To feel a bit shit that nobody sponsored me?

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I signed up to do the 10,000 steps a day thing for Cancer Research. I put my fundraising page on FB, Twitter but not one person has sponsored me. I know money's tight for most of us at the moment, but to not raise even a penny makes me feel shit. AIBU to take it so personally?

I was just trying to explain why I or someone like me wouldn't have sponsered you OP, I wouldn't be able to train for anything either with 2 under 2. I haven't read the full thread, sorry, bit from what I've read it seems that 10,000 steps would be a big achievement for you. In which case if I knew your circa and saw you post I may well have sponsered you.

I'm doing a 5K race for life and the great North run this year. Did them last year too. No one sponsored me. Not my problem. I share the links and do my part by doing the training/race/event, if people can't sponsor me, oh well.

OP, is there a link to your sponsorship page?

Oh god poor you - I am sure this was not the response you expected

I have very few family friends (sad but just the way it is) and am also enormously shy - so I would never seek sponsorship for that type of thing I would probably just pay the required amount myself personally. To be honest the large sometimes out of proportion amounts of sponsorship required to do certain charity events just puts me off them

Why does your self esteem depend on how much money other people give to charity?

Quite. You will be happier in life if you look to internal sources of happiness rather than external.

It is really annoying that lots of thinks I want to do (like L2B bike ride) are all "for charidee" and I don't want to ask for sponsorship cos it is for fun, so I end up paying the event entry cost and then being guilt tripped into chucking another £50 in for the charity.

I am a keen long distance runner and have long ago stopped doing big well publicised races, as they are mostly charity events and require sponsorship. I don't have much family and only a small circle of friends I was able to ask to sponsor me.
There are a lot of smaller events around that don't require you to collect money.
Try and get yourself motivated by seeing the funpart of exercising, rather than raising money. If it is exercise you want get together with some friends and walk, run, bike or swim whatever floats your boat. It will help with self-esteem as well. Just give some of your own money to your chosen charity if you feel you want to.

Forget this sponsor thing,,why do people need sponsoring? Just get YOUR money and send it to the charity. I am pretty mean but i do sometimes send money to a select charity that i believe will not waste it on fat salaries for Guardian reading professional leeches or fancy cars and offices.

Friend of mine posted on FB that she's taking part in a 100 mile cycle around London to raise money for a charity which is close to her heart. Will definitely sponsor her - it's a real challenge.

10,000 steps a day is not noteworthy. Sorry.

well at least you weren' t asking for ballooning in some exotic location.good luck..perhaps friends are just slow off the mark

I walk around 20-25.000/ day. Where's my money? Wtf, OP?😂

I think if people are going to donate to a cause they will without reason. Also fb is swarming with requests for sponsers. Many people will have seen a good few people looking for sponser for the same event and it adds up.

10,000 steps a day is not noteworthy. Sorry.

I think it is if circumstances mean you would usually only manage a fraction of that.

Ok for those of you hard of reading I'll reiterate:

1. 10k steps a day wasn't a challenge I just plucked out of thin air it was an event thought of and promoted by Cancer Research.
2. I do understand that most people are suffering from sponsorship fatigue/don't have spare cash/want to sponsor things closer to their own heart.
3. None of it was a personal slight on me.
4. 10k per day is a challenge for me, I have asked for people NOT to come on and just smugly post '10k steps is nothing, I do a million steps before breakfast' as I find it deeply upsetting to read this. Whilst I accept this is my own issue, it's not nice to just piss over someone's feelings.
5. I do understand that some people do feel 10k isn't worthy of sponsorship, I accept that, but please see point 4.
6. Some lovely posters on here have messaged me and sponsored me so I have achieved some good out of all of this.

And 7. I'm not asking for money for me, whichever PP said 'where's my money' has spectacularly missed the point

I always sponsor if the person is doing something for a charity I know if close to their heart for a particular reason and it is the first time they have done it. I don't really look at what they're doing as I assume that whatever it is will be a challenge for them. Conversely, I don't sponsor people who are always running marathons as while it may be a challenge for most, it isn't for them if they can do several a year. I also feel that they are doing the activity because they enjoy it rather because they particularly want to raise money.

10k per day is a challenge for me, I have asked for people NOT to come on and just smugly post '10k steps is nothing, I do a million steps before breakfast' as I find it deeply upsetting to read this. Whilst I accept this is my own issue, it's not nice to just piss over someone's feelings.

I totally agree. 10k would be an impossible challenge to me (if I had to do it in one go) and all the smug posters coming on to say how many they do in a day are quite irritating!

I Would like to see a much bigger focus on cancers which have really poor survival rates and I don't feel that CRUK are transparent enough about this.

Me too. Pancreatic cancer wasn't even on my radar until a close friend died from it last year & then I found out how bad the survival rates are and how little funding it gets.

So I signed up for a 10K (having started the C25K not long beforehand) and posted regular sweaty post-training photos on Facebook.

Yes, I got much fitter & healthier while training. Yes, I enjoyed the challenge. Yes, I covered my costs & made a donation myself. But there's no way on earth I could have raised over £2,000 without the run.

Jesus some people on here are thick. The OP has reiterated about 20 times why she feels sad. Piling on over and over with the same points doesn't make you look witty or clever, it just makes you look illiterate and bitchy.

And seriously, the money is not for her ffs, it's for a bloody charity. Unless you are insinuating otherwise.

maybe OP can ask for the thread to be deleted now x

I have sponsorship fatigue too. So many asking, so I have to only pick a few.
In March, loads of my friends did the Marsden march. I sponsored 2 of my friends. I had another friend ask why I hadn't sponsored them and in the same breath mentioned our mutual friend receiving care in the Marsden hospital. I explained I can't sponsor all 12 friends doing the same event. I was annoyed by her guilt tripping me tbh.

I know you don't want to hear that people don't think 10000 steps is very much, but it really isn't, and that's why you didn't get sponsored I'm afraid. Plus most people actually hate being asked to sponsor something when a) it's not their chosen charity b) they already donate elsewhere. At least on social media it can be easily ignored unlike the old days of a form coming round the office! Don't take it personally.

I feel for you OP. I did the same challenge in March and for me it was a huge thing going out for a walk on my own, every single day, particularly after dark. Luckily I did get some sponsorship.
Be proud that you did it and that you have now raised some money.

I understand how you feel a bit there. I shaved my head for Macmillan Cancer Support and raised £80. My husband and I were the only ones who donated. I had it on my twitter and facebook as well as telling friends and family in person. No one cared enough to even share my page, let alone donate. And yet they were all saying how brave I was after I did the shave.

No one cared enough to even share my page, let alone donate. And yet they were all saying how brave I was after I did the shave

That wasn't the kind of "brave" they meant, most likely.

Many of the same comments to OP also apply here.

Why is shaving your head something to sponsor? I don't get it. It doesn't take any effort.