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To have not removed DS from tea room?

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OtAndBothered · 19/06/2017 18:14

Went for day out to national trust abbey today with DH, DS1 (4) and DS2 (2). It's obviously very hot and DS2 was becoming cranky so we came out of the abbey and headed for a little tea room in the village. Sat down with cakes and drinks and DS became more agitated with the heat and started crying. I tried to pacify him but he became more and more upset so DH and I took it in turns to comfort him whilst also trying to each our lunch. It didn't help that the tea room was an old stone building so the cries were magnified and echoing.

Anyway an old couple stood up and started to leave having evidently not touched their lunch. The waiter said to them "are you leaving already? Is there a problem with the food?" So the old woman said "no but we came in here to relax and it's hardly a relaxing atmosphere unfortunately". The waiter replied "I'm so sorry about the noise" and shot us the most evil glare.

DH became agitated and embarrassed saying we should just leave but the alternative was to take DS outside where it was even hotter where he would have cried and screamed even more! I told DH we should just stay and finish our lunch and try and get DS to drink. Anyway eventually he started drifting off to sleep but then a loud noise woke him up with a start and he began screaming. At this point a younger woman slammed her cup down and snapped "for gods sake!". Her husband looked embarrassed and told her to "just leave it" to which she replied "I can't, the racket is giving me a headache! So much for peace and quiet!"

She shot me a look so I said "I'm sorry, he's obviously hot and bothered, it's not exactly relaxing for us either but it's even hotter outside so I'm not sure what you expect me to do?". She seemed to soften up and replied "no, I'm sorry, it's just that people come in here to relax and the noise is deafening, everyone is leaving for that's reason! Can't you take him for a walk or something?" Shock.

Anyway I said "no sorry, as I said it's hotter outside and my other child is still finishing his lunch". With that DH overheard the waiter apologising to customers coming in about the noise. Afterwards DH said I was selfish and we should have just left but I'm not sure what anyone expected me to do! It was 32 degrees outside, he was crying because he was hot! Taking him back outside would have made him much worse and there were people "relaxing" out there too so surely we'd have ended up in more bother?!

OP posts:
Floggingmolly · 23/06/2017 11:48

I genuinely didn't realise it was a joke, Big?

Oh and press your little report button if you feel the need, Finally Confused. God knows why you feel this has anything to do with you?

Lweji · 23/06/2017 11:50

Is Grin not enough these days?

Do we have to put
[WARNING: THIS IS A JOKE]?

Grin

BTW:
[WARNING: THIS IS A JOKE]

Lweji · 23/06/2017 11:52

I suppose it's another thing that only men do.

Zippydoodah · 23/06/2017 11:57

I can see how it was difficult to decide what to do for the best, given that you wanted to be both fair on the other child, who was behaving and the people around you.

I can understand how fellow diners would find lunching with a screaming infant impossible but I do feel for you. I've been in the situation where I've wanted the ground to swallow me up many a time because of my children.

But you have to remember that the screaming was 20 minutes of their lives and it's not going to have any long term effect on them so keep it in perspective.

So put it behind you and choose a more child friendly environment next time until he is a bit older. That is what I would do/have done.

FinallyThroughTheRoof · 23/06/2017 12:00

I think im allowed to tsk at someone who was deleted twice for PAs on me.Smile

StormTreader · 23/06/2017 12:02

Oh for goodness sake Lweji, your joke fell flat, it happens. A lot of people indicate a joke by putting a winky face or similar, maybe try that in future.

Or, be funnier Wink

Lweji · 23/06/2017 12:04

Even if you didn't find it funny, surely you'd have spotted the sarcasm.

Floggingmolly · 23/06/2017 12:08

Nobody was speaking to you, Finally. Stop trying to shit stir.

Lweji · 23/06/2017 12:10

Shut up Finally.
Only when you're addressed. Do you know nothing?

StormTreader · 23/06/2017 12:20

So which of those were jokes? Both? One? None? I cant tell any more.

Lweji · 23/06/2017 12:23

It is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.

StormTreader · 23/06/2017 12:25

It was a trick question, mine was the joke Grin

Lweji · 23/06/2017 12:27

I don't find mines funny.

FinallyThroughTheRoof · 23/06/2017 12:28

As rage against the machine said.....

Chloe84 · 23/06/2017 12:30

OP must be pissing herself at the squabbling on this thread 😂

I like Finally, s/he's funny.

FinallyThroughTheRoof · 23/06/2017 13:42

She Grin

SmileEachDay · 23/06/2017 13:49

Lweji

Is that like one of those Christmas bird in a bird things?

nina2b · 23/06/2017 13:57

or be funnier

Lol

AnniesShop · 23/06/2017 14:09

@StormTreader At risk of pointing out another obvious one the easiest way to prevent baffling yourself is by just skipping posts that start ‘I haven’t rtft.'

tonightonight · 23/06/2017 14:56

This is amazing! Can this thread please be saved somewhere?

Lweji · 23/06/2017 18:47

Is that like one of those Christmas bird in a bird things

I don't know.
But canaries never found that mines were a joke.

StormTreader · 23/06/2017 20:37

Annie I'm baffled why people post, I'm perfectly fine with comprehending the content. After all, it's not like I havent heard it many times before!

user838383 · 24/06/2017 14:05

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Spikeyball · 24/06/2017 14:32

If someone is making a noise because of disability they shouldn't be expected to leave.
In reality it is no great hardship to others because it happens relatively infrequently.

Sirzy · 24/06/2017 14:34

If ds is meltdown type noise then I do remove him mainly because most of the time it's best for him to get away from whatever the trigger is. Normally if out he is in his chair too so "easy" to move.

I think generally parents/carers of those with SN are very aware of their surroundings anyway so will generally react before it gets to problem point.

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