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To be fed up with this?

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:07

Crappy weekend. Yesterday evening my kettle broke. At lunchtime my cooker stopped working. This evening my microwave doesn't heat anything. Oh and my bathroom sink is leaking.

Cooker is hopefully under warranty though how long it'll take to fix is another matter. But the other stuff has to be replaced, requiring time and money.

I was pretty pissed off with this but DPs attitude is just oh well it's only money, you have to accept things break.

I said not normally all in 24 hours and got told there was no point moaning at him , he can't fix any of it.

I feel really quite unimpressed. It's easy to tell me to spend my money- we don't live together, though he has meals here almost every night. I can afford a new kettle and microwave. That's not really the point though.

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LindyHemming · 16/07/2017 22:11

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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 16/07/2017 22:14

No YANBU to be fed up with it. That's a shit load of bad luck. And your dp sounds a bit unsympathetic.

edwinbear · 16/07/2017 22:17

YADNBU. Anyone would have the hump with a shitty weekend like that. It's not just the money, it's the inconvenience as well and your DP is an arse if he can't understand that.

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:18

I don't want him to tell me it doesn't matter I can just spend my hard earned money.

And my time. Which as someone who works ft I have precious little of as it is. I've no idea how I'm going to do dinner for the next few days.

Is it so hard to understand I might be pissed off, and that it does seem pretty weird everything breaking at exactly the same time?

Cooker is 2 years old. Microwave about 6. Kettle I think I bought around 2013. So all relatively new.

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edwinbear · 16/07/2017 22:20

He is going to buy you delivery for the next couple of nights - that's how! 😄

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:22

Oh that definitely won't be happening. As with everything it's my house, my problem, I have to sort it out.

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Castieldeansam · 16/07/2017 22:22

In space of week, our tumble dryer broke, dishwasher broke and today lawn mower broke!
Feel your pain and the hole in the wallet!

Migraleve · 16/07/2017 22:24

Sorry but I don't get the problem. Shit breaks. You replace it.

I would probably find more sympathy for someone who had NO money, but to just botch because you don't want to spend it Hmm

Bumdishcloths · 16/07/2017 22:26

YANBU, to have three things break in such a short time frame is shit, and can totally sympathise that you don't want to spend money replacing/fixing when it would have been nice if they just didn't break in the first place and you could spend your money on more worthwhile things. Mystified by previous posters being a bit mean about it really.

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:27

Yes I replace it. Me. It's all me. I have to try and cram this in to my day where I already have a fucking million and one things to do and remember. And this is just yet more shit.

I can replace a kettle and microwave sure, I don't really have money for a cooker. But fuck it, like everything else it's just down to me to sort out.

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caffeinestream · 16/07/2017 22:28

I think this is about a lot more than a broken cooker.

edwinbear · 16/07/2017 22:29

What will he do for dinner every night whilst you fix it if he usually eats at yours? Can you eat/stay with him?

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:32

Can't stay or eat with him, I have DC to feed. I expect we'll all have to have salads or something microwaveable assuming I can get a microwave tomorrow. Actually I have to make sure I do really.

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:36

He won't sympathise because apparently there's nothing to be sympathetic for. I just have to accept constantly replacing stuff (last week I replaced a broken tv, and DC cracked mobile screen, now this) and the fact that my house is falling apart- see leaky tap. Oh I forgot in May I had to spend £400 on my car. But that's just how it is, right?

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HoosierDaddy · 16/07/2017 22:36

Can you ask him to pick them up for you? Or to bring a take away? Or order a delivery online? If he won't help you out, I'd be more pissed off about that than about the stuff breaking (which I agree is very frigging annoying)

edwinbear · 16/07/2017 22:37

Salads or if you have a supermarket that has a deli counter that sells hot, roast chickens that will do. Or BBQ if you have one (and time, which you probably don't).

edwinbear · 16/07/2017 22:38

But I still say your DP is an arse for his total lack of empathy.

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:40

No barbeque.
He'll drive me somewhere to collect a microwave or whatever but he wouldn't get it himself.
I'll have to see what I can get online and collect in store, I can't have stuff delivered as I'm out all day

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HoosierDaddy · 16/07/2017 22:44

Would he get it if you told him which one you wanted? I wouldn't want someone ekse picking my stuff to be fair. Or can you have the microwave and kettle delivered to work? It's a pain trying to get to shops after work or at lunch, so that would cut it out. Or to your DPs work and he can bring them to you in the evening.

Dawnedlightly · 16/07/2017 22:46

'Actually you eat here almost as often as the test of us, can you pick up and pay for this microwave.'
If he kicks up a fuss you know for sure he's a cock lodger.
And if he's eating regularly at yours he needs to contribute.

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Finewines · 16/07/2017 22:48

He works in the middle of nowhere so he wouldn't/ couldn't go and get anything. I could ask him to order someth8ibg online for me but frankly by the time I've worked out what I want, asked him if he'll order it, checked if he has, transfered money to him to cover the cost, it's less work to do it myself.

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JamesSpaderMadeMeDoIt · 16/07/2017 22:49

This really isn't about the microwave /cooker/kettle breaking is it? And it's not really about the money you have to spend.

You feel unsupported by your DP, and need his help.

Time to sit down with him and discuss how you feel. Flowers

mygorgeousmilo · 16/07/2017 22:50

Just after Christmas our washing machine died, years old and out of warranty, then a week later followed the tumble dryer. Was already v stressed with those but held it together. Then the toaster broke about 2-3 days later and went a bit crazy and cried in the kitchen surrounded by all the broken shit! But yes, begrudgingly paid for new stuff from ao.com - the guy on the phone even sat and listened while I told him my woes "but THREE THINGS at once, it's so bloody annoyinggggg". Flowers