AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

We didn't do a 'first dance' at all and got grumbled at about that too. Honestly, you can't win with weddings - whatever you do there'll be a bunch of people tutting and shaking their heads and complaining you're doing it wrong. May as well enjoy yourself. And if that means a choreographed first dance to Agadoo, go for it

Come to Scotland and have a ceilidh - no first dances (well the grand march but that's ok!) and everyone gets to join in plus there are no cringey arse puckering having to dance while everyone watches situations
Added bonus, you may be knocked unconscious when someone spins you a bit too hard in strip the willow, (that happened to a groom at a wedding I was at) or a random drunk guest may rip off your dancing hoop thingy that's holding up your train (yep, that happened to me so I just swished around instead! Everyone got the fun of avoiding my train for the rest of the dance!) during the dashing white sergeant, but that just adds to the fun! Full disclosure, I was a very chilled bride and laughed at everything that went wrong - I don't get the Bridezilla thing - surely it's about celebrating with your loved ones rather than having everything perfect?
there's a reason we drink, got to be hardy to survive a Scottish wedding !!

YANBU OP, it is a bit strange but they must have gone to the same teacher to have all the steps the same unless it was something like Dirty Dancing or something. I wonder if it was something that she'd wanted to do for a long time and didn't want to change it regardless? If she didn't remember you'd had it as a first dance she must have been a bit gutted to find out.

I love a wedding dance and the more choreographed one is the better. They make me feel so happy. I remember most of my friends' first dances whether they were choreographed or not. I really don't get the whole cringe thing going on here. In fact I don't think I have ever cringed for any of my friends at their weddings about anything apart from shit speeches.

I could also easily see a way in which a group of friends who had had drinks might recreate their first dance for their friend's amusement - sounds hilarious.

Ok, it may well be about sex, but it doesn't sound to me like wanking.
I'd go with drugs (cocaine?) (and sex).

Well OP, at least you got in first with the routine!

But - if you went to lessons to learn it, it wasn't your choreography either - it was someone else's! Obviously you don't have to say which song it was, I'm assuming it's a popular one for first dances and probably does have a routine or choreography associated with it. It does seem unlikely that they have got the routine from watching your version of it once or twice, which makes it more likely that it's a popular one and freely available on YouTube or similar.

DH and I attended a ceiledh wedding in the 90's when every bride had an empire line dress with a wispy chiffon train ala Gwynneth in Emma.

DH who dances like flat foot Floogie broke with his characteristic wedding game plan of guarding the bar so it doesn't run away. And hit the floor. We were half a promenade in when he stepped on the brides wispy train. Never spoken to the happy couple again.

Was it Agadoo. That's the only song insisted was played at my wedding. It wasn't the first dance though (I can't remember what song that was) and DH refused to dance to it.

Agadoo is the best song to dance too. No arguments. I'm right.

Also, I want to get married again so owls can deliver the rings (it will be a Harry Potter themed wedding so very appropriate)

And Don't Stop Me Now is about wanking????!!!

Went to a relative's wedding where they had their two massive dogs in their dance.On their back legs...to a string chamber orchestra.Minuet.

They wore huge beautifully pleated,cream and gold Elisabethan ruffs around their necks.

They were bridal attendants in the Cathedral...

Never heard of a 'copycat'...

You should have gotten up their and done it with them. Bonus points if you can stash a veil in your handbag and put it on just before you start.

Nice work Costa!

Lweji either that's the wrong thread or I missed an interesting page. 😂

OP still don't understand if it was a uniqye dance you had lessons for or whether it was just something like dirty dancing. In that case you can't complain, however if it is the former and they copied a one off routine then you are right to be upset.

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Take it as a compliment.

It really doesn't matter

*unique

TSS - that's fantastic!!!! See, I'd have (and did!) found that funny - but perhaps that bride needed to relax her puckering a tad!!

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!

Don't stop me now is specifically about an orgy in Rio. With cocaine mountains being carried around on trays by little people.

I have never read the word cringe so much in my life though in the interest of full disclosure, I did cringe a wee bit at a best man speech, but only because he told a joke no one got and was clearly very nervous, so I felt bad for him. But cringe in any other way? No, because it's a happy day and I feel honoured to be there.
I love a bit of theatrics, why not include it in a wedding if that's your thing. You (hopefully) only get one!

I nominate this thread for classics, it has made my morning. I'm devastated that i didn't get to see OP's amazing dance. I had no idea people choreographed wedding dances. I hope OP's involved the dancing log from Dirty Dancing

I can imagine the musicians wanting to sing a song to their spouse etc

Seen this in two weddings and I shed tears of embarrassment on both occasions. Bride just had to stand there looking gushing whilst he warbled sang about their undying love.

I would piss myself laughing at any couple who had been invested enough to go and learn an actual dance routine for their wedding dance! So I would have laughed at you both. Surely no one will remember the actual dance you did anyway.

@OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow we briefly strayed on to the subject matter of don't stop me now by Queen if that helps explain the comment!

If they mention it, I'd just laugh and say 'we did it better'

Fuck no. Please don't do this.

The whole thing is a bloody cringe-fest.

You recreated it too for for friends. I hope you were really pissed because if you weren't that is just horrid.

Really @belmontian ? What is it about expressions of love that make you feel uncomfortable?