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To ask for a hand hold for the next 2 weeks...

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user1490817986 · 11/06/2017 10:48

Some of you read about my Sainsburys victory the other day (yay!). As some may know, I have autism (high functioning) and depend a lot on my mum, who I see every day.

Today she is going on holiday for 2 weeks, and I'll only have her at the end of the phone, with just Toby the cat for company, and my manchild older brother who doesn't believe I have autism. He will be staying at my mum's house which is a 20 min walk from my flat.

I'm panicking already. I see her everyday, I struggle some days with terrible clinical depression and anxiety, and I don't know how I'm going to cope without her. I have some of my weekly groups to go to (art class, coffee groups) but I still have weekends and evenings/mornings where my anxiety can be worse.

Can I ask for a virtual handhold from someone to get me through the next 2 weeks? I'm going to make a list/routine of things I can do everyday to help me.

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ssd · 13/06/2017 18:24

it sounds like you are doing really well and really are managing, your mum will be so proud of you when she comes back.

what type of jigsaw are you doing? I used to love a jigsaw, you've really put me in the mood to do one Smile

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 13/06/2017 18:52

The jigsaw sounds great fun. You are doing really well. I am pleased to see that you have made a plan of things to do as your art group isn't running.

Bufferingkisses · 13/06/2017 19:22

Sounds like you are doing really well Smile

One thing I have repeated in the past, I hope it helps you in a small way; "sometimes you feel like you can't do it but that does not mean you can't" feelings and reality are hard to separate, especially at times of stress. Just keep reminding yourself that your feelings at one moment don't have to define your reality.

Dawndonnaagain · 13/06/2017 20:03

I do like a jigsaw for chilling out! Glad things are going well. Keep on trucking! Star

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Finola1step · 13/06/2017 20:34

I love a good jigsaw. And I'm a fellow Disney fan. What is the jigsaw of?

user1490817986 · 13/06/2017 21:36

Thank you Buffering. I know what you mean, I just find it hard to remain rational when anxious.

Finola It's a panoramic jigsaw with all of the classic Disney characters (Disney Princesses, baloo, lion king, mickey, lady and the tramp, goofy, donald duck, pooh bear and friends, dalmatians, peter pan, dumbo and alice in wonderland. It's missing Minnie mouse though!

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user1490817986 · 13/06/2017 21:37

I will post a picture when it's finished Grin

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user1490817986 · 14/06/2017 20:44

I've survived my third day! I haven't been anyway today, been doing my jigsaw and sat out in the garden for the first time. It's not very private as I have a side garden, and I sat there reading my book.

I'm going bowling with my mentor tomorrow at 10am, and I'll hopefully get to see my brother in the evening.

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SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 14/06/2017 21:04

Hi OP Smile.

I've been thinking about you today - wondering how you were coping.

I'm really glad to hear that everything is going well so far. Especially that your brother is behaving himself Grin.

The driver was more than likely in the wrong. The emphasis is definitely on the driver to look out for pedestrians when reversing rather than the other way round. Try not to let his actions knock your confidence. You're doing great! Smile.

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SometimesMaybe · 14/06/2017 21:39

Sounds like a lovely day. Well done! Hope you enjoy your coffee - your mum will be so proud of how well you have been doing.

SometimesMaybe · 14/06/2017 21:39

Bowling, sorry not coffee!!

YogiYoni · 14/06/2017 21:40

You're doing brilliantly. Well done.

Foslady · 14/06/2017 22:07

That sounds a wonderful day, out in the sun with a book and a jigsaw, not jealous at all - much!!!!!!
And plan for tomorrow sounds great - do you realise you're nearly half way through - you are doing brilliantly!SmileFlowers

chitofftheshovel · 14/06/2017 22:07

I'm sorry OP if I've missed it. Did you say you did a food blog? I'd really like to read it, if you can link it or post keywords to google. I've been meaning to learn how to blog, any tips?

Leeds2 · 14/06/2017 23:32

Sounds like you are doing great!

feathermucker · 14/06/2017 23:36

You're doing really well. You've got this! Smile

Pancakeflipper · 14/06/2017 23:46

Jigsaw pic needed - I love a jigsaw.
Just been reading your thread User and I'm nodding in agreement with the other Gandhilders that you are doing great.
Hope you win at bowls tomorrow.

Singlelady · 15/06/2017 01:11

Hi user
Just been reading through your thread and it sounds like your doing great! I love a good jigsaw and have a big round Disney one that I do about once a year cause I love it Grin

Neutrogena · 15/06/2017 05:47

Consider your hand held.

Dawndonnaagain · 15/06/2017 11:10

Have a good time bowling! Star

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 15/06/2017 13:05

Hope you're having fun at bowling! Smile

user1490817986 · 15/06/2017 16:21

I really enjoyed the bowling, and I won! We also had a little game of air hockey and I won that too Grin

My brother is picking me up at 6 so I will have some company tonight plus I can sit outside in my mum's lovely garden having a read of my book with a cuppa.

Chitofftheshovel I will message you the link Smile

Thank you all for your support, it means so much Smile

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