Even the ones you thing are obscure or original choices have probably be done by 100's of couples.

So, you rock up to a dance school or a dance teacher and excitedly reveal your song choice to them, and that you would like a dance routine to it. They Ooh and Ahh and pretend it's really original. They then teach you the dance routine they have taught 50 other couples. It's money for old rope. They can even get away with only having about 4 different routines , tailored to the pace of the song.

Your friends who have 'copied' your song and routine have possibly subconsciously picked the same song as you, and unbeknownst to them have been taught the same routine. Because they can't remember your 1st dance at your wedding ( not unreasonable ) and might not have been paying attention when you and DH cringingly revisited it ( I can imagine other couples thinking ' Oh Jesus, they are in showing off mood again, I'm going in the kitchen/outside/lock myself in the toilet) .

Therefore, you get first dances which aren't original at all!

@chirpyburbycheapsheep the same happened! Luckily they were fake rings