To expect her to change the sheets?

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Just that really.

Went to stay with friends (it'd been arranged a month beforehand so wasn't springing it on them) and went I got in to bed I found a pair of bed socks between the sheets so bed clearly hadn't been changed since someone had slept in it.

Dh is all, 'whatever, I don't know why you bother changing our sheets every time someone stays a night.'

I'm not pissing blood or speechless with rage, more a little 'yuk, not great manners.'

Does everyone else change sheets when someone's stayed at their house or am I ott in doing this?

Hmm depends what friends. Family I won't often get changed sheets for but it's never mucky. More like 'your sister stayed over a few nights ago but only one night' and some friends do the 'bung a musty duvet at you at 1am' and you don't really care by then . If I was going to stay with friends for a planned weekend I'd like fresh sheet though.

My mate changes guest bed sheets when has female friends to stay but not for the males She reckons they're not bothered and I think she's right tbh...

Yes unless my mum is coming back soon and only used them for a couple of nights.

Are they very posh? The very posh parents of my friend at school didn't change sheets between guests (county type posh). I think because v heavy linen. I think the idea was you wore pyjamas or a nightie.

I always change sheets. Not posh.

Oh I can beat that! Went to stay with sil, arrived late at night, slid kids in to bed (in the dark) and woke up to find sheets all covered in menstual blood from her dsd (staying in her room) I was sooooo cross but being British didn't say anything to our hosts

We rented an apartment once for a holiday (on an owners direct type website). Wasn't the cleanest when we arrived. On the last day I was checking under beds for stray socks, books etc..found a used condom...

I would change the sheets on our guest bed but on the other hand wouldnt get too upset about sleeping on unwashed (but appear clean) sheets myself.

Oh good heavens yes, change the sheets. My sister stayed last month and is staying again this weekend - nobody has slept in spare bed since but even so I've washed the sheets!

Grim. I change the sheets of our spare bed before someone comes to stay even if the ones that were on there were clean. Because they might have got dusty.

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Okay, maybe I have a problem.

Oh yes, that's grim. And I've been known to leave changing our own bedsheets for up to a month, but would never inflict those levels of slatternliness on a guest! Fresh bed linen for guests, every time.

As soon as guests leave the bed is stripped and sheets chucked in the machine.

I remember my sister going off at me before because I was trying to be helpful and strupped the bed before I left. She had visitors coming the following weekend and now she'd have to wash and remake it! I was as I think I have the reputation of being messy but there's no way I wouldn't give my guests fresh sheets and towels.

No, I'm afraid not. Some guests yes (my mum for one) but dhs friends who are just crashing here after a night on the piss, no.

That's grim! Sometime I'll leave the sheets on the spare bed after MIL visits but only if she's returning within the fortnight (and no one else is staying!).
Whenever we stay with MIL I strip the beds, put a load of washing on and make up MILs bed before we go.

I change sheets just before a guest arrives, because if it's the last person who slept in them who returns next I don't need to change them. If you see what I mean.

I once slept at a male friend's house and he tried to give me his sleeping bag to sleep in on his housemate's sheet and pillows. Yeuch on so many levels. I politely requested we dig out some clean sheets!

Yuck!

First thing we do when guests leave is strip the beds and wash everything, inc mattress and pillow protectors.

We don't make the spare beds until day guests are due - so everything is all aired and fresh smelling.

I change the sheets and towels between guests.

I always change the sheets after a guest.

True. Might be. I know they'd had a massive row a few days before so it's pretty likely he'd been sleeping in another room

As long as they didn't make up after the argument in that bed

I change the sheets in almost every situation, but if for example my Mum has been staying a couple of days and using DS's bed, I won't necessarily strip off the bedding straight away before he goes back into it. In your situation, I would have been surprised not to have clean bedding

Yuk! Years ago me and a friend went to visit a mutual friend and were staying for the night. She showed us our 'bed' and it turned out it was a tiny sofa bed which her dogs usually slept on - it was covered in hair! Her house was in the middle of nowhere so couldn't make a swift getaway! 😷

I'm a lazy person but even I'd change the sheets before/after guests stay.

it's a good question, why is it considered so gross to sleep in bedsheet where a (single) friend has already spent one night? Couples being a bit different obviously.
I mean, would you refuse to wear a friends' jumper borrowed because you are cold?

I am super fussy, and have used my tshirt as a pillowcase when I wasn't sure the bed was clean enough, but I am wondering if the rest is such a big deal and if we are not over-reacting.

Oh that's really disgusting. My MIL once confessed to not always changing the sheets, if people stayed only one night. My husband and I once arrived for a one-night stay to find the bed unmade and covered in talc or maybe it was athletes foot powder and were so grossed out we had to say to her that the previous occupants had left it in a bit of a mess. Thankfully she was going to change the sheets anyway, we'd just got there before she had the chance. Phew. She's a really good host otherwise.

Disgusting, but I'm sure if DH wouldn't care either. Got to love my MIL who when she comes to stay brings her own pillow case and flat sheet that she sort of wraps herself in, so I don't need to change the sheets for her! I've told her I don't mind changing the sheets but she insists. She's also proud that she sleeps on one side of her double bed for a week, then switches to the other side so she doesn't need to change her sheets as often.