I almost feel she wants childcare to trap me in the holidays because she has to work and I don't, I know what I mean but I can't explain it very well lol
I know exactly what you mean. It's the "Oh, it's okay for you, so you should help me out" attitude. Of course, your DH was spot on with the reverse of that - he works hard for you to have the money as a family for you to be able to stay at home with your kids and have fun over the holidays. And, as a result of which, you forego one salary, which is clearly a sacrifice.
As I said on the first thread (seems a long time ago now
, there are pros and cons of being a SAHM (as there are with WORKing). But one of the biggest pros is getting to have that fun time with your children when they're not at school. Why should you give that up for no benefit to you or your DC?