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Pass remarkable sales assistant??

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BitchinBlack · 20/07/2017 20:43

So I took 16month old DS for a pair of new shoes today to a local shop. The sales assistant seen fit to comment "what?? He's not walking yet? (With a shocked look on her face) He really should be at that age"
DS is sofa surfing and walking with support he just hasn't taken of independently yet. I am absolutely livid and I gave her a good dressing down, so was I unreasonable??

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SerfTerf · 20/07/2017 21:13

Do try to chill out. I've had DC who did things freakishly early and and freakishly late. Two of my DC have health needs. Three of them have SplDs. Development is, by definition, something that varies but it more or less evens out over time.

You can't get in that state of defensive aggression about it.

If someone comments just laugh and say "He's been quite relaxed about it" or "He's very laid back". Then let it go. Otherwise you'll sound deranged Smile

Squirmy65ghyg · 20/07/2017 21:14

Nice story bruh.

BlueIsYou · 20/07/2017 21:14

I read it as "I gave her a good dressing gown" Grin

I'm disappointed, I was interested to hear where I can purchase a good dressing gown!

thatorchidmoment · 20/07/2017 21:14

If I came across a child who wasn't walking by 16 months, I'd note it and start to wonder if there was anything delaying him/her. I would only comment on it if the parent was a close friend of mine and happy to discuss other bits of their child's development.

I appreciate there are children who walk later for many many reasons! Generally speaking though, 16 months is late.

not entirely above my 'pay grade' as I'm trained as a doctor and have an interest in paediatrics

She was a little blunt and phrased it poorly. If you had answered her politely I would have agreed it was a thoughtless thing to say. You have unfortunately become the most unreasonable one by escalating it; responding so badly and being unnecessarily snooty about her status.

YABU.

SerfTerf · 20/07/2017 21:15

A "good dressing gown" would make a better tip than wine Grin

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BitchinBlack · 20/07/2017 21:15

I actually do because my friend used to work there and I got into the habit and I still do it. It's a small shop in my local town and I wasn't asked to leave in fact the owner of the shop apologised for the staff member. The age was a guess by the way I was just commenting that she wasn't a young person in training. I didn't think her comment was necessary and I wasn't rude to her I was just ranting on here, hoping that another mother would think that she was out of line too.

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thereallochnessmonster · 20/07/2017 21:15

Why on earth are you buying shoes for a child who's not walking? I'd gave judged you for that too.

You sound snobbish and antagonistic.

First time I can remember anyone using 'pass-remarkable' for years!

Don't think it reflects well on you, though, op... Hmm

MissBax · 20/07/2017 21:15

How do you know what training she's had? She could have an NVQ in nursery nursing, she might have studied child development in another context.
Also - you tip them? Ughhhhhhh if that's actually true (which I doubt) then you are sickeningly patronising and I bet they roll their eyes when you walk in.

ForeverLivingMyArse · 20/07/2017 21:16

Tipping the shoe shop?

PoochSmooch · 20/07/2017 21:16

You buy your husband's shoes?? And then tip the salesperson?

Even apart from randomly abusing sales staff, I really think you are doing shoe shopping all wrong Confused

RainbowPastel · 20/07/2017 21:17

Keep back peddling OP. You were rude. The fact you buy chocolates and wine is irrelevant.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 20/07/2017 21:17

I can't get past taking chocolates to the fucking shoe shop..?!

SerfTerf · 20/07/2017 21:17

It's a small shop in my local town

Oh dear.

Find somewhere else for 12 months. Memories will have faded by then.

Maybe stop the Christmas tipping too? You don't want to jog their memory about who you are.

user1483617032 · 20/07/2017 21:18

of course the owner of the shop apologised, doesn't mean she meant it.

SilentlyScreamingAgain · 20/07/2017 21:18

How much do you tip them?

Sparklingbrook · 20/07/2017 21:18

Why do you have to buy your husband's shoes?

nancy75 · 20/07/2017 21:19

Shop owner might have apologised, they still talked about how rude you are when you left the shop. Tips & chocolate my arse

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BitchinBlack · 20/07/2017 21:20

I didn't mention the pay grade to her, I just ranted that on here!! I am anything but snooty and I work in customer service myself and I meet a lot of children with their parents on a regular basis. I have never commented on how any child behaved in my salon.

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eurochick · 20/07/2017 21:21

This thread is bonkers.

SerfTerf · 20/07/2017 21:21

On the upside, you'll have given everyone something to laugh about for a week or two.

kali110 · 20/07/2017 21:22

Ofcourse rhey apologised, doesnt mean they think you were right though.

Betsy86 · 20/07/2017 21:22

Lmfao true!!

Crunchymum · 20/07/2017 21:22

Pay grades? Dressing down? Buying your husbands shoes? Tipping in shoe shops? Do you live in some parallel 1950's universe?

thefutureisfemale · 20/07/2017 21:22

Works in customer service but abuses sales staff...

kali110 · 20/07/2017 21:22

The fact you work in customer service makes this worse Sad
You should know better

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