MIL and Facebook

[3rdrockfromthesun]

I know I am probably being U but my MIL has just announced my engagement on Facebook!!! It only happened last night and I didn't want it on Facebook just yet! I am fuming and am posting here to stop myself ringing her or even worse putting something catty on Facebook

Why do people seriously feel the need to brag about stuff on Facebook?

If you wouldn't meet up with people face to face and tell them, and the only way most of those people will know is by an announcement on the internet, do they really need to know at all? No.

I'd feel very annoyed about this and would have a word with her about it. This isn't even her news to talk about.

Oh dear.

Did you tell her she must not tell anyone?
Although I guess it is her son too.
Maybe she's just happy that he's found someone like you

So she is never to mention anything about her son on FB?

Tbh no one cares about engagements except the couple involved and their families. It's not that big a deal to find out on FB

What the fuck? I'd be so annoyed, specifically because she said herself she wasn't going to tell anyone as it was your news!! Guess she'll have to be last to know about anything from here on in eh?

It is a big deal if a close member of the family finds out on Facebook before the couple tell them themselves. And regardless of anything else-It's not upto anybody to dictate how other people announce their big life events. It's important to the couple and therefore the mil ought to respect that and let them tell people themselves in whatever way they wish.

Best go NC then,OP.

Thanks everyone for your responses. I am going to get DP ring her when he gets home.

Hopefully this doesn't end up on the daily fail - now that would be worse 😫

I blocked all my in-laws on FB. If they weren't commenting on everything constantly they were quizzing me on stuff I'd posted. Did my head in, so found it easier to block them all!

I really honestly hope that I never have sons. Mils are basically satan personified.

Onhold I agree, I'm astonished that BBC news at 6 didn't pick up on the story.
Again, I don't want to have sons. I've said this so many times on MN.

I thinks it's six of one and half a dozen of the other Vlad if I'm honest. Especially after reading MN.

I feel your pain. My BIL announced our engagement, my sister announced my pregnancy and my mum announced and put first pictures of my pregnancy up.

I now tell that part of the family everything last, when we've told everyone we want to before Facebook.

Not her story to tell.

that would annoy me too, someone needs to have a word with her

at least you know what to do about sharing information with her in future - don't let her know until you're ready for everyone on her facebook to know. She can't complain if she's last to know things or if your side of the family get told things before her.....

YANBU!!!

I really honestly hope that I never have sons. Mils are basically satan personified.

I know, it's like the mother of a son ceases to exist when a partner appears

How very dare she be happy and want to celebrate? She'll soon change her mind when she's told off for sharing news.

It's just fucking relentless on MN.

Oh my MIL breathed.
She tried to kiss my dd/ds.
She wore a dress.
She made a fish pie but I'm allergic to all fish.
She wanted to hug my dd/ds.
She bought my dd/ds a teddy bear but it scares him.

I would honestly, if I could, engineer my children so that they are not male. I could not cope with a DiL. I think they're fucking awful.

Did you ask her not to mention it?

It just makes me think how much she will put on Facebook in the future

She cannot put anything about you on FB if you don't tell her.

RainbowsAndUnicorn And if the OP and her partner should go on to have children that will be a whole new thread in the making:

'AIBU to not let my MIL know I gave birth because she announced my engagement'

'AIBU to not let my MIL hold my baby because she announced my engagement'

Just so much shit over nothing. How do mothers of men cope? Please tell me!?

It is relentleas on MN.Thank fuck my DSs GF is normal and doesn't hate me for daring to still have a relationship with my son.

YANBU to ask her to delete it. It is inappropriate to announce someone else's news on social media, especially when you know they haven't told everyone they wanted to tell in person yet (which I assume she knew as she commented that she wouldn't tell anyone).

My sisters did this to me when I got engaged and I was not impressed. There is joy in sharing your exciting news with the people close to you.

I don't hate my mother in law I am just annoyed that she has announced something personal. If I wanted it on Facebook then I would have put it there myself. I just feel there is too much on Facebook as it is. 😶

Did you ask her not to mention it?

From the OP's post;

"she said last night that she wasn't going to tell anyone as it was our news 😢"

It's quite easy to read just the OP's posts, even if the thread is too long to read every single reply.

She's not your MIL yet. Don't fall out with her. In the scheme of things it's not a big deal. She's just happy for you both. Your new fiancé might commiserate with you now but it won't do your relationship any good in the future if you moan to him about her.
Don't dwell on it and enjoy your exciting news! Congratulations!