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Wearing trainers on a hiking holiday - AIBU?

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RangeTesKopeks · 23/07/2017 14:42

Hi everyone,

I'm on a hiking holiday with friends at the moment, although it's all very relaxed and we can do our own thing if we like.

Everyone else has walking boots that they've brought with them and i haven't. I own a pair, but couldn't get it before the trip (long story, but it's somewhere in my parents' house, which is 6 hours' away from where I live).

I've brought a pair of trainers instead with me, but am a bit worried about hiking with these on. (All of the other people in the group are really keen walkers, and I'm not really).

AIBU to wear trainers on the hikes instead of buying another pair of walking boots? I don't go on walking holidays at all really, and don't really want to pay for another pair of boots as they're quite expensive. But I don't think it's very safe to walk up mountains in trainers and I'm quite nervous about the walking aspect in general (scared of heights etc.)

WWYD? Would you buy a new pair of boots?

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YogiYoni · 26/07/2017 22:15

Get her to drop you st the train station, the cross the road (headingupgill) and look for the signs to 'Orrest Head'. It's a steep but short walk, all along good quality paths, that will take you to an AMAZING view.

Once you've got back down, head to Homeground in Windermere for lunch / coffee. If you have more time, wander downhill (down the main road) to Bowness. It'll probably take about half an hour. There you can go to the cinema, take a boat ride, or just join the tourists feeding the swans. The Belsfield / Laura Ashley hotel has great views so you could go there for coffee and while away the hours with a good book.


YogiYoni · 26/07/2017 22:15

*heading uphill

Partypolitics99 · 26/07/2017 22:40

I can also confirm that orrest head view is amazing

RangeTesKopeks · 27/07/2017 08:53

Thanks everyone! Have just been to Orrest Head and, like you've all mentioned, the views are gorgeous :) Saw a deer on the way up, which was lovely too. Didn't get a photo in time though unfortunately.

Wearing trainers on a hiking holiday - AIBU?
Wearing trainers on a hiking holiday - AIBU?
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YogiYoni · 27/07/2017 09:30

Perfect timing. Homeground does great breakfasts Wink

YogiYoni · 27/07/2017 09:32

Or, as you've managed that walk so early you could probably manage another before your friends get back if you wanted to. You could get the train to Staveley and walk part of the Dales Way to Burneside then get train back to Windermere. I'll try to find a link...

caffeinestream · 27/07/2017 09:34

YY go to Homeground in Windermere! Amazing food.

YogiYoni · 27/07/2017 09:36

the links all have the walk the other way round. Just get train to Burneside, then walk back - either to staveley (& back on train) or Windermere:

RangeTesKopeks · 27/07/2017 10:03

Haha you all read my mind - just in Homeground now actually :) It looks amazing! I'm thinking of walking over to the World of Beatrix Potter afterwards, and then exploring Bowness for a bit.

The Lake District is absolutely stunning ❤️ I could definitely see myself living here. Just need to get a head for heights...! Grin

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livefornaps · 27/07/2017 12:33

Ahhh, so nice to hear that you're having a good time

RangeTesKopeks · 27/07/2017 13:53

This is so random but I'm just wondering if anyone knows somewhere around Bowness or Windermere where I can find a good Cumberland sausage sandwich please? :) I've been craving them all week! Grin

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YogiYoni · 27/07/2017 13:56

I had a great Cumberland sausage sandwich at the Bluebird Cafe in Consiston a few weeks ago. I believe the same company runs the cafe in the tourist information centre on the Glebe (right by the boats in Bowness) so that might be worth a try. Otherwise, maybe the cafe in booths? (Back up at the top of Windermere)

caffeinestream · 27/07/2017 13:57

Hope you enjoyed Homeground, it's amazing there.

I couldn't recommend somewhere there unfortunately, but Apple Pie or Copper Pot in Ambleside both do great sausage sandwiches :)

RangeTesKopeks · 28/07/2017 08:05

Hi everyone,

Just a quick update (bit of another AIBU situation).

The plan was for all of us to go canoeing and kayaking today.

I'm not a confident canoer/kayaker at all (for full disclosure,
AG knows this, and she is a very confident kayaker), but was asked by AG a couple of weeks ago whether I preferred being in a kayak or canoe.

I went for a canoe, as I thought I'd be in a canoe with other people (I'd feel safer this way, personally). AG mentioned to me that her and her DP would both be kayaking, and the two guys who we're with would be in canoes. So I thought I'd be in a canoe with the two guys.

