Pissed off that DD is moving out

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DD is 21, recent graduate. Think she's making a stupid mistake in moving out - have always thought that rent is a game for mugs. I never rented, neither did DH and subsequently we own a house. All this airy-fairy talk of jobs and sharing a flat with her boyfriend/mates in London, miles away from her actual home. AIBU in nagging her to come to sense?

Is this a reverse? Your daughter is planning to get a job in London and move there? Sounds like she is growing up.

Most young people rent for a while before buying, regardless of where they live.

I can't tell if you're for real or not.

Of course she should move out at 21. I was renting at that age and bought my first house at 25.

Can't imagine why she wants to move out

Living at home for a few years isn't going to magic up the extortionate amount needed to buy a property. Get a grip.

She is 21. She can decide where her 'actual' home is. If you treat her decisions and independence with this much contempt in front of her then I can understand why she wants to move out.

miles away from her actual home

I suspect this is the real problem. She's 21, your home can't be her home forever

This is a joke right?

What?!? She's 21. Let her live her life how she sees fit. Are you for real? I'm staggered that you feel you can stop her being an independent young woman.

I wouldn't want to live with you either.

Yabvu how long do you want her to stay at home for? She's 21 moving in with friends/boyfriend is very common and will probably be the making of her, independence, sorting out all the bills, cooking. Cut the apron strings let her make her own decisions. And if London is the destination of choice she'd be living at home a hell of a long time to be able to buy something there.

Renting is a mugs game? Newsflash: not everyone can afford to buy!

Erm... Huh?!

Erm, what? Many, many people rent because they cannot afford to buy a house or flat.

If you're annoyed that your daughter is moving out because you're offering to buy her a house, YANBU.

But if you're annoyed that your daughter is moving out because she cannot afford to buy a house and you're not offering to help her buy one, YABU.

Also, isn't it a positive thing that she's moving out? It shows that she's independent and ready to make her own way in the world.

I moved away for uni at 18, over 200 miles from home. Rented in 3 different cities before buying at 32. I don't think I'm a mug at all!

Also OP what do you mean when you say that you and your DH never rented? How did you earn enough money to buy somewhere without renting first?

A job, a flat with her boyfriend/mates? How very dare she grow up.

Cut the cord Ma Bates.

Sounds like a reverse to me.

Why would anyone want to tie down a young woman either to their parents' house or with a mortgage I can't think. Surely it's a time to be footloose and fancy free!

My dad did agree with this and very generously leant me the money for a depositi when I was 23. But in retrospect it was a mistake, so not something I will encourage for DD.

Great, that makes me a mug then!

She probably can't wait to get away

Slightly off topic, but what's a "reverse"?

Bullshit!

I call reverse.

"Fernando, you’re twenty two years old and you’re spending your Saturday afternoon in bed with a girl, you’re wasting your life. It’s a beautiful day. Take her out to a local fort or a Victorian folly."

Don't blame her!

Are you joking?