To expect her to change the sheets?

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Just that really.

Went to stay with friends (it'd been arranged a month beforehand so wasn't springing it on them) and went I got in to bed I found a pair of bed socks between the sheets so bed clearly hadn't been changed since someone had slept in it.

Dh is all, 'whatever, I don't know why you bother changing our sheets every time someone stays a night.'

I'm not pissing blood or speechless with rage, more a little 'yuk, not great manners.'

Does everyone else change sheets when someone's stayed at their house or am I ott in doing this?

Er... are your friends a male/female couple? If so, it's intensely annoying that you expect 'her' to change the sheets and maybe this is exactly the reason - she's tired of having to think of/stay on top of all domestic tasks so sometimes lets things slide (yes, speaking from personal experience, sure I'm not the only one...)

Antiboop - if I thought a couple had shagged in our guest room, or knew they slept naked, then yes I'd change sheets - but shagging or sleeping naked in someone else's house is a bit rude isn't it?

PeaFace a sofa isn't comparible to a bed!

People lie, drooling in beds...sometimes with not many clothes on!

People sit fully clothed on sofas.

People sit fully clothed on sofas.

That's only on mumsnet.

I keep the sheets on if it's my mother who has stayed for a night or two and I think she'll be back again soonest, but they get changed for every new guest. I would be upset to sleep in someone else's sheets, bleurgh.

Depends who it is. I often migrate to the spare room when I can't sleep, so I can have the radio on without disturbing Dh. If a dd then stays over, I wouldn't normally bother, nor would I change the sheets after she's slept in them, for me.
For any non family, or for sister and BiL, I def. would.

I sleep naked. So does dh. So do most of our family and friends. If we were all wearing pyjamas it may be different.

And all of us friends have toddlers and young kids. Worms. Just .... worms. > NOT envy.

I don't sit naked on my sofa because others sit on it fully clothed.

Yuk to sitting on outsidid sofa.

But then naked sofa would be just as bad.

Now I hate my sofa.

Eeeeewww.

Always change the sheets.

*"People sit fully clothed on sofas."

That's only on mumsnet.*

It's not like a sofa. My sofas are leather. I can wipe them clean.I can't wipe bedsheets clean.

very, very wrong! if she cba she should t invite someone! disgusting!

A quick FYI for any MNers who (like me ) were unaware of this gem re guest bed-changing etiquette:

(Overheard in local shop [retiree housekeeper of very upmarket aristos, lecturing her neighbour in foghorn voice]):
Apparently in rarified circles, it's considered unforgivably bad form, worthy of a ban from future invitations, for an overnighting guest to strip their bed automatically before leaving, without asking their host (or domestic staff?) beforehand if he/ she wants them to do so.

It's in case of hidden stains/ holey bedlinen/ bust springs etc. being revealed, thus blowing sky high any reputation of hosting family's impeccable standards.

We can now all accept any future invitation to Sandringham, safe in the knowledge we won't accidentally commit social suicide.

You're welcome.

OP,

YANBU, given your friends had a month's notice you were coming!
Though, for me, it would so depend on who had previously slept in the bed:
laundered sheets, freshly showered, pyjamed friend I knew and liked...not a problem at all. Have done.
Unwashed sheets, sweaty bloke in day-old boxers...bleurgh.
Would rather sleep on floor.

I always provide fresh bedlinen/ towels for guests...though spur-of-the-moment overnighters, after a few too many drinks, take as they find.

A then BF and I once stayed with otherwise lovely friends, sleeping in what was usually their 6 yr old's & 8 yr old's bunk beds (not a night of passion for us, that one).

All fine, until the goodnights ended with a semi-apologetic "Oh, btw, the bedlinen's clean. Except I forgot to stick the pillowcases through the wash...you should be ok, though: their headlice were treated".

They were not joking.
We decamped downstairs to sofa bed and were paranoid for 2 days.

How can youmforget to put pillow cases through the wash, when you're washing bedlinen?

Why would you assume visiting guests don't shag in your guest bed?

Unfortunately the aforementioned randy ils can't help themselves which has led to me having to bin sheets.

Re sleeping on the sofa then sitting on it, I put a fitted sheet on the sofa if someone sleeps on it.

Ew! What if the last persons skin was peeling and there's skin bits all over as you sleep?!

Or what if they have an infection?!

WHAT IF THEY PICK BOGEYS IN BED?!

**Stops thinking

EW EW bodily fluids ew!

shagging or sleeping naked in someone else's house is a bit rude isn't it

Um, no. Most people sleep naked!

*Most people sleep naked!
*
Where is that stat coming from?! I've no issue with people sleeping naked - their own house or otherwise - but I can't believe that MOST people do so.

Sales of nightwear are very healthy!

The only time I don't is when its the same guest next time (eg my parents stop here before and after visiting DSis).

New guests = new sheets

The only time I don't is when its the same guest next time (eg my parents stop here before and after visiting DSis).

New guests = new sheets

We have friends staying all the time, feels like a B&B at times but I always change the sheets, we want them to come back!

I do have some very considerate single friends who will tell us if they haven't used pillows etc so we dont need to wash those, otherwise it all gets bunged in the wash.