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Original poster

To be horrified by people in changing rooms?

318 replies

Smarshian · 03/07/2017 19:27

I went on a lovely spa day today with a friend as my first day away from my 6 month old dd.
While getting changed for lunch a woman came out of the showers and stood around for about 5 minutes having a chat/getting in my way - right next to me completely starkers! I was getting changed under a towel and my locker was there and the bench the other side of me so I couldn't move without being really awkward as I was obviously using that space.
I wouldn't mind her just getting changed but she didn't, she had a towel round her head and her full bush and boobs out, she wasn't even facing the lockers, it was like she was just parading in my face.
I've no issue with nakedness in changing rooms while getting changed but don't just stand around naked making me feel awkward!
Aibu?

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 03/07/2017 22:31

I haven't RTFT but this reminds me of that Michael McIntyre sketch where he jumps from one set of pants into another with only 0.025 seconds worth of nakedness whereas other blokes will even put their shoes and socks on and have a chat with their mates with their bits still hanging out, they want to be as naked as possible for as long as possible.

Me? I shower and change at home after the gym. I'd never feel right or clean after a communal shower. I can't understand people who cycle to work and/or to to the gym at lunchtime. #verrucas

Fresh8008 · 03/07/2017 22:35

"excuse me can i just get my stuff". When did it become embarrassing to get your stuff. Why so obsessed with other women's bodies?

WonderLime · 03/07/2017 22:37

The question is, would you have asked her to move if she had been dressed?

If yes, then you are a prude and it's your problem. If no, then you need to pull yourself together and say 'excuse me' - your problem again.

YABU. There is absolutely nothing wrong with nudity (we all have bodies under these clothes).

Original poster
Smarshian · 03/07/2017 22:37

Fresh - I think you've missed the point. I could get my stuff. I was just blocked into a corner with my stuff by a naked woman.

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 03/07/2017 22:37

Unless she thrust her full bosom in your face I don't see what's the issue.

You could've moved, averted your eyes or just realised you're seeing exactly what you have in front of you.

normastits5 · 03/07/2017 22:37

I agree with op , it definitely screams look at me . Exhibitionist behaviour and just not British!! However rather than be offended I would have loudly asked her to move her muff out of my face if you please and let me continue my game of ' how fast can I get my kaks on without anyone noticing ' Brits hey what are we like?

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Smarshian · 03/07/2017 22:40

'There is absolutely nothing wrong with nudity" - well in certain situations yes I agree but only necessary nudity - i.e. Getting changed. Nudity in any situation i.e. Public spaces not always ok. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be happy if your neighbour stood at their front door naked all day.

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Elendon · 03/07/2017 22:40

I change under a towel, but it's usually done facing the wall and it's done swiftly.

When I dry my feet is when I see those women who like to parade (and to be honest, they really shouldn't be doing it).

But I'm never horrified by it. Ever. And I do have physical scars to hide, hence the discretion. I don't expect others to follow suit.

Elendon · 03/07/2017 22:42

Not British?

WTA fuck?

WonderLime · 03/07/2017 22:42

well in certain situations yes I agree but only necessary nudity - i.e. Getting changed.

She was in a single sex changing room. She may have stalled getting changed to chat with her friend, but unless she had turned up naked she was getting changed! It was just taking a while.

I find it incredibly hard to see the offence of a nude woman in a woman's changing room - even if it was for a whole 5 minutes!

Notknownatthisaddress · 03/07/2017 22:43

Why do people get so arsey and sniffy when people say they DON'T want to see someone bush, arsehole, and baps? Some people just feel awkward and uncomfortable - for their own personal reasons, which are fuck-all to do with anyone else, and some people just think it's weird to see each other naked. So WHAT if people think like this? Why do people judge and think people are prudes or weird???

People don't have 'strange issues,' and they don't need to see anyone about it. Jeeezus H Christ! They just don't care to see naked people around them and don't want them seeing THEM naked. So fucking what?

And so what if they dance around the streets naked in Iceland and Sweden? Why do people always insist on comparing other cultures to us? This is the UK, NOT ICELAND or SWEDEN.

I have no desire to see people stark bollock naked, and get changed in front of other women who will see me completely naked, but in true mumsnet spirit, LOADS of people are quite happy to dance around naked in front of complete strangers and have always been that way.

Good for you! Give yourself a big fucking fat lollipop.

Not everyone is the same.

YANBU OP.

MusicForTheJiltedGeneration · 03/07/2017 22:43

I can tell who the women with long labia's are....so touchy!

Shock

Excuse ME?!

I don't want anyone being "touchy" my droopy labia thank you. That's why I tie them up in a bun so they don't drag behind me in the street attracting the attention of animals and small children.

sidesplittinglol · 03/07/2017 22:45

There is no problem - it is a changing room; people take their clothes off. Why should they feel they have to do this discreetly or speedily?

Do it behind closed doors in a cubicle. Not everyone wants to see you naked. Why do you assume people would want to?

I can see no reason at all why they should do this.

Really!?!?

What is wrong with labia?

It's too much nakedness for the eyes of other people to bare. Have some modesty and grace.

Flyinggeese · 03/07/2017 22:45

Elendon it's true (a generalisation of course)! Lots of posters mentioning other countries e.g. Iceland and Sweden where attitudes to nudity are (broadly speaking) different.

What's your objection to the comment?

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Smarshian · 03/07/2017 22:47

Also approx 50% of my family are Swedish (on my mums side) and not once have I seen any of them naked. Apart from the children when they were little. Maybe those particular Swedes are prudish as well as they also don't prance around unnecessarily naked.

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VeryButchyRestingFace · 03/07/2017 22:50

It's too much nakedness for the eyes of other people to bare. Have some modesty and grace.

That did make me 😂

Original poster
Smarshian · 03/07/2017 22:50

I say she wasn't getting changed as she entered the changing area from the showers naked and remained naked until I eventually asked her to move out my way so I could leave once I was dressed. I do not know if she left naked but she certainly entered that way from the showers Grin

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AssignedMentalAtBirth · 03/07/2017 22:52

Ha, just wait until there are hairy cocks in the changing room. Won't be long - see Canada

AssignedMentalAtBirth · 03/07/2017 22:57

OP I was just blocked into a corner with my stuff by a naked woman

You might want to consider the police if she was ACTUALLY intimidating you. Was she?

Tardigrade001 · 03/07/2017 22:57

If someone doesn't like seing people naked, maybe they should avoid changing rooms altogether!

Flyinggeese · 03/07/2017 22:58

Has anyone seen the episode of Miranda (love it or hate it, I know) which has a scene on this very subject? I'll try and find...

JayneAusten · 03/07/2017 22:59

Meh, who cares. So she was naked - honestly what difference does it make to anything?

scorchioinJune · 03/07/2017 23:02

I walk round naked at home, breastfed openly, go topless at the beach and had showers with women after playing rugby ( but we were a team and spent 90 minutes with heads between each other's legs)
Still think it's unecessary to parade around in a changing room. It's still a shared space. It's for changing into clothes not spending time without them.

exWifebeginsat40 · 03/07/2017 23:04

i'd like to congratulate vestal virgin on their attempt to crowbar the spectre of men with cocks and balls and dresses into the conversation.

exWifebeginsat40 · 03/07/2017 23:05

oh, and a late entry here from assignedmentalatbirth. pardon my french.