Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

MIL and Facebook

128 replies

3rdrockfromthesun · 09/07/2017 19:09

I know I am probably being U but my MIL has just announced my engagement on Facebook!!! It only happened last night and I didn't want it on Facebook just yet! I am fuming and am posting here to stop myself ringing her or even worse putting something catty on Facebook

OP posts:
ollieplimsoles · 09/07/2017 19:11

Why are you stopping yourself?

Tell her she has stolen your thunder by announcing it and you didnt want it online yet?
Has she got form?

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 09/07/2017 19:12

Did she know no one else knew yet?
Either way. Give her a call (or dp call her) and say it's not officially announced yet. And get her to remove quickly

MsHopey · 09/07/2017 19:12

Mine announced I was pregnant on Facebook while I was at the 12 week scan. I was not happy. Husband was not happy. I didn't say anything because I have no backbone. But it still mega annoys me.

petitesassygirl · 09/07/2017 19:13

Tread carefully, I know it's annoying but perhaps she was excited? Try to see that as a positive, does it REALLY matter anyway ?

greendale17 · 09/07/2017 19:14

Did you specifically tell her not to put it on Facebook?

rogueantimatter · 09/07/2017 19:14

YY. Good advice.

If absolutely need be you could kind of apologise for not telling her that it isn't public knowledge yet.

Onhold · 09/07/2017 19:14

Isn't it her son's engagement too?

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 09/07/2017 19:15

Urgh I feel your pain. Every single lovely thing that has ever happened to us has to be announced to her and followed with "Do not put it on facebook!"

It's irritating.

BertrandRussell · 09/07/2017 19:15

Did you tell her not to?

youaredeluded · 09/07/2017 19:15

You need to nip this in the bud and put her in her place now. Otherwise you are in for decades of her trying to take over and be the matriarch.

Original poster
3rdrockfromthesun · 09/07/2017 19:16

It was just more that I wanted it not to be 'Facebook official' as there were still people I wanted to tell in person. Just spoken with DP and he agrees with me.

I have just untagged myself from the link. It just makes me think how much she will put on Facebook in the future

OP posts:
MyOtherNameIsTaken · 09/07/2017 19:16

It's not her news to broadcast! Bloody cheek, didn't she announce her own engagement? You can't grab all the attention all the time.

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 09/07/2017 19:16

Onhold yes, it is.

It's not hers though is it? Not her announcement.

TheMysteriousJackelope · 09/07/2017 19:16

At least you now know to announce any life news on Facebook about 10 seconds after telling her, in fact you should probably tell her WHILE updating your Facebook.

NevermindtheBollocks · 09/07/2017 19:17

Regardless of whether she was told she could announce to others or not. It wasn't her news to tell so she should have kept quiet.

I'd be annoyed but I guess there's not much you can do about it now.

Just don't tell her you're pregnant until you've told everyone else.... better yet, let her find out on fb Grin

OliviaTheFox · 09/07/2017 19:17

Get it stopped now. Or you'll find her trying to announce all your news on there.
Mine tried similar to this. She's now blocked.

TheMysteriousJackelope · 09/07/2017 19:18

It just makes me think how much she will put on Facebook in the future

Everything, she'll put everything on Facebook, which is why she will now be the last to know about anything going on. This will be fine as hopefully nobody else will broadcast over Facebook so she won't know she is the last to know.

Onhold · 09/07/2017 19:18

It is her news, it's her sons engagement.

Original poster
3rdrockfromthesun · 09/07/2017 19:18

What annoys me the most is that she said last night that she wasn't going to tell anyone as it was our news 😢

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 09/07/2017 19:19

One of you need to tell her straight.

She'll be naming your kids on FB if you don't nip it in the bud.

NicolasFlamel · 09/07/2017 19:20

Why don't you just tackle it now rather than fuming quietly and wondering what else she'll do in future? Tell her you're annoyed and try to nip it in the bud now.

Onhold · 09/07/2017 19:20

Yes tell her her son belongs to you now. That should do it.

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 09/07/2017 19:23

Onhold you're essentially saying her son belongs to mil though!! It's common courtesy to let people announce their own news before announcing it for them.

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 09/07/2017 19:24

And it's not her news. It's her sons news. Ffs.

seven201 · 09/07/2017 19:25

I'd be pissed off. Get dp to ring her and ask her to take it down. Otherwise she will always do things like this. My mil announced the birth of our daughter with a gooey birth photo that I would never have shared. She was only an hour old when she did it so a lot of people we would have contacted directly found out through that. I was pissed off but too happy about dd's arrival to say anything. She's now got the message though and hasn't put any photos of dd on herself. She does share any I put up and that does piss me off as she has no privacy settings. So I very rarely post pics. I'm not even Facebook friends with her, she can do it if one of our mutual friends 'likes' a photo. Facebook is far too open I think. Sorry, I rambled off on a tangent. Get this nipped in the bud now. Congratulations on your engagement.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread