To think you don't take your dog to shit in a graveyard?

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Tending baby's grave yesterday and notice a woman walk into the cemetery with a dog. Don't think much of it then notice that she is walking through the graves close to DD's stopping 6ft away, so her dog can take a dump. She just stands there with a smile on her face as her dog does it then starts clawing the grass right on an unmarked grave. When I challenge her she says 'sorry but these people are gone, and it doesn't matter'. She then walks off through the cemetery and leaves at the top obviously not come in to tend any grave just for her dog to shit. She made a great show of picking it up in front of me but still!

Some cunt let their dog shit in our front garden a few years ago. Obv I ran out screaming like a fishwife to get her bloody dog and his shit off my land. And she tried to defend herself!

And that's just my garden, not my childs grave. Utterly foul and disrespectful, so sorry for you OP

Well in that case don't take it into a graveyard Monkey?

OP YANBU. If someone did that next to my DD's grave I would go ballistic. Can't believe people are okay with willingly letting an animal shit on the last/potentially only memory of a child.

Walking through the path and clearing up after the dog, if they are allowed, I think, would be ok. Actually on graves and saying that to you is disrespectful though.

Monkey then don't take your dog to a graveyard. You sound like someone who just shrugs and says 'can't help it/not my fault'.

Graveyards are not dog toilets. There are plenty of other spaces you can take your dog.

On paths, if it's cleared up, it's ok

On the actual graves is not ok

There are dog poo bins in our graveyard and loads of dogs walk through on the way to the field.

She probably didn't do it deliberately tbh but I can see how it would be upsetting.

It wasn't on a child's grave, the op says it was 6ft away.

Flyinggeese Not at all, I am a pretty proactive person. I clearly said she was wrong to say what she said - that was disgusting, but you can't control when a dog needs to pee or poop. Perhaps she was also visiting a grave?

I also said it is not OK for the dog to go on the actual graves.

I like to see dog walkers in the graveyard,

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Me too, and families playing. Weirdly enough there was a thread a few months ago about exercise and a lot of people said it was fine as long as not on the graves, and many people said they walked their dogs through graveyards, but again, not on the actual graves.

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think walking the dog, so long as you pick up, is a problem, but her comments were thoughtless.

OP does not know for certain that the woman brought her dog into the graveyard solely for the purposes of it crapping! Speculation in a fit of temper is NOT the same as actual fact.

If people stick to the path with the dog on a lead and clear up after it then no problem. Not shitting on graves though.

I don't see why dogs should not be allowed in graveyards though. I know someone who visits her husband's grave and likes to have their dog with her when she goes. The husband adored the dog in life as much as she does. I think it should be personal choice, but done respectfully.

her dog does it then starts clawing the grass right on an unmarked grave.
Yes, that is on a grave.

No Nikephorus I don't. It could have shit anywhere on their walk. All the more reason to keep to the path and off the graves IMHO. There is a path running alongside the cemetery outside of it which would have been a quicker route for her. That what made me think she was taking the dog in there to crap with fewer people around so she wouldn't have to pick it up. I She made a great show of getting her crap bag out and rubbing the grass. Utter contemptible scum bag of a woman.

You must have misunderstood Ryan, my comment was in relation to this comment.

Can't believe people are okay with willingly letting an animal shit on the last/potentially only memory of a child

I am off, the extrapolation here is not nice.

Oh for goodness sake op YABU for the multiple drip feeds in this thread alone.

If she had no intention of picking it up, she wouldn't have bags on her at all.

This is a horrible thread, you know nothing about the women.

Gosh so I really am unreasonable to think that taking a dog into a cemetery and letting them squeeze out a stinking shit alongside families tending children's graves is quite disgusting behaviour and can be defended? Apologies for offending all the dog owners on this thread, I now see the error of my ways and concede that of course your pets should be free to shit anywhere you deem fit to take them, no matter how disrespectful that may be others.

Can I just point out to a PP though that cemeteries are not technically a 'public space'. The plots are owned and although they are maintained by the Council, they are a place for the bereaved to remember their loved ones. Not for ghouls to 'enjoy' reading the details of the dead buried there or for walking dogs through so they can take a crap.

I know a dog owner who admitted they take a bag on walks but will only pick up if they have an audience. There is plenty of evidence of this on the lane alongside my house and it's not an unknown phenomenon!

These people are GONE and IT DOESN'T MATTER!!!!!!!!!!!!.

It mightn't matter to a selfish nasty cold hearted bitch like her, but. To the families and the memories of the people buried there.
It very much matters.

Sorry for your loss.

Stop Do you have a buried baby? You don't seem to grasp that these are safe spaces for bereaved parents. I wouldn't want dog shit anywhere near my baby's grave. Even if it wasn't directly on the grave it was too bloody close, especially with it clawing at other graves. She should have attempted to move him on or at least bloody apologised!

I wouldn't want a dog to shit on my parents grave, never mind a child's. Complete lack of respect. No OP, you are not unreasonable.

Can't believe so many people think this is ok. Would like to see how they would like to be tending to their childs grave having a dog walker wandering through graves instead of the path to shit, and then saying it's ok because they're dead anyway. Absolutely disgusting. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Rest assured, despite this thread, most people would not think this is ok.