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Wearing trainers on a hiking holiday - AIBU?

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RangeTesKopeks · 23/07/2017 14:42

Hi everyone,

I'm on a hiking holiday with friends at the moment, although it's all very relaxed and we can do our own thing if we like.

Everyone else has walking boots that they've brought with them and i haven't. I own a pair, but couldn't get it before the trip (long story, but it's somewhere in my parents' house, which is 6 hours' away from where I live).

I've brought a pair of trainers instead with me, but am a bit worried about hiking with these on. (All of the other people in the group are really keen walkers, and I'm not really).

AIBU to wear trainers on the hikes instead of buying another pair of walking boots? I don't go on walking holidays at all really, and don't really want to pay for another pair of boots as they're quite expensive. But I don't think it's very safe to walk up mountains in trainers and I'm quite nervous about the walking aspect in general (scared of heights etc.)

WWYD? Would you buy a new pair of boots?

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RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 20:01

Hi again everyone :)

Just popping with another (maybe disappointing?) update!

Bright and early, we set off on our walk today up Scafell Pike and I, erm, bailed fairly early on Blush A fairly rocky route from the outset had been picked, and I just got really nervous.

I asked my friend (AKA Avocado Girl Wink) if potentially we could choose a different route, as there were a couple of others that we could choose from, but she said she preferred to do the challenging one and got a bit annoyed about it. So I just told her how I felt and she said it was fair enough. I thought it was best to be safe than sorry, to be honest.

So I got a bus and popped into Keswick for the day. Was really nice to explore :)

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MrsHathaway · 24/07/2017 20:13

People who want their holiday just so and can't accommodate others ... SHOULDN'T GO ON GROUP HOLIDAYS.

She's a grumpy mare, isn't she?

RhiWrites · 24/07/2017 20:22

I hope you had a huge avocado salad, OP.

Are these people supposed to be friends, why are they being so unwelcoming.

caffeinestream · 24/07/2017 20:24

Hope you had fun in Keswick, though I imagine it was heaving with tourists and families!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 24/07/2017 20:28

Your "friends" sound shit OP. I'm glad you ditched them and managed to have a nice day Smile

RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 20:35

She's a friend from primary school, and we've kind of kept up our friendship over the years - but we are fairly different, I'd say. She is lovely and has helped me over the years, but (this is my fault entirely! Blush) I find it really hard to say no to her. She can be a bit bossy and I just kind of don't really say no Blush

I find it hard to say no to anyone, but I'm slowly getting better at it. I completely understand how important it is to be assertive and to know how and when to say no, but I find it tricky.

My Mum's always mentioned how important it is to be assertive, and she was keen to enrol me in drama classes and things when I was growing up - I really struggled with this, as I'm quite introverted and didn't really massively take to drama or anything like that. But I'm starting to learn now (kind of) to be more assertive and to say no.

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sonjadog · 24/07/2017 20:38

Your friend doesn't sound very nice. There are plenty of low level walks you can do. Enjoy your holiday and pick and choose what suits you of the group activities.

TheFrendo · 24/07/2017 20:41

Buy a map and a walking guide and pick your own walk next time.

GrumpyOldBag · 24/07/2017 20:50

I don't really get the avocado thing.

You are on holiday all together. Aren't you sharing the food and the cooking?

LeakyLittleBoat · 24/07/2017 20:52

What a twat. She knows you are not an experienced hiker and she chose the "challenging" trail? I honestly do not get people like this. Honestly the whole holiday sounds like a nightmare and I'd have been on the first bus/train outta there after the avocado twattishness. You sound like a really lovely easy-going, accommodating person OP so, when you do that assertiveness training, make your first practice run the ditching of this non-friend. You deserve so much better.

caffeinestream · 24/07/2017 20:59

Don't feel you have to go out with her, OP. There are loads of lovely low-level walks around Ambleside - you could walk to Grasmere and back via Rydal Caves and come back via the "Coffin Route" as they call it. Or just walk to Rydal along the 'under Loughrigg' road, get an ice-cream from the van near the bridge, then walk back to Ambleside.

