To have flattened the sandwiches?

[DryBone]

Been dieting for weeks, lost lots of weight and now below target. Thought I'd treat myself to a Burger King today. DH knee my plans as i had been banging on about it all week. I was really looking forward to it after eating like a saint all week.
So plan was today to go and do shopping and then pop to Burger King. Again I mentioned how much I was looking forward to eating this thing I'd been craving all week.

So we took the shopping home, I sort the dog out only to go into kitchen and see DH handing me a bacon sandwich. I said "what's that for?" So he said "well I knew you were hungry so I thought I'd save us the drive". I was fuming and told him I didn't want that, I wanted to go and buy what I'd been planning to buy all week! He said I was being a brat and ungrateful and if I desperately wanted BK I could drive myself - knowing full well I cant fucking drive!!!

So out of pure frustration I hammered the sandwich not realising that he'd put egg in it which splattered everywhere meaning I burnt my hand in the process. Now we're not talking.

AIBU to think he created this by going back on plans and not realising how fucking difficult dieting is when it's relentless for weeks?

Slightly hormonal so am prepared to hear I'm over reacting .

If this is what dieting is doing to you OP, if I were you. I'd seriously be looking at how much it's affecting me. I mean if this is very much out of character for you.

On the other hand, maybe this is how you are even when you're not dieting? Just that this time you've got the diet as an excuse to behave like this?

Massive, massive overreaction! If you really, desperately had to have BK (boak) then and there instead of say, for dinner, you could of just said thanks so much, but I really do want BK, I know it's a hassle but could you please take me. Instead you went straight to 'fuming' and then just lost your shit completely. All your DH tried to do was make a nicer version of what you wanted and save you both another trip out (seriously, why not just get it while you were out the first time). If he'd tried to give you a lettuce sandwich you could say he was making some kind of point, but he made you a nice cheat meal.

Anyway, there's nothing in the world more tedious than a dieter banging on constantly about some shitty cheat meal they've become obsessed by, and I say that as a former dieter who regularly got fixated on this or that (but kept it to myself). Your DH had to listen to you droning on about a boring bloody BK meal all week and then on top of that was responsible for ferrying you there. I'm just surprised he's not the one who snapped first.

Axxysirr Did you read my first message? Yes, yes I did Thank you. Still makes no sense to me, and I still don't agree with it. So you can take your silly biscuit (along with the rest of the packet) and shove it somewhere.

Evans I'm saying that if the roles were reversed, and OP had made the sandwich for her DH, would your reaction still be the same? I'm guessing it wouldn't.

Here, have another .

He made the sandwich so he didn't have to drive, and I expect he promised he would drive you beforehand?

And presumably he knew how important the BK idea was, and how much it had helped you motivate yourself?

So he was trying to manipulate the situation so that you would look like twat if you refused the sandwich - so he didn't have to be bothered driving you, although he had said he would.

I get why you were so cross. Smashing the sandwich was OTT but I do understand your frustration.

Were the roles to be reversed and her DP/DH asked for something specific, I'd guess he'd also probably be feeling particularly pissed off. Why would you guess my reaction would be any different at all?
Surprised you have any biscuits left, after they have all been shoved up your arse.

Now now Evans & Axiss no need to get so annoyed with each other take your frustrations out on some bread and bacon i reckon it is theraputic

Evans I'm guessing you would have said something along the lines of "Oh, smashing the sandwich that you made for him is a sign of violence and abuse! Leave!"

Or "You shouldn't have to drive for him, he can bugger off and do it himself."

They were both U, DH should have checked first if she wanted the bacon sandwich. OP shouldn't have smashed it. DH shouldn't have called her names.

Are you always this aggressive?

It was an overreaction, but I can see where you are coming from. It's like when you dream all day of the chocolate at home, rush in to enjoy it, and find it eaten! I myself have had absolute meltdowns about stolen snacks, purely because I was so looking forward to them, but it isn't really your DH's fault.
Seems he has misunderstood why you wanted BK, and probably didn't listen to you, but he did try to do something kind. Can you not go to BK tomorrow?

Of course this is assuming he is normally fine. Not sure a sandwich alone constitutes controlling abuse.

MrsJayy

I'll try smashing a baguette against a wall.

Are you a three year old having a tantrum??

GROW UP

I think we need to know what the BK item actually was that the OP desperately wanted.

Maybe it was a bacon and egg sandwich and her DH reckoned his would be better. Like a MacDonalds egg macmuffin type thing?

Or maybe it wasn't.

I feel more information is needed.

Perhaps even a diagram.

Axiss - I'm assuming you didn't read any of my previous posts on the thread? (Oh, look I found a spare)

You over reacted but i don't blame you. Apologise for doing so then get him to apologise for not being considerate. Then insist he repairs the damage by driving you willingly and happily.
I'd rather have had the bacon sandwich than the BK

MrsOverTheRoad

Shall we say that to all the cup throwers, wall punchers, food slingers and other aggressive responses?

Evans Reading over them now, I seem to have misunderstood .

Really sorry .

Everyone can stop the aggressive responses now.
OP has clearly LTB and is walking to BK as you type.
Have a whopper for me OP!!!

Op, would it have been better if he had just said that he couldn't be bothered to go out again to BK & just left you to get your own lunch?

I'd of done the same ... total over reaction but so funny . It's exactly how I handle these type of situations x

Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

I can see in no circumstance where this would be classed as ok. So you didn't get a BK, boo hoo!!!!

If this had been reversed and it was the man who had wanted the BK and had smashed the sandwich it would without a doubt be classed as abuse.

Diet rewarding is no excuse for that al all.

Thank you Axiss - Apology accepted

I remember my ex punching a wall out of frustration over something really trivial. He punched my face the next time.

Massive over reaction. Why not just say " aww thanks but no, I really want a BK "

Or sort your bloody nostrils out so next time you can smell the bacon starting to cook in the same house

YANBU, I would have been pretty pissed off I had a DH who knew I'd spent weeks dieting and was looking forward to something specific presented me with something he knew I didn't want instead.

I'd have called you a brat too! Poor bloke takes you shopping then makes you a sandwich coz you're hungry and gets all that grief, if you're that bothered about BK have it for tea.
And learn to drive so you're not using your dp as a taxi.