AIBU to ask your advice on wether it's worth taking my Neighbours from hell to court?

[Totallyattheendofmyrope]

I've had threads on here about my neighbours from hell.
We've been threatened, sworn at harassed and our visitors harassed.
We have involved the police who initially wanted to issue a harassment order against said neighbours but were overruled by their superior officer who said " it never ends well in neighbour disputes"
The actual abuse has reduced significantly though we still endure low level harassment.
I'm keeping notes etc as recommended by the police.
I've pushed for mediation and have met with the mediator however neighbours are stalling and I doubt very much they will attend.
Currently the favourite form of harassment is to park their vehicles to make it quite difficult for me to park. I can get in and I can get out but I do dread weekends and I dread coming home as I'm always so anxious about what they will have done and will I be able to get in ok etc.
I have checked my deeds and they are blocking my "easement ' and it states in the deeds that no one is allowed to do anything to hinder another's ingress and egress.
Currently the neighbours are freely enjoying and utilising the easement I honour and provide them with on my land.
So- Aibu to consider starting legal proceedings or am I just feeding into their crazy?
What would you do?

We're not going to move.

From September we'll all be very busy and won't be around so much.

At the moment it's a big problem for twat neighbour us being at home.
I have asked around a little and from what I understand she kind of martyrs herself at having a dh who works away a lot. I think she's very resentful of us being at home together.

Someone up thread said that the problem is we're in her radar and have become her focus.

I think this is very true.

I think it'll be very important how the next couple of weeks unfold.

Oh wow! I've been reading this from when you first started posting and I just can't believe what is going on @Totallyattheendofmyrope - I feel for you and your family. It sounds like your neighbours are going to use every trick in the book. And I agree with the PP re: you're their focus now - they've obviously got a seriously unhealthy obsession with your family and I doubt anything could alter that as it has gone on for so long and to such extremes.
Sorry I don't have any advice, just wanted to de-lurk and give you some

Op, I am completely shocked about you getting a PIN.

If the Police had dealt with this properly sooner then it would not have escalated into this situation, you really must complain. How appalling that they failed to serve the PIN on the grandfather and, yes, what exactly does "he knows what's right?" mean in this case? Go to town on the Police with your complaint, they deserve no less.

It's very telling that you did all the right things and yet it has done you no favours whatsoever.

Sadly, I don't think you have any other option but to take this matter further now.

Can you get your visitors to make statements supporting you if they have witnessed or been on the receiving end of the twats behaviour? Any chance your friends or visitors might let slip about his behaviour and where he works on social media?

If you go ahead with the mediation, good luck.

Honestly- you'd need to have nerves of steel dealing with this shit

Thank god I do

and a well utilised beer fridge

WTF. YOU got a pin. I'm openmouthed. This is just unbelievable.

Now is the time for a huge complaint to the police.
The neighbours have wages a war of harassment on you, not only have the police completely let you down but they have now put a pin on you.
I wouldn't stop at this. I'd take it as far as possible.
Id probably now take this to the media to show how inept the police have treated this, and twat neighbours work as you have nothing to lose.

I wouldn't go to the media.

I would complain and also approach your MP.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I remember from when you posted before. It's infuriating for you all.

The thing is- his pin states he's to refrain from twat parking!!
He still is.
He's even told a police officer he does it deliberately.

Madness

@shallichangemyname

PINs should not be used when there is clear evidence of actual harassment

And that's the crux of the matter. There isn't. From what I read from the OP nothing has been caught on camera. From the police's point of view there are multiple reports of low level petty behaviour from both sides. People looking out of their windows, sneering, laughing etc are simply behaviours that are not going to interest the police/courts. I'd imagine the local Neighbourhood team are probably just as sick of it as you are. Both of you have been served with a PIN as there are counter allegations from each other. Neighbour disputes are hated. They're nigh on impossible to solve, both parties firmly believe they're in the right and there are very rarely substantive offences to investigate, and they drag on for years. That's why there's such a push for mediation

While they can be controversial (in that they are given out so easily they are susceptible to abuse) in your case I think it is a very weak response by the police. Particularly where there are children involved and therefore child protection issues
This really is not a child protection issue by any stretch of the imagination!

I am so sorry you're still going through all this. Couldn't you explain to the police in writing with video and photographic evidence that it is literally impossible to do what you've got the PIN for?

Meh... the police can't really do anything tbh

Most people don't want to live like this but I fear it's feeding a need for attention for neighbour, she's getting lots out of it iyswim?

I love the house & our other neighbours and I'm usually quite resolute but really?? Life is far to short for this nonsense.

You need to go back to what you said earlier and start talking to twats senior employers

It won't work now- the pin on them would have given me legitimacy- leveridge- now it looks like 6 of and half a dozen of the other.
It could also look like harassment on my part.

I mean there really is bigger problems in the world but it is very frustrating.

I'm unsure about making a complaint to the police, does anyone have any experience of this? Is it worth the trouble?

I would have said that previously you wouldn't want to do anything that jeopardised your squeaky cleanliness. But now you've got the pin you don't really have anything to lose? So they've shot themselves in the foot there.

Bloody hell Totally, I cannot believe this is still ongoing

I've been keeping up piecemeal but never had anything much to say, but I wonder if it's worth you and dh having dashcams fitted to your cars, some film front and rear. It would at least give you a record of every single time you struggle to get in and out, and of their leering.

We have dashcams! I've shown footage to the officer of her tailgating me then cutting me up
Despite evidence on our part it's not making a blind bit of difference...
They issued a pin on us with totally refutable claim- some impossible and not a shred of evidence.

Of to the solicitors appointment now ....

Good luck

Good luck with the solicitor today!

Good luck from me too. I wonder if your tenants had similar experiences and if so would they be prepared to support your side? I'd consider using the police complaints procedure, I'd feel very let down about their lack of consistency.

Some people are really nasty for no apparent reason, you may never get to the bottom of 'why'.

They issued a pin on us with totally refutable claim- some impossible and not a shred of evidence

I think you're placing too much stock in what a PIN actually is. They're just warnings. They don't need evidence to support and they're not any sort of conviction. They're not worth the paper they're printed on legally.

I'm new to this thread
On page 1 I was thinking you should see a solicitor so I'm really glad you are.
They sound absolutely cray cray.

I wouldnt care if a pin was nothing , it would be the audacity

The audacity?

The thing is now the OP is going to be wary of coming and going from their house as they now run the risk of a bogus claim/threat every time as OP have no way of not going past the next neighbour's.