Or go back to Keswick and walk round Derwentwater, or even go up Loughrigg or Wansfell. They're nowhere near as challenging as Scafell and you have nice paths and some fabulous views at the top.

Or, walk down to Waterhead and go to the Waterhead Inn. They've recently done it up and their beer garden has some amazing views over the lake. I like to go down and sit on the wall and just watch the boats and the sunset. Then walk up through Borrans park and back through Ambleside that way.

caffeinestream · 24/07/2017 21:01

Oh, and try some of the cafes - Apple Pie Bakery, Rattle Gill and Copper Pot all do fab homemade cakes!

HipsterHunter · 24/07/2017 21:08

Oh sorry it's not working out OP :-(

rookiemere · 24/07/2017 21:08

I'm glad you enjoyed your day in Keswick - its a fabulous place.
It sounds as if your friends are pretty serious walkers and I can see why they wouldn't want to do something easier if they want a challenge- but this should have been communicated to you at the time of arranging the holiday.

NapQueen · 24/07/2017 21:16

My attempt at Scafell involved 20 mins of hauling my arse up about 10feet, turning on my heel and settling in with a cream tea at the bottom. Bliss.

RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 21:58

The friend and her DP are vegan Grumpy and I'm not, so they always cook for themselves.

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RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 22:02

Ahh NapQueen that sounds like my idea of heaven! Wish I'd done that today. Stupidly, I only brought a bit of cash with me today (and no phone Blush), so had to eke it out for the rest of the day today. Tomorrow, I'll be better prepared Wink

Can anyone recommend any nice places around Ambleside please? (Thanks so much for the ones that PP have already mentioned :) )

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KickAssAngel · 24/07/2017 22:03

Def. go for finding some walks that you are happy doing, particularly if they include pub/ice-cream/cream tea (or all 3 in one day!).

Then get back to the cottage, crack open a beer, and sit in the garden relaxing.

What are the two men like? Do you think that either of them would be up for a night at the pub? Or are they all serious walkers who go to bed early?

SoPassRemarkable · 24/07/2017 22:07

Have you found Chesters by The River cafe at skelwith bridge yet? Nice flat walk from there to elterwater and back. Which you can extend north of elterwater into Langdale if you wish.

RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 22:10

Thanks everyone :) the guys (and her DP) are all lovely, but I just don't really know them very well. She kind of 'wears the trousers' a bit, if you see what I mean, and they're happy with that. Bit annoying. I feel a bit like an afterthought, really. Her plans always come first - I thought it would be nice to go to a pub quiz one night (we're staying for a week), but my friend's made plans for every night, so we won't be able to fit it in.

Oh well - the Lake District is gorgeous, and we're staying in a really nice cottage, so I'm just going to make the most of it.

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SoPassRemarkable · 24/07/2017 22:11

Have you got a car or are you tied to buses?

caffeinestream · 24/07/2017 22:11

YY to Chesters at Skelwith - easy to walk to and a really nice place to sit and pass the time.

Do you have a car or are you reliant on public transport?

RangeTesKopeks · 24/07/2017 22:13

I don't have a car unfortunately - the other two pairs do though. Public transport seems to be pretty good though :)

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caffeinestream · 24/07/2017 22:18

Okay, so if you have a week, I would recommend the following:

Walk to Grasmere - go along to Rydal Caves and come back along the coffin route (or get the bus back). Or, if that's too far, walk under Loughrigg, past the stepping stones to the bridge, grab an ice-cream from the van that parks there, and walk back along the road.

Walk to Skelwith and stop at Chesters - if you want to go further, go for a wander around Elterwater. It's flat and easily done in trainers.

If you fancy a challenge, walk up Loughrigg. You can stop and turn around at Lily Tarn if it's too much for you. The views are good even though you're not very high. Or try Wansfell on the other side. Both are easily manageable, clear routes and nothing too challenging at all.

Do you want any recommendations for places to eat or anything like that? I live in Ambleside so I'm very happy to recommend somewhere if you want :)

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