AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

The very words "wedding dance" make me either cringe, or snigger a little

I do like a wedding though. Although, every single one we have been to, the couple have ended up divorced. Every single one! Interestingly they all had a wedding dance. DH and I didn't, and are still married

I once went to a wedding where the bride and groom did their first dance while the groom had a microphone over her shoulder and sang it at the same time!!
The groom was on stage singin most of the night tbh, he was a crappy pub singer and an old perv and clearly thought his wedding was a concert, it was probably the biggest crowd he's ever sang to to be fair
But yeah, awkward dance + singing = I wanted to take my skin off I was cringing so hard!

I think we should have a "Divorce Dance" tradition.

BUT in the weeks leading up to the wedding we had 1 hour classes and regularly practised in-between, we laughed. We actually laughed, we didn't talk wedding, I didn't get arsey because the pom poms weren't ready or someone hadn't RSVP'd or made ridiculous demands like announcing they were vegetarian coming to a hog roast, we simply danced very badly and laughed and totally forgot the stress of the wedding and despite being terrible it was fantastic fun.

Maybe I'm just a grumpy vegetarian, but couldn't you have achieved the same result by just chilling the fuck out about the wedding without all the dancing?

I guarantee none of your guests will remember what "your" dance looked like.

Sounds like a hoot!

at "grumpy vegetarian"!

Btw, my post about the only couple still married wasn't meant to be smug in any way. DH and I didn't dance as we only had a small wedding and then fucked off on honeymoon immediately. And he is about seven foot taller than me so would have looked ridiculous. And I was pregnant

No sane person would remember it was your dance. People would just think that's nice and then forget about it.

I think we should have a "Divorce Dance" tradition.

tango?

This reminded me of someone I used to work with. Her wedding was abroad so she sent everyone links to her photos and YouTube for their dance(because obviously the world needed to know and were interested). It was a medley of songs that were important to them and MONTHS of choreography and practice had gone into it. She didn't realise that they had used a song about wanking in it (Queens Don't stop me now) and oh how a few of us laughed.
If she was a nice person in general we may have just 'how lovely'-ed.

My DH's idea of dancing is shuffling uncomfortably from one foot to the other for the shortest time possible. One of the biggest regrets of my life is that, due to his shortcomings, we were unable to have a choreographed dance at our wedding. It has been the source of much friction between us for most of our married life.

Not really, obvs. I've never been to a wedding with a choreographed dance. Just the usual 'first dance' that is intended to invite everyone onto the dance floor.

"Remember you are individual - just like everybody else"

Is anyone else starting to thinking that the OP's original, fun amazing wedding dance, was actually "Book 2, Routine 5" from the Teach Wedding Dances to Brides and Grooms Handbook.

Floofy I danced round the kitchen and pogoed when my divorced was finalised

DON'T STOP ME NOW IS ABOUT WANKING??? How did I not know this?

misses point

I was nearly at a wedding with a choreographed dance once. We missed it, because we had our young DD with us so couldn't stay that long. I think I'd have smiled through gritted teeth, but actually been inwardly screaming cringing. I think I'm such an introvert that even watching other people doing something like this makes my skin crawl. My issue entirely of course.

TinDogTavern listen again and think about it it is a horrific 'OH MY GOD' moment when the penny drops and it all makes sense.

DON'T STOP ME NOW IS ABOUT WANKING??? How did I not know this?

Or me?

Well, I never pay attention to lyrics. It looks like I should.

Don't Stop Me Now isn't about wanking, surely? I always assumed it was about gay sex.

Yup, first dance is another American import we now seem stuck with.

Oh yeeeeeeaaaaah...

"I'm a rocket ship on my way to mars on a collision course

I'm a satellite

I'm out of control

I'm a sex machine ready to re-load"

Divorce dance should be in the style of a Maori haka, I feel.

I went to three weddings one summer some years back where the first dance was Take That's 'Greatest Day of Our Lives'. I couldn't tell you anything about the dances. Like those 'fun' photo booths, a trio of (shit) desserts and the best man's boring projector slide show of hilarious moments from the groom's life - it all blurs in to one

The idea of a couple going to lessons to learn a dance to a particular song, to then perform at their wedding makes me cringe myself inside out, never mind having some kind of angst about another couple copying it. Jesus.

I had my fingers in my ears going Lala Lala at choreographed dance was amazing.

I die a little at "performances" that don't start with me buying a ticket.

Unless they are choreographers with amazing memories, they didn't remember your moves, they googled "wedding dances" and copied from a YouTube clip of one they liked.
I've been to one wedding where the bride and groom did this, and the room did seem to enjoy it, but half the room also knew that it was the bride's idea, the groom had two left feet, and had been worrying about the dance in the run-up to the wedding. He even missed part of his reception for a last minute solo practice in their bedroom! So the "fun", "we don't take ourselves seriously" dance wasn't a lot of fun for him. He looked so relieved it was over. It's a shame it was so late in the day. The bride is a lovely, chilled woman and not normally at all selfish, she just fell prey to wedding mania it seems, and her OH was collateral damage. She loves dancing and is uninhibited, him not so much.

This was a good few years ago though, so there was at least the element of surprise for the older guests. I thought the bubble had long since burst. If people are keen dancers and just dance a straight dance that is more choreographed than the standard awkward shuffle then that's one thing, I think it's the "surprise" ironic, disco type routines that people find so cringy. Everyone has to plaster an astonished, amused and delighted face over their "Fuck me! I'd never have guessed Katy would have done this" reaction.

Was it the Gellers' 'routine' from Friends? I do hope so

Lol!! I now neeeed to get married again to do this, that'd be epic!!