To ask people to stop swearing so much

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Frankly, the language of some of the posters on this site is disgusting and I wonder if they talk like this in front of their children. I also wonder if their parents would be proud of how they post on the internet. Swearing every time isn't big and it isn't clever. It makes people come across as uneducated chavs.

AIBU to ask people to clean up their act and stop swearing?

And if course there's swearing in other languages (inc my own) . That doesn't mean you have to be so obtuse as to ram it in people's faces and then tell them they're the ones with the problem.

I'm would not presume to censor anyone, but that doesn't mean I have to like it or find it normal because to me it's not.

My children learnt to swear in Spanish and French before they learnt in English!
As Jacques and others have said, Elgato, if you don't like it; go elsewhere. In this particular case you've joined a community that allows swearing ergo, if you don't like it; move on. In this particular instance you are indeed the one with a problem.

Dawn - That post is exactly what I mean by boorish. But I accept that nothing I say will make you realise that if you can't see it for yourself.

No, ElGato, I rather think you are, you have come onto a site that allows taboo language and criticised those who use it, despite being reassured that most of us know perfectly well how and when to use said language in our daily lies. That is boorish.

Well I personally didn't teach my children to swear in our daily lives, but each to their own.

It is certainly entitled and ill mannered to expect a club with nearly a million members to change around one's own norms.

Teaching children to swear is not the same as adults swearing on an anonymous forum in case that wasn't quite clear.

Funnily enough, I come on MN for the same reasons as the vast majority of posters and it's definitely not as an excuse to use "taboo language".

Again, you fundamentally misunderstand - wilfully, it seems. For many that language is not 'taboo' and people are not seeking excuses to use it. It's simply a normal use of language in certain, appropriate contexts, as has been explained repeatedly on this thread.

Why is that so difficult to accept?

Well I personally didn't teach my children to swear in our daily lives, but each to their own

Whereas I have discussed swear words with my DD, their meaning, appropriate use.

I think your 'misunderstanding' is starting to be quite wilful now, ElGato. Many do not see this language as 'taboo', or seek 'excuses' to use it.

It may well annoy you. Only you can decide whether it annoys you to the point of no longer enjoying Mumsnet. But none of us has any right to immunity from annoyance.

Why is that so difficult to accept?

whete and when did I say MN should censor swearing or that people should change? I'm not talking about that.

If you feel the need to swear more on here than in everyday life, then knock yourselves out. As I have repeatedly said, what can I do about it?

All I am saying is don't be surprised that some people will find it offensive or boring. Because they will. Whether they choose to stay on MN or not.

Why is that hard to grasp?

Why is that hard to grasp?

It isn't. Your argument isn't that challenging. People just disagree.

Well yes. I agree to disagree.

Well I personally didn't teach my children to swear in our daily lives, but each to their own.
The oldest is 32. Works for the NHS.
Next, doing his Masters in Literature.
Next, getting firsts in English and German Literature at university.
Next, getting firsts in Human Biosciences at university.
This will be because I taught them.
When the oldest came home with 'motherfucker', I gave him Oedipus to read, if that counts as teaching him to swear; I'm really quite happy!

No idea why you would need to make a link between swearing and your DC's education, but good for you.

No idea why you would need to make a link between swearing and your DC's education, but good for you

Well - obviously I can't speak for Donna but I imagine she's labouring under the impression, as am I, that YOU initiated that line of discussion by using the phrase "I didn't teach my children to swear".

You know. Linking kids. And education. And swearing.

Sorry if it offends. I try to bear it in mind but forty years on the football terraces have left their mark

I don't use bad language in front of anyone's children , or at least I try very hard not to.

It seems to be fairly acceptable on this forum—so long as it's not used aggressively—so I think you're fighting a losing battle, OP. Sorry.

S xx

Jacques - Have a look back at my comment at 10.05 if you can be bothered. Education (or lack of it) has nothing to do with this imo.

Well I personally didn't teach my children to swear in our daily lives, but each to their own.
As has been pointed out: this.

It has nothing to do with education
This is what you said at 10.05. But due to the above, one wonders if you've changed your mind.

Well of course I don't. Hardly a shocker.

Anyway I have agreed to disagree.

I don't teach children to swear. When they came home as toddlers having heard the word fuck at nursery I made clear they should never use it. Aged 8 I made clear that "fucking shoe" is much less insulting than telling their friend to fuck off. Aged 16 they knew how and when and in front of who you can and can't swear.

Oh do fuck off dear.

When people use "dear", they are irritated.