To expect her to change the sheets?

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Just that really.

Went to stay with friends (it'd been arranged a month beforehand so wasn't springing it on them) and went I got in to bed I found a pair of bed socks between the sheets so bed clearly hadn't been changed since someone had slept in it.

Dh is all, 'whatever, I don't know why you bother changing our sheets every time someone stays a night.'

I'm not pissing blood or speechless with rage, more a little 'yuk, not great manners.'

Does everyone else change sheets when someone's stayed at their house or am I ott in doing this?

My DP said this! Said we wouldn't need too many sets as wouldn't be changing the sheets every time ...I was

Changed before guests arrive, not after - cos if one of us wants to sleep in the spare bed we don't mind lightly used sheets. Big quilt over the bed so it doesn't get dusty or covered in cat hair.

Coddiwomple it's nothing like borrowing a jumper that's been worn. Closer to borrowing a pair of worn knickers or tights or other close skin-contact item 🤢

We stay at the SIL's every few months for a couple of days (we take MIL up to visit) and the sheets are always dirty (visibly so). I take an extra nighty and put it over the pillow and I take a small blanket/sheet and fold it over the duvet at the top so my face isn't touching dirty sheets. It's gross. And even when she does wash the bedding it's the 14 minute "freshen up" cycle. So it never gets a proper wash at all. It's the cycle she uses for everything.

Grim.

However, when her DH comes here he gets fresh washed sheets every single time. As do my parents when they visit. I assumed this was normal until our visits to SIL began.

Always clean unless I know it's the same person coming next time. Then I don't bother.

Wondermoomin
to be honest, I can't wear other people's clothes, I can't buy 2nd hand clothes either but this thread made me wonder again if I was not too fussy. The point above about a sofa is a good one

(On this note, I have a fabric sofa, hoovered weekly and the covers washed a couple of times a year)

I personally change the bedsheets immediately when people live, so the spare bedroom is always ready, no need to rush if someone turns up suddenly. The sheets might not be fresh (might have been there a few weeks), but they are clean!

Fresh sheets and towels for guests. I don't have a dedicated guest room now but I would strip and remake bed ready for new guests once the old ones had gone. I love the feel of freshly laundered sheets.

Did she give you a used towel, too ?

Grim! Sheets should ALWAYS be changed, even if only slept in for one night. Think of all the sweat and scalp flakes and slobber.

Minging - cant believe sheets aren't changed for different people. Totally clatty behaviour.

Change the sheets, or at least warn them that you don't by suggesting they bring a sleeping bag.

I often feel a bit annoyed having to change the sheets after only one night but I definitely always do. I'm a bit worried about staying at other people's houses now....

We arrived at mils 'oh you don't mind but bil and sil stayed last night - it was only one night'

Yeah my British 'politeness' was missing that night. They're a right randy pair and when I changed the black bed sheet it was quite clear I had been right to 'make a fuss'.

That's rotten. Fuck.

I'm lazy as fuck, but would absolutely have to change the sheets for a guest. I'd be totally mortified otherwise!

A few years back my brother and SIL asked me to stay at theirs to catsit for them for a few nights, sleeping in their bed as it was a one bedroom flat. The whole flat was fucking minging and I felt grimy just being there, but the final straw came when I pulled the sheets back at night to find a substantial amount of old sex stains. God knows when the last time they had changed the sheets was! I went home at that point to sleep in my own clean bed. I still feel quite offended all these years later that they expected me to sleep on that!

I always change the bedding.
Our spare bed is in the loft, and though I'm not up there much, I can't stand an unmade bed, so it's always made.
When someone is coming to stay, I strip it and wash all bedding, then remake the bed. Once they leave, I strip and re wash, then remake.
I wash it before the person arrives so it is nice and fresh, as it has been on for a good fee months (we don't have regular visitors).
I couldn't not.

Yes, anything else is grim.

I change the kids beds too if they're having a friend stay over as they invariably end up sharing, even though there's no need to.

For me, it depends who it was that last used the bed, however, generally the ones I wouldn't mind are the ones that DO change the sheets.

Always change the sheets. The guest room is made p permanently bar the sheet, which is put on the day I know they're arriving. The whole lot covered with a bedspread to prevent dust.

It is minging to give people used sheets. You can always smell the last user. Or at least I can.

If it is a couple or a planned stay then yes = change sheets definitely, as that's what I'd expect in that situation.

If it is one of dh's slobby single mates who crashes at our house out of convenience then no, they'd get whatever was on the bed (we have more than one spare room, one is reserved for these less welcome guests) as we never get any reciprocal hospitality from them so I can't be arsed. Sometimes I've left out clean pillow cases which they can put on themselves which they never bother to do so I guess it doesn't bother them.

Also if same family are staying I don't change sheets eg if my mum stays then sister stays that doesn't bother them or me, but we're a close knit family.

Swinkle.. same thing happened to me and my DH. Stayed at my SIL and the next morning when we got out of bed and there were cum stains on the navy duvet. (Not ours :-) Absolutely disgusting. I refuse to stay again. Just common decency really.

I wash bedding the day before guests arrive, but after they leave I don't change the sheets until the day before the next guests arrive. If I was to sleep in one of the spare beds a night here or there between guests, it wouldn't bother me at all that I hadn't washed the bedding since the last guest.

Only time it's acceptable not to change the sheets is if it's been one night and the same person is coming next time. Otherwise it's a bit yuck.

How does one person sleeping in pyjamas for one night, make material dirtier than the multiple bodies that sit/lay on a sofa, often in the same pjs?

Why do you assume your guests wear pyjamas? and why assume all they do is sleep in the bed?

I'm extremely lax about our own sheets but guests get fresh. I've even changed between my SIL coming last week and again with my MIL this week because I'm not sure who's going to sleep in which bed.