The sound of chewing makes me angry!!

[MineNeverYours]

Not really AIBU topic but I have to bring this up as I'm sure I'm not the only one!!
Is there anyone else who cannot STAND the sound of other people chewing???

Schroedinger Who is the UK specialist?

for your daughter. I hope that the treatment is available very soon.

Trying to get to sleep and dp decides hes hungry and brings shitloads of crisps to bed, ice lollies and all sorts. What to strangle him! Dog grooming in the middle of the night, drives me bonkers

My 6 yr old dd is a really noisy eater. She seems to crunch everything! The other day I had to move away from her because she had a bag of crisps and it sounded so annoying! I haven't ever really noticed if other people do it.

Slurping of hot drinks makes me irrationally angry.
Also the scraping of forks on plates

Me!!! I can literally feel my blood pressure rising having to listen to people.
How do they not hear themselves?!
I've actually tried to eat with my mouth open and making noise and it's harder work. Just close your mouth! There's no need to smack your lips together with every chew.

I was at the theatre last weekend and the dickhead behind me decided to pull out hand cooked crisp- a huge bag! He was chomping down my ear and licking all the salt off his fingers all happily whilst I was sitting in a puddle of sweat thinking of ways to murder him quietly.

I wish it didn't effect me as much as it does.

Oh I've found my people! I've never been able to stand chewing, gulping or ticking clocks.

It has actually harmed my relationships. Struggle to sleep cos of annoying breathing of partners. Can't take in anything someone is saying if they happen to be chewing gum. So many hotel room changes cos air con unit too near my room. Raaaaa.

Like others I have a rain noise app to listen to when I can't sleep. That's my favourite noise.

Curious as to whether other sound-sensitive people like the ASMR videos?

People breathing heavily whilst eating.
People biting their nails
Sniffing
Loud crunching
Mouth breathers
That "nom nom nom" thing some people do when they eat.
All worse when it's family members for some reason.
Makes me miserable sometimes but honestly, it all irritates me to extreme levels!

@ThymeLord
Yes that's it. Bloody love whispering. Libraries are the best.

Who on earth came up with the idea that the chomping of popcorn and sweets in a cinema was a good thing

Someone who realised that cinemas need to make money.

Yes. It makes me very angry and has caused many an argument in our house.
I give noisy eaters the death stare and leave the room.

BadLad I get that they need to make their 400% mark up but popcorn really? It's the noisiest snack ever.

What's wrong with a mega bucket of marshmallows? 😃

My DH has this and to be perfectly honest it pisses me off royally.

It's so INTRUSIVE to know someone in the same room as you hates the sound of your eating!

I want to eat a few crisps and I either have to warn him or leave myself,

We've had to basically agree that only the kitchen is the place for eating.

I'm not saying 'just get over it', because obviously this is a real and serious thing. But it is not other people's problem. Other people are allowed to exist and make noises. The kinds of noises people with misophonia can't bear are NORMAL everyday noises which other people are perfectly entitled to make. Maybe your family and close friends can make accommodations for you, but people in restaurants, offices, public transport are allowed to make noises when they eat, drink, breathe, whatever.

There is treatment for misophonia and if it is seriously affecting your life, you should seek it out.

Bridget exactly. It annoys me that so many seem to just accept it and not seek treatment.

What's wrong with a mega bucket of marshmallows?

I don't know much about cinema economics, but I assume they have done market research and concluded that they make more money if they offer popcorn than just marshmallows.

My daughter has misanphonia. She is a lovely, sweet, and caring person, but mouth/eating noises REALLY bother her. And I mean REALLY bother her. She finds it almost intolerable. She is understanding and gracious, but these noises are torture for her.

Aqua nobody has called into question the fact that people with misanphonia do suffer or called into question the personalities of people with it...but some have questioned the fact that very few seem to seek treatment.

There is treatment.

It's hard for those of us living with people with the issue...as I am...my DH has it and it's very cloying...being made to worry every time we want to eat, that our partner is suffering or feeling angry because of it!

I hate it.

What is the treatment then? Is there any self help anyone knows about. I dread mealtimes with my mum for this reason.

Cognitive behaviour therapy.

For those of you saying there is treatment I laugh

Have you tried accessing it? We've been waiting 16 months after spending 2 years going through the hoops of camhs paediatricians etc to get a diagnosis and we're still waiting

Cbt is a coping mechanism not a cure! I've seen this condition destroy my child's life and it's not her problem it's OUR problem because we are a family

Would you tell an autistic person it's their problem that they're autistic? It's part of the same condition for many sufferers and they need support not condemnation

It's a very misunderstood condition, the first gp I saw rolled his eyes and called DD a naughty girl as he had never heard of Misophonia

Fortunately as a nurse with ENT experience I had and pursued it, in its most severe presentation people commit suicide

Sticklebrix the consultant is based in London, I forget her name but if you go on Misophonia uk she is named there, and thankyou so few understand how bad it really can be, take care

CBT does not cure misanphonia or unscramble the connections which make particular sounds trigger anger. As schroedinger said, at this point it cannot be treated.

My understanding is that CBT does seem to be helpful for some people in controlling angry outbursts related to misanphonia. Not all sufferers and often only in the short term.

I'm not surprised that people don't seek out treatment. You are supposed to seek out a CBT therapist with experience of misanphonia. Not many of those about. Also, your GP is unlikely to be sympathetic, since misanphonia is not widely known or understood. Most people don't even know that they have a physiological condition.

I completely sympathise with PPs who are on the receiving end of misanphonia anger. It is a torturous situation for everyone. The only thing I can say is that the reaction is completely involuntary. It is not an anger management issue. Saying 'don't make it other people's problem!' is akin to saying 'stop having tinnitus!'

Cross posted schroedinger!

Thank you, I will check out that consultant. Your poor, poor DD. Thank goodness you are well informed and able to advocate for her. Fingers crossed that there will be treatment available soon.

I have to wear earplugs in work now to drown out the noise of my boss stirring his coffee and smashing the spoon on the cup. The bloke opposite me eating cereal, why you need to eat cereal IN WORK TIME is beyond me anyway. But he does. And general slurping and so on.

I sat behind a young woman on a train once whose chewing was so horrendous I slipped a note into her bag

I mean, I know that the every day noises but is my problem but people are so fucking inconsiderate and self obsessed that they don't give a shit about how much noise they make in general.

My blood pressure is rising just thinking about it. Earplugs in...

*misophonia!! Not sure why my autocorrect has it wrong!