Last night, we were all talking about it though, and it turns out that the two guys both want to be in canoes but on their own (each in one canoe) with no one else. I asked them if they'd consider going in a canoe with me at all, as I really would prefer being in a canoe with someone else, and they both said no.

I really don't feel comfortable going in a canoe or kayak on my own, as I'm really nervous in a kayak or canoe. Would I be unreasonable not to go? I really don't think I'd enjoy it at all.

Just spoke to AG's DP about it, and he was really nice and understanding about it.

Am I being a shit friend by not wanting to go??

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blueskyinmarch · 28/07/2017 08:09

Of course you don't need to go. Go off and do something you would like to do.

I never do things on holiday that i don't want to do.My family, for example, all did paddle boarding on our last holiday but i didn't want to so went off with a book and found a cafe to sit in. They were actually pleased as it meant i could keep their shoes and stuff for them when they were done.

It is not compulsory for all people on a holiday to do all the activities together.

LIZS · 28/07/2017 08:09

You do seem pretty risk averse. Presumably it isn't whitewater canoeing and you would have life jacket etc. Could you double kayak? Tbh it doesn't really sound like your sort of holiday , why did you decide to go along? What had you hoped to get out of it and have you achieved that?

YogiYoni · 28/07/2017 08:09

Not a shit friend, but do you want to go? Presumably you'll be on flat water? It's relatively straightforward once you're on it and have got the hang of paddling so you might really enjoy it. Where are they going?

YogiYoni · 28/07/2017 08:09

(Oh, and did you find a sausage sandwich?)

caffeinestream · 28/07/2017 08:16

Don't go! The weather is shit today anyway - you won't have a good time of it, especially if you're on your own. It sounds like she's planned this holiday around what she wants and everyone else has to fit in with that.

What about taking the bus to Kendal and wandering around the shops? There's a great little chocolate shop near the main bus station. Or go the other direction and head to Grasmere - you could do Dove cottage, get some of the famous Sarah Nelson gingerbread and get some lunch in a nice pub!

livefornaps · 28/07/2017 08:17

I think in this case you might enjoy it.

They'll all be with you, it's not like you're setting off deliverance-style into the wilderness. (Gotta love dem duelling banjos).

I think this a pretty different to doing some mad climb when you're not even an experienced walker. You'll be in a life jacket. You might really enjoy it and feel proud of yourself afterwards!

(Last summer I presumed I was going to hate paddle boarding and then I ended up having a whale of a time. And my balance is horrendous and I have no upper body strength...!)

livefornaps · 28/07/2017 08:18

Get out of your comfort zone, girl.

RhiWrites · 28/07/2017 08:19

What kind of person goes on a group holiday and refuses to compromise in any way.

  • won't cook communally so OP eats alone
  • buys all the avocados and won't share
  • insists on doing difficult hikes when OP would like to start with an easier one
  • insists on kayaking when OP isn't water confident

I've been on lots of group holidays and never seen anything like it.
RangeTesKopeks · 28/07/2017 08:21

LIZS I am probably quite risk-averse - my parents both are, and I think I just learned it from then and haven't been able to 'un-learn' it as I've always been too scared to. I've always been really cautious.

I agreed to the holiday because I didn't want to disappoint AG. I haven't really enjoyed the holiday - I've really tried to but struggled (for different reasons).

I don't really think my friendship with AG is going anywhere. I don't think either of us get anything of the friendship or each other's company anymore. I've felt like that for years now (we've known each other since we were seven, and have lived far away from each other as my family moved away from her town when I was around ten).

I really, really don't enjoy it. She's always been a bit bossy. I never used to stand my ground, because I didn't want her to get upset or to lose a friend, and now I'm regretting that to be honest. I always used to want to just please her and not disappoint her, and it really seems like everything has always had to be on her own terms.

In saying all of this, I'm absolutely not saying that I'm perfect or tryijf to be intentionally spiteful and nasty about her - this is just the way that, in hindsight, our friendship seems to me.

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RangeTesKopeks · 28/07/2017 08:22

RhiWrites you're spot-on.

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caffeinestream · 28/07/2017 08:23

The weather is wet and rainy and miserable where the OP is today (same town) and I don't think it's due to get much better.

If she doesn't want to go, she shouldn't be pressured into it! It's my idea of hell to go out when the weather is like this, especially cause I wear glasses so end up not being able to see a thing.

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