To think you don't take your dog to shit in a graveyard?

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Tending baby's grave yesterday and notice a woman walk into the cemetery with a dog. Don't think much of it then notice that she is walking through the graves close to DD's stopping 6ft away, so her dog can take a dump. She just stands there with a smile on her face as her dog does it then starts clawing the grass right on an unmarked grave. When I challenge her she says 'sorry but these people are gone, and it doesn't matter'. She then walks off through the cemetery and leaves at the top obviously not come in to tend any grave just for her dog to shit. She made a great show of picking it up in front of me but still!

'I agree with you OP. Most dog owners, however, think their animals are worth more than a baby (dead or alive).'

What errant nonsense.

As the grave was unmarked. I'm not sure how the woman or her dog were supposed to know it was a grave

Whoops

She intentionally led her dog over to the grassy area (children's garden) by the sound of it.

Vile

Having said that, she sounds a bit odd and it would be worth talking to the church about signage

"She intentionally led her dog over to the grassy area (children's garden) by the sound of it."

No, it really doesn't. It sounds like she was walking her dog through the children's part of a graveyard. Her dog did not poop on an actual grave from what the OP has said.

If there was signage then perhaps she didn't understand it as she was speaking in "broken english" You have no idea that she wasn't visiting a grave herself.

"instead of walking on the massive path running through the cemetery, she deliberately walked onto the childrens section walking through the graves and right next to us so her dog could crap"

Oh, I took it to read she didn't use the path, but chose the grassy are to walk and her dog, which then took a shit close to Op's dd Grave.

Op do correct me if I'm wrong.

'Area'

:so her dog could crap:

But she wouldn't have known her dog was going to crap, you don't exactly get a warning. A dog crapping in a certain place cannot be intentional because you have no idea it is going to happen. She walked "through" graves, not over graves. That to me means between graves.

Am I alone here in thinking

Why not Just walk your dogs away from graves in graveyards.

"yeah, you know him, he'd let his dog shit on a babies grave'"

Except no one has said that is OK. There is a huge difference between a dog being in a graveyard and shitting on a babies grave.

I think it was the fact she was walking across the grass where the graves are which in itself is disrespectful unless you are actually visiting a grave. Even worse is that her dog did a poo nearby and clawed at an unmarked grave. Yes she cleaned it up but she should have stayed on the path with dog on a lead then there would be no chance of the dog pooing on or near a grave.

Sorry for your loss OP and also sorry for some of the ridiculous and unsympathetic posts on here. That woman sounds seriously unhinged - why on earth would anyone say that to someone who is obviously there to visit a loved one's grave.

OP, having just read your other thread, do you think this woman knows your mother and has seen you mother tending the grave? Perhaps that is why she smiled, because your mother has spoken about the fact she tends the grave (which obviously you don't like)?

I'm going to get absolutely flamed for this but my dad walks his dog through out local cemetery several times a day. They moved to a new area a few years ago and knew no one until they got the dog. Now he has a LOT of friends who he chats to every single day who also walk their dogs in the cemetery. They do not walk on the grass, or graves, only on the many footpaths AROUND the area. He's on first name terms with the gravediggers, and is very respectful of people who are there to tend to graves and in mourning for loved ones who have been lost. Not every dog owner is a heartless imbecile who only thinks about their pet...

Agree Jam
Op

OP - be assured, most right minded people (including right minded dog owners) do understand that what happened at the cemetery was wrong in every level.
Concentrate on the memory of your child - ignore the rest.

The very least the dog walker could have done was acknowledge your presence and show some respect by keeping her distance from your area on that particular day. It's hard to imagine anyone being so insensitive.
So sorry OP

reawakeningambition - No, it's about dogs in graveyards. That the OP's baby is there we can all agree is a tragedy for her, and her feelings are understandable. But that is no reason to ban all dogs from all burial grounds.

"He's on first name terms with the gravediggers, and is very respectful of people who are there to tend to graves and in mourning for loved ones who have been lost. Not every dog owner is a heartless imbecile who only thinks about their pet..."

This is how it needs to be.

OP I am so so sorry for your loss. Your hurt comes through in your posts and I'm sorry anyone has been less than kind to you.

I think you are absolutely right to expect people to have an iota of respect and not bring their animals into a graveyard to have a shit near the graves of small children when they can see bereaved family members tending the grave. I would be utterly ashamed of myself doing that and I can only hope that woman feels the same now.

yanbu

disrespectful bitch

I think it was the "sudden confrontation shock" phenomenon at play...

a bit like road rage.

MonkeyLovesRobot I very much doubt the woman knows my mother and other than being a GF searching out my other threads I don't understand what point you are trying to get across in your last post.

There was no 'sudden confrontation'. The woman walked right up to us and stood staring at us with a smile on her face so I asked her why she was bringing her dog to crap in a graveyard. She didn't deny it at any point either.

Thanks for all the supportive posts. Actually did start to think I was BU for a while. Thank goodness there are some decent people on here .

It doesn't sound very sane behaviour to be honest.

IdentityYetToBeDiscovered

Goady Fuck for searching? I didn't search - they are both posts on a public forum, both detailing your anger for different reason's relating to your daughter's grave. If your mum is tending it that often, and the woman walks her dog there, it's likely they have seen each other.