to make my son stop using his nickname?

[Seriouslybeary]

Namechanger here, if anyone recognises me irl they'll be laughing I'm sure.
When I was pregnant with my 3rd my older kids went through a phase of changing the first letter of their name to B. William Billiam, that sort of thing. Hilarious. Dc3 was born and we named him Carey. So he was immediately called Carey Barey. The B phase has long passed, but somehow Carey Barey stuck and he is now almost everywhere known as Bearey or Bear.
Fine, Bear is a perfectly valid name if you are Cheryl or Jamie Oliver. But it's not the name we chose. And Bearey is just ridiculous.
He gets quite ratty when I write his proper name, and has done since he started recognising letters. At nursery he insisted his name began with B. They asked me what they should do and I told them to just let him use B if he wanted to, assuming he would grow out of it. But no, almost at the end of yr3 and he still introduces himself as Bearey. People I don't really know often say politely "Oh you're Bearey's mum, what an unusual choice of name".
But what can I do now? I've left it too late.

WIBU to insist he uses his proper name now? I would be, wouldn't I?

His teacher for next year is new to the school and y4 up is in a different building so this would be a good time.

Or do I just leave it? Tell me when he gets to secondary school he's not going to still be introducing himself as Bearey? God I hate it so much. How did I let this happen? Me and my dad are the only people who insist on calling him by his proper name. Everyone else thinks Bearey is really cute and full of 'personality'.

I quite like Beven.

I think this lady is on a hiding to nothing: a choice between what is widely perceived as a girl's name for his first name and a term for a stocky and hairy gay man as a nickname. Poor wee sod, high school isn't going to be much fun for him.

Is it too late to r

Lady = lad

Bloody predictive text.

Some of these have made me shake with silent laughter with an asleep baby on my chest!
My little sister is Pooze, from Suzy-poozey... I went into a public loo once and called it out to see if she was in a cubicle, got lots of funny looks 💩

I used to know a tall thin and gormless (ie very non Bear-like) young man known as Bear. This was in the early 80s. His name was actually Rupert so pretty ghastly - this was before Rupert Campbell-Black was invented - and you can guess how his nickname came about.

Anyway I suppose if you are THAT desperate to make him stop using it you can say in ringing tones in front of him: "Oh yes. His name is Carey but he calls himself Barey because he just LOVES Care Bears." But that would be cruel!

Nothing wrong with asking the school office, though, to use his proper name on the registers, books etc, just say in a friendly fashion: "Barey is a baby nickname we think it's time he left behind, obviously we can't force it, but please don't put him in the newsletter as Barey, and definitely not Barry ha ha!"

OP

Sting's mother is probably still hoping he stops using that ridiculous nick name.

I'm a BSL user, in sign language everyone has a 'sign name' to differentiate people, it is often linked to an embarrassing story but your son would have the sign for Bear I'm fairly sure.

Oh and I used to know a Dr who was nicknamed 'scarey carey' due to his lack of skills in the cath lab.

Sorry but I love bear, sometimes you just can't control these things, my nan in the 1920 s was called Elizabeth Rose on her birth certificate, her sister thought she looked like a doll.....her name was Dolly from that day forward. Her grave plaque says Dolly.

I think I would say - from year 4, the register needs to show your official name, and I would like the class and teacher to call you Carey, or your middle name. Of course people will still use your nickname at home, unless it bothers you, and friends can too, unless you want to ask them not to. And maybe link a present or reward to 'mark this big change' and get him focused on coming round to the idea.

My cousin was recently doing a family tree, and I learnt that my uncles Graham and Barrie were in fact George and Frederick but had never used those names.

Toddler DD has many names. We picked a cute shortening before she was born which is how she is known to family, but she is also called Busby quite a lot, as for some reason, my iPad went through a stage of correcting "baby" to "Busby" - so when I was emailing people to say "I've just had a baby" it came out as "I've just had a Busby". From very early, DD would point to herself and say firmly "Bazz-ee" and now uses Busby regularly.

My dad called me 'Blue' when I was still
Living at home (no idea why, nothing like my name). I quite liked it-my friends used to call
Me it and I'd answer to both that and my actual name.
It sort of petered out when I started work unfortunately.
I like the name Bear and I think it sounds cool our dog is called Bear which probably doesn't make you feel better.

Carey is equally bad though

My dd's used to attend junior kindergarten (in Canada) with a boy called Carmine-Luca .He refused to answer to anything but 'buddy'.His parents would be all ' come on Carmine-Luca' and he would ignore them until they gave in and addressed him as Buddy. I would imagine he's going about Toronto quite happily giving his name as Buddy still .

I grew up in the Southern US with lots of Buddies, Bubbas, Bucks, and one Possum. I do think Possum started calling himself something else in college.

I am another bear. Bear Grylls stole it. have another NN that I use as my "real" name. Very few people know my proper name. I had to explain to my dh the day before our wedding. He got the giggles in the ceremony.