MIL Surprise, surprise

[AmberStClare]

DP is away from home on a course and have been enjoying this week on my own, slobbing out in the evening after work, eating supper in front of the TV and generally having a nice time.

Just got home from work and opened the front door, walked into the sitting room to find my MIL sitting on the sofa. Cries 'surprise surprise, got the key from your NDN, let myself in and have come to stay for a few days to keep you company whilst DP is away.'

Just rung DP and he is equally annoyed as is expected back Saturday and we were looking forward to the weekend catching up on each other's news and bit of frottage. All out of the window as MIL expects to be waited on hand and foot, in fact just said if I was putting the kettle on she would love a cup of tea, 'And a biscuit dear if there are any going.'

Who do I kill first, NDN for giving out the key without checking with me first (She has never met MIL before as we moved here recently) or MIL for presuming she can do this.

I used to think I had mil problems, then I joined MN and now realise she's rather tame

She is just batshit crazy! Why is she acting like her son is her partner, it's creepy.

take the phone off the hook, and when you finally answer it, say breezily - Oh sorry we were just in bed together as we haven't seen each other for a week

Haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this has been covered, but your NDN has a key? Why? We've lived here over ten years are quite friendly with ours, but the don't have a key. Close family have a spare in case of emergencies, because we trust them. And you only recently moved there?

FML every 15mins ?? I would have not picked up after the first two calls. She's a major pita

How is your DP letting "will amber be there if I come for tea" be a real question?! Why is he not saying it's your fucking house? Oh, I'm livid!

I'm not the strange one here, flower

So is the partner actually taking these calls, and what is he saying about the plans for the evening? All sounds like a very odd way to carry on.

Plus, if you'd known your NDN for five minutes before entrusting her with a key, you might have found out by other means she is overly trusting and not ended up telling her off about the key. I know many posters have been cheering all this on, but in the space of several days you've trashed your relationship with your NDN and your MIL, when handled with a bit less bullishness, that could have been avoided with both.

Oh gosh. This is making me seriously concerned about having given my mil a key today to feed the cat while we are away. I can actually see her doing this 😣

So is she coming over to eat tomorrow?

What are you going to give her?

A very good point GeekyWombat, haven't got much food in the house. I think DP may have to go shopping tomorrow. I was going to do an online order earlier but forgot with the homecoming and phone calls.

DP is currently running MIL back to the B&B for the night. She has been very sulky, never seen a lower lip protrude so much in an adult.

Wow she is a treat! A grown adult sulking is just pathetic

Pah, let her sulk.

Hopefully it means that she'll think twice before pulling a stunt like that again.

I this this has to be down to your DH having told her something like mi casa to casa at some point.

Did she help with your house purchase in any way? Are you sure she didn't give DH some money for it?

Amateursleuth, I really like our NDN and hope I have not 'trashed' my relationship with her. She was very embarrassed and apologetic. The problem was the previous people who lived here were very laid back and friends often dropped by to her for the key. I have explained to her that our house insurance would be invalidated if this was to continue so I will make other arrangements to save her future embarrassment. She has been great about taking in parcels etc for us unlike so many on Mumsnet who consider that sort of favour the work of the devil.

Did she make many comments? Jesus she's not getting any hints!

'Her' Bedroom?

but of course, now that the precedent is set, her bedroom can be at the lovely welcoming B&B every time she visits!

Well played OP

What on earth is your husband saying?? How could he let her ask if you'd be there without giving her a sharp reality check - it's your bloody house!!

She's not expecting you to pay for the B&B is she?

DP is running her back to the b&b?! Was she round at your this evening?

Got home from work yesterday to find Frenemy and her child in my home. She was cleaning my kitchen and had fed my teenage girls. Teenage daughter had let her in. She felt unable to turn frenemy away. I was on my way home from work after picking up my 10 year old.
AIBU to think you don't go into anyones home if they are not home? Also, you don't put their children in a difficult position.

Has DH brought you the most mahoosive box of chocolates as an apology?

OP: what has your DP said about all of this? What has he said to his mum about her behaviour? Is he making it clear what's going on/ground rules to back you up?