Children at weddings

[mintich]

Not exactly AIBU, but what do you think of children/babies at weddings? Do you get offended if they aren't invited? Do you prefer to go to adult only weddings?

I think children make a wedding.

I think the bride and groom do.

Although my nephew, who was about a year old at the time, gurgled and made some fantastic noises throughout the ceremony. It was fantastic, made us and the registrar giggle and broke the ice and calmed our nerves. It doesn't have to be all serious and solemn!

I prefer my children to be invited. Not sure I'd be offended if they weren't but if we had to travel to get to the wedding, I would decline the invitation.

We invited children to ours. They looked good in the photos.

Children at weddings is my idea of hell. And I say that as a mother of two still smallish ones.

Since the birth of my eldest, I've been to four or five weddings and have two in the near future. The only one of those that my daughters will/have attended is their aunt's, as they're bridesmaids. But they'll disappear off in the evening.

There are times in life when it's nice just be with grown ups and weddings count as one of those.

FuckingSausageFingers Yes, this one in particular seemed to be peeved that one of her apparently dear friends had dared to have a baby when she should have cleared 2017 for the wedding of the year.

glitterglitters I stand corrected. Groomzillas are a thing. Who knew!

I am not offended, it is the b&g''s day and it should be what they want.
However bar à handful of very close friends I wouldn't accept the invitation. It is perhaps quite selfish of me but money is quite tight and weddings cost a lot (gift, travel, overnight accommodation etc). I wouldn't be happy blowing that amount of money on a day out without the children.

i'm not offended, but i wouldn't be able to go -easy

glitterglitters he sounds like a great bloke, what a shame he's married!

I see weddings as family celebrations, not an opportunity for a piss-up. I love seeing kids at weddings and I would imagine most people would not be able to get childcare for an entire Saturday day+night, esp if the rest of the family is also comig (i.e. Grandparents, aunts, uncles).

I think those who ban kids from weddings have entirely misunderstood the point of a wedding and have become completely absorbed by the idea of some glamorous night that should be all about how wonderful everything/everyone looks.

Lol he definitely is a bit of a drama queen. The first time I met him, after meeting dh, he tried to tell me a whole host of horrendous stories to "weed me out"

What a charmer. Does make you wonder how much they give a crap about their dh/dw2b when they're so obsessed with certain people attending.

We had three people who just didn't show to our wedding. Did I care? Did I fuck!

Incidentally (and I say this on every thread about childfree weddings, but I think it needs saying!) I think the complaints about childfree weddings are just one more way in which people who don't do things to society's 'right time' get screwed. If you get married wrong it's much less likely to be a problem for you. I got married at 28 and so almost none of my friends had children - we didn't need to ban children, even with them 'all' invited we ended up with one baby and one three year old. If we were holding the same wedding with the same guests six years later we would either need to ban children or allow for another twenty or so 'guests' by adding on everyone's children - and have a wedding with a totally different atmosphere. I find that a lot of the people who are most vicious about childfree weddings didn't actually have to much consider it for their own weddings as they were in that younger camp.

I think every wedding I've been to so far has included children,I prefer it that way and if we were invited to a wedding and children aren't invited we wouldn't be able to go because we have no one to babysit.

If you get married wrong - what an unfortunate typo, it should say 'married young'!

db had huge formal wedding.during vows 3 yr old dn got up on platform with hard shoes and stomped around. his mom got him and everyone laughed.the priest made a comment about beautiful babes and continued.
the reception was for everyone and they had set aside a small dance floor and dining area for the young ones to use so no toes got crushed.
only setback was the coffee bar person didnt realize 5-13 year olds shouldnt be drinking espresso or lattes.took hours to settle them down

only setback was the coffee bar person didnt realize 5-13 year olds shouldnt be drinking espresso or lattes.took hours to settle them down

This is amazing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Not offended but I'd think you were a dick if you said no kids.

We had an accidental +1 at ours. Managed to squeeze her in somehow. The poor girl was mortified. We didn't even know DH mate had a gf - he just assumed she was included - he had never mentioned her and first we knew of her was outside the church

I'm never offended if my DC aren't invited to a wedding. Most of the time, the friends in question haven't seen my children in years. Life gets in the way etc.

I also enjoy going to weddings without DC as I'm not constantly watching them and occupying them whilst I catch up with people. And DC would rather hang out at Nana's than go to the wedding anyway.

We had children at our wedding, about 7 total, and they were all very well behaved.

The parents who didn't bring their kids had more fun though...

I think they can be annoying.

I don't mind if others bring their kids to weddings. I also don't mind if it's a 'child free' invite as I like to go to weddings without my kids otherwise I'd be trailing round after them all the time.

Well, children can up the cost of a wedding dramatically, so I can understand why some couples do without.

The other thing is, for all people say, oh I'll take the baby out if it cries - they don't. And then you end up with a crying baby drowning out the couple saying their vows. This happened at a friend's wedding recently - no one anymore than two rows back could hear a thing.

I think possibly the way we do weddings is the problem, hugely expensive formal dos and small children aren't a good mix. Though I do love a full-on wedding, for all that I think they are a complete waste of time and money!

Never been invited to a no kids one myself though I'm not sure that I'd be offended over it, though I might not bother to look for childcare and instead decline and use up my babysitting favours on something more fun. My DM and DF always declined such invitations on principle as they felt quite strongly about it.

Well, I would find a friend's wedding to be a lot of fun and worth a babysitter, but each to their own. If it was a random acquaintance not so much, but then I've never been invited to anyone other than a close friend's wedding.