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Original poster

To complain about screaming teachers

156 replies

user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 20:00

Since DD went to secondary school she has been complaining about teachers "screaming."

According to her, when a child gets in trouble they are screamed at.

At first I ignored this but it's really starting to unsettle DD.

WIBU to ask to speak to someone about it?

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SmileEachDay · 21/06/2017 21:50

YABU for changing your number format within a sentence.

Shit. You're right. I can't even admit what my subject is, Si Blush

pieceofpurplesky · 21/06/2017 21:54

Why was the teacher struggling? Why were the children not quiet - if it gets to the point someone senior needs to come in it generally means the pupils are not behaving. Teachers should not have to shout - sadly pupils are not respectful of that

Piggywaspushed · 21/06/2017 21:54

To add, I personally don't think it is often conducive or constructive to shout at a gathered large group of students. Our HT does this to whole year groups and it feels very negative (and can badly backfire). But that is when I think it has been a bit unwarranted.

But I don't really think it is for parents to intervene in this case - other than to let the school know about the video.

KittyVonCatsington · 21/06/2017 21:54

Piggywaspushed - Excellent post further up. Agree with everything you said.

OP, you now say I've heard it in Assembly. So you've actually sat in a secondary school morning assembly? Hmm Or you've watched a video filmed by a student (possibly your daughter?) of an assembly and you don't think there is something wrong with that in itself?

And no, I don't think your daughter is a lying little madam. I just think she is a typical secondary school pupil.

KittyVonCatsington · 21/06/2017 21:57

X post again-aargh! Can't keep up Grin

Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 21:58

You've just decided my DD is the sort of girl who misbehaves. You are so so wrong. She doesn't even have a phone.

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MaisyPops · 21/06/2017 21:59

When I (or any pastoral staff or members of behaviour team) have to go into a lesson and address a class usually that's because there is enough going on that means the class needs talking to.

What you also find when you do investigations is that good kids will admit that there's a lot of fringe kids (who aren't the worst offenders) egging on the ring leaders and laughing along. Talk to the class, squash the fringe students because really they are nice kids who try it on but would be mortified if home knew how they were acting and then pull the ring leaders.

Personally, I think it's interesting that a member of staff had to send for behaviour support into a class and a student in that class felt it was appropriate to video a member of staff on their phone and yet OP doesn't think there is an issue with that all! I think it tells you all you need to know about the class (though as ever there will be amazing children in there).

PortiaCastis · 21/06/2017 22:01

Who filmed the video in assembly ?

Piggywaspushed · 21/06/2017 22:01

I don't think anyone said that user. Most have assumed she is scared of the teachers..

How/ where have you seen the video?

Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:01

I absolutely think there is an issue. I am unhappy with the behaviour.

But shouting, screaming, as a response to all poor behaviour is not good. Surely?

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RainyDayBear · 21/06/2017 22:03

From what you've said, I'd be far more concerned about the behavior of the students than the staff, to be quite honest!

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user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:03

It was on Facebook.

I am concerned it is just seen as an acceptable way of dealing with things at the school. The woman in question (HOY) has always been pleasant when I have seen her. So it came as a surprise.

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MrsDustyBusty · 21/06/2017 22:03

You're very defensive here, OP. Obviously your daughter is an angel among children, but wouldn't you possibly be better getting her to toughen up a bit rather than complaining to the school? I mean, you're planning to tell adults what tone of voice to use on the say so of a teenager.

Does nothing strike you as odd about that?

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user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:03

I suspect one is leading to another Rainy

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SmileEachDay · 21/06/2017 22:03

OP

No one has said it's a good response.

What is it you want from this thread?

Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:03

I'm defensive because I'm defending my daughter.

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echt · 21/06/2017 22:03

But shouting, screaming, as a response to all poor behaviour is not good. Surely? So this happens every time?

Who videoed the assembly?

Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:04

Advice.

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Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:04

No idea; a child I presume.

Must have been someone in y7 or 8.

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Piggywaspushed · 21/06/2017 22:04

But you aren't Ofsted user !
Try to get your DD to see it from the teachers' point of view and to understand it isn't directed at her?

SmileEachDay · 21/06/2017 22:05

It was on Facebook.

Oh FFS.

Seriously? You've informed the school right?

PortiaCastis · 21/06/2017 22:05

So a child has filmed a teacher and put said video on fb .
What was the teachers reaction to that?

Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:05

I have. As I've said I have been dismissing what she's been saying for ages.

Then I saw it for myself.

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Original poster
user1498071458 · 21/06/2017 22:05

The teacher was aware the assembly was being filmed.

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MrsDustyBusty · 21/06/2017 22:06

I'm defensive because I'm defending my daughter.

From what? You're giving partial and evasive answers so posters are filling in the blanks, but nobody knows you or your daughter so why not give the actual whole story and leave blubbing about how everyone is a meanie for another time?