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AIBU to ask your advice on wether it's worth taking my Neighbours from hell to court?

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 21/06/2017 21:04

I've had threads on here about my neighbours from hell.
We've been threatened, sworn at harassed and our visitors harassed.
We have involved the police who initially wanted to issue a harassment order against said neighbours but were overruled by their superior officer who said " it never ends well in neighbour disputes" Confused
The actual abuse has reduced significantly though we still endure low level harassment.
I'm keeping notes etc as recommended by the police.
I've pushed for mediation and have met with the mediator however neighbours are stalling and I doubt very much they will attend.
Currently the favourite form of harassment is to park their vehicles to make it quite difficult for me to park. I can get in and I can get out but I do dread weekends and I dread coming home as I'm always so anxious about what they will have done and will I be able to get in ok etc.
I have checked my deeds and they are blocking my "easement ' and it states in the deeds that no one is allowed to do anything to hinder another's ingress and egress.
Currently the neighbours are freely enjoying and utilising the easement I honour and provide them with on my land.
So- Aibu to consider starting legal proceedings or am I just feeding into their crazy?
What would you do?

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AngelaTwerkel · 15/08/2017 21:51

What a total and utter loser. I'm sorry OP.

Allice · 15/08/2017 22:44

Just read the whole thread, I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 16/08/2017 09:58

Wow! I've just read the whole thread too, Confused. What is twatskys issue with you reversing up the drive?

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 10:10

FAB-
They don't want me to reverse up my drive because in order to do so I encroach on their land. We do have an easement for exactly this reason Confused also they wouldn't even know we were doing it if they didn't watch for us- we would never pull up outside their house iyswim
The kicker is they use our easement on our property all the time.

I've just had an email from the sergeant she wants to come and see me today at 11.30 for an "update".

I can only assume this is because they've not served the pin on grandad with an excuse I'm sure or because the tears have made further complaints about me.

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FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 16/08/2017 10:40

Right I (sort of) get you, good luck with the officer, don't worry about the occasional 'wanker' slipping out, I imagine they have you painted as a smug, stuck up bitch! Prove them wrong Grin

piefacedClique · 16/08/2017 11:05

Are the wooden ramps still there op?

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 11:24

When we left in Saturday the wooden ramps were their... I absolutely dreaded coming home that night, I just knew they were ramping up. I already spoke to dh and told him if we got home and the neighbours dc were out in the drive we had to park on the road. For our own protection iyswim ( now I know they have been making false police reports about us coming at them with cars- this is wise).

Anyway...when we got home theramps we're gone. The house was locked up tight...still twattily parked but quiet as mice.

I now know this was the evening they got their first visit from the police regarding the pin...so the officer will have had to climb over the ramps to access their property.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 11:24

*there

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kali110 · 16/08/2017 11:52

Do you have pics of the ramos?
Id tell the officers you want to make a complaint regarding ypur treatment.
Its a joke.

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 13:07

Star to the poster up thread who said I'd be receiving a pin.

The update the officer was giving me was actually a pin for me.

You couldn't fucking make this shit up.Sad

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notapizzaeater · 16/08/2017 13:17

Omg ! I'm speechless ......

ImDoingLaundry · 16/08/2017 13:27

You've got a pin?? Wtf for?!

Motherbear26 · 16/08/2017 13:31

I'm so sorry this has happened, the police clearly can't see the woods for the trees. You really need to escalate this now, please. They assaulted your daughter in front of witnesses and no action has been taken. Go through your solicitor and ensure the police know you won't be messed around any longer.

KatyBerry · 16/08/2017 13:34

as I understand it, if you make a formal complaint against the police, they are obliged to follow formal procedure to investigate it and establish what has happened. YOu may wish to consider that route as well.
Does your PIN specify what you've supposedly done?
Of course if any of it is not true and they are unable to prove that it's not true, your solicitor may wish to refer to that slander / libel.

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 13:34

The female twat has called the police 22times to say that I have driven in front of her property and looked in her window and laughed.
The fact that they park their cars to make the possibility of me doing that appears to be lost on the police.
Mr twat has said that my dh threatened him in may..... I think he's talking about the incident where he threatened dh in marchConfused
I regularly photograph and video the Twats leaving their property.

The twat grandfather didn't get his pin as he said we were laughing at him and the officer spent an hour with him as he visited the station yesterday and she didn't feel it was appropriate but she reassures me that "he knows what is right" Hmm
Not sure what that meant.

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TheMShip · 16/08/2017 13:34

It was poster shallichangemyname:

^If the police anticipate a counter-complaint, you might find that you also get served with a PIN.
If you do, refuse to sign for it and refuse to accept it and go in and complain.
But, like the neighbours, the PIN will be recorded on the local and national databases for a year. The best you can do is ask for a note to be put on it that you refused to accept it and deny the allegations being made.^

TheMShip · 16/08/2017 13:36

Sorry, italics fail. Did you refuse to sign?

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 13:37

They also said I superglued a note to their visitors car

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annandale · 16/08/2017 13:37

I would definitely move, I'm really sorry. There is no possible good ending to this unless they move first. You have got lives to live. These people are so exceptionally nasty and so willing to put all their energy into exquisitely torturous and yet completely deniable abuse that it would be an act of sanity to walk away now.

Explain to your buyers that there has been an entirely personal dispute but that Family Nemesis maintain good relations with NDN2.

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 13:51

I have an appointment at the solicitors tomorrow- so I'll get some advice at where I stand from a civil point of view.

There's no point trying to avoid it on record as it is now anyway!

Of course, the twats want to do mediation again but I'm not convinced that it will come to anything. I can't imagine they will sit in a room with us so I expect more stalling.
The police want to do the mediation - they said they don't normally but in this case it will be beneficial- so it will happen at the station.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 14:00

I didn't sign! Does anyone ever!!?

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TheMShip · 16/08/2017 14:00

You may as well do the mediation, I guess. It's such an incredibly simple thing - they should not be parking on the part of the drive over which you have an easement. Can you ask for shuttle mediation, where you sit in different rooms? I have no idea if this is possible, just something I've heard about for divorce cases.

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 16/08/2017 14:09

I'm happy to do face to face no problem for me- I haven't lied!!
They asked for shuttle originally so I agreed Noe they're claiming they refused mediation last time as they didn't want shuttle!!!
The truth is- they wouldn't know the truth if there life depended on it.

It's very simple park properly and leave us alone

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TheMShip · 16/08/2017 14:20

Actually, that's quite true. Sitting in the same room and behaving calmly, telling the truth, and asking for those two very simple things will go a long way to making them look like the idiots they are.

I do agree with previous posters that a complaint to the police is in order. They've been seriously incompetent throughout.

FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 16/08/2017 15:17

Do you know, I would go round cap in hand, and say 'okay, you win' put your house up for sale and move - whether you lose money or not. This isn't worth it, Karma will bite the nasty bastards hard on their arses one day.