To expect her to change the sheets?

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Just that really.

Went to stay with friends (it'd been arranged a month beforehand so wasn't springing it on them) and went I got in to bed I found a pair of bed socks between the sheets so bed clearly hadn't been changed since someone had slept in it.

Dh is all, 'whatever, I don't know why you bother changing our sheets every time someone stays a night.'

I'm not pissing blood or speechless with rage, more a little 'yuk, not great manners.'

Does everyone else change sheets when someone's stayed at their house or am I ott in doing this?

I once heard of someone who would make all guests have a bath before bed, purely so that they wouldn't have to change the sheets each time.

Gross!

A typical guest bed cycle in our house:

1. New sheets for all guests*
2. Insomniac me is happy to sleep on those sheets used by certain friends.

*Exception: My parents are happy to sleep on sheets that have only been used by me. I would not let them sleep in sheets where I was the second user.

Yep that's grim.
I once stayed in a house (they were expecting us for several months before we arrived) and the room we were shown to was obviously the dog's chill out room- the bed was COVERED in dog hair and there were obvious wee stains too. I nearly had a nervous breakdown. Lay on the bed covered from head to toe in my clothes and didn't sleep a wink. It still haunts me.

I'm pretty OK with sharing beds in general though. I can't see the problem with sharing a hotel bed with Friend X, then either of us sleeping in the same sheets on separate occasions.

Fire- and

I know she changes the sheets because she's told me. I'm not assuming anything.

For the record, she's a sahm with both kids in school and a cleaner who gets to shop and go to the gym all day (> definitely envy) so she's hardly hard bloody done by!

Yes maid I'm happy to sleep on sheets used by certain friends.

Grossville !!!

I'm fairly relaxed about cleaning and housework but even I change the sheets before a guest!

I have a friend that regularly stays so i don't change every time she stays as she is normally the last person to sleep there. If someone else has or other people are staying I will always change the sheets!

That's grim, I would always make sure the sheets were clean for guests and would hope to get into clean sheets if I were a guest.

I once fell out permanently with somebody partly because of her doing this. The sheets weren't just used - the bed hadn't been aired & felt slightly damp, & the radiator was off in the room - in January (& she wouldn't turn it on when asked!)

(She also had a thing about not running the windscreen wipers/demister in the car when it was pouring with rain )

There were other issues during the visit that made it plain that her principle concern was her own comfort, followed by her husband & child, folowed by the rest of the world. I withdrew after that!

I change the sheets just before the next guest comes so they are nice and freshly washed. Giving used sheets to the next guest is disgusting!

I always give guests clean sheets...anything else is skanky

especially when your niece has spent the afternoon shagging her boyfriend and you get given that bed with no change of sheets

My NDN have a shed at the end of their garden that they rent out as a B&B (almost certainly illegally). They have a list of jobs to do when someone leaves on their kitchen noticeboard which includes the delightful "check towels to see if marked. If so wash if not hang on line to air". Gross. But even they wash the bedding between lettings (or at least their list says to do so).

BTW it is quite literally one of those wooden sheds you get at garden centres and not an upmarket home office/extra room construction...

Gross! Not judgemental one bit and love it when a house is a home but am afraid when it comes to staying anywhere overnight I literally cannot sleep if I can smell a whiff of previous occupant! Wouldn't even mind making up my own bed as long as it was clean! Would never ever expect any guest to sleep in a previously slept in bed.

Always change the sheets, I wouldn't expect friends or family to sleep in used sheets

Would occasionally dog sit for friend at her request.
Stayed in married daughters old room.
Daughter occasionally stayed at mum's for whatever reason.
Went to get into bed & was a "sex stain" on the sheets!!!
Daughter had stayed previous weekend.
Stripped & changed bed. Washed & dried the bedding overnight.
Left next morning & she got home later that day.
Next time I saw her a few days later. I apologised for "spilling tea" & changing the sheets & hoped she didn't mind.
She said hadn't realised cause wasn't changing beds for 1 nights visitor.
Haven't stayed since.

Ah well Op - you what to do next time. Tell her to stick her free bed and hospitality and go to a hotel. the one on CCTV where they use the same cloth to wipe the lav seat then the water glass

Yuck, bodily fluids on the sheets - grim - some people don't appear to have any standards!

Head lice scabies (I know they aren't meant to be catching this way), dead skin,sweat and pubes. Gross not to change sheets between guests.

Dh did military service (French). He got scabies from the supposedly washed sheets when he first arrived there. Ewww. He was quarantined and had to shave his intimate areas. Scabies are definitely transmittable from sheets etc.

I believe you about scabies and sheets. It's the NHS website that disagrees.

I had a rash I thought was scabies for about 10 minutes. The idea of unwashed sheets makes me feel queasy. I can't stay in ILs, hospitable in most other ways but not changing sheets is a deal breaker.

Washed, ironed and remade after every guest, even for a night.
If DH or I have even sat ontop of the bed, I also redo the whole thing!
Clean towels and ensuite cleaned every time between visitors too.

I always wash the bedding immediately after someone stays, unless I know they'll be back within a week or so. DH thinks I'm a bit ridiculous for this but I don't care.

I like to have a clean bed made up in case of unexpected visitors or if I'm ill/have insomnia and don't want to disturb DH (or if he's snoring really badly and I need to escape!!)

If we have planned guests and it's been more than a few weeks since I washed the sheets, I usually do them again (though I don't always iron if it's family). At the very least, I give the bed a jolly good airing, and will check (with eyes and nose!) that it's all in a nice state for guests.

I am 100% certain that the only stain you might find on my spare bedding is a small red line left by my FIL when he fell asleep while doing sudoku with a red pen - apparently a permanent marker, given how impossible it's been to shift the mark!

Yuk yuk yuk! I am not OCD, I just don't like to sleep where other people's snot and genitals have been.