To have flattened the sandwiches?

[DryBone]

Been dieting for weeks, lost lots of weight and now below target. Thought I'd treat myself to a Burger King today. DH knee my plans as i had been banging on about it all week. I was really looking forward to it after eating like a saint all week.
So plan was today to go and do shopping and then pop to Burger King. Again I mentioned how much I was looking forward to eating this thing I'd been craving all week.

So we took the shopping home, I sort the dog out only to go into kitchen and see DH handing me a bacon sandwich. I said "what's that for?" So he said "well I knew you were hungry so I thought I'd save us the drive". I was fuming and told him I didn't want that, I wanted to go and buy what I'd been planning to buy all week! He said I was being a brat and ungrateful and if I desperately wanted BK I could drive myself - knowing full well I cant fucking drive!!!

So out of pure frustration I hammered the sandwich not realising that he'd put egg in it which splattered everywhere meaning I burnt my hand in the process. Now we're not talking.

AIBU to think he created this by going back on plans and not realising how fucking difficult dieting is when it's relentless for weeks?

Slightly hormonal so am prepared to hear I'm over reacting .

YABVU to have physically bashed the sandwich, instead of just telling your DH 'thanks for making it, but I'm still going to BK'.

You need to examine why you reacted this emotionally. It's only a cheap burger. This level of obsession with food cannot be fun for you or those around you. Having a treat every now and then isn't a problem, but it sounds like the value and control you put on positive and negative patterns of eating is extremely high to the point where it's affecting a significant relationship.

TBH, your story reminds me of how I might have reacted in the past if DH had suggested I have a soft drink instead of wine on a Friday night. I'm tea-total now...

You can really see the difference between those that have been promised a treat and then let down because their partner likes seeing them cry and those that haven't.

Some say that it was just a BK and a bacon butty is great. Others say isn't it cruel that there was one thing that you wanted and your DP sabotaged it and set you up to look like an ungrateful hag because you didn't want a not nearly as good (in your eyes) substitute.

Both valid responses depending on the rest of the relationship.

I've only seen stuff like this when the one in the DP's position (male and female) likes seeing the one in the OP's position cry.

Oh he is not controlling he just did not realise his wife had a burger king obsession and how angry she would be sandwich smashing is ridiculous the whole hoga is ridiculous

ClopySow

While you may have over reacted slightly, you did it with style.

I must remember that the next time we have a husband reacting in a violent way to his wife.

He failed.

Of course he knew what she wanted. That sandwich was a passive aggressive sandwich.

OP is he always like this?

But I do want to know why you didn't go to BK whilst out shopping.

Surely you wondered why he was cooking Bacon? Couldn't you have had a filthy burger king for dinner instead?

viques 68 calories for two slices of bread?? Really? I thought it would be more like 200.

I can't comment on the bacon as I don't eat meat.

Boney the sandwich wasn't the OP's husband.

She wasn't violent to him.

YANBU. Presumably he knew he'd have to take you back out for a BK, so refusing to do so was him being a lazy git.

Passive aggressive sandwich

To be honest, if you lost 'loads' of weight in a few weeks and are obsessing about BK so much that you'd get aggressive like that, I'd wonder if your relationship with food is a bit messed up. Chances are, even if you've been going on about it all week, if your DP doesn't 'get' dieting in the way that a lot of men don't, he won't have understood how fixated you were.

Axissyrr I was being lighthearted with that comment...obviously.

Burger King? Squashing a sandwich?

You sound v immature.

Your reaction was a bit childish, but I can understand the frustration. We don't even have a BK where I live, or a KFC, or a Nandos. All we have is a McDonald's that you have to drive to get to, and is the opposite direction to the supermarket . And sometimes you just want that burger!

He wasn't doing you a favour. Don't let anyone tell you he was trying to be nice. It's not nice if it wasn't wanted.

Axissyr - no, BK is not healthy at all (I think most of us agree), but bacon sandwich is not much healthier, and the BK is what the OP wanted at this particular moment. At the hands of her DH, who, we would think, as OP had told him, that this is what she wanted on this particular day, as her reward.

(Did you actually read the thread)?

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"He is controlling".

Really [hmm

OP, is this an attempt to make sandwich hammering a thing, like cake smashing? Where will these assaults on innocent food end?

Your not going to loose weight eating a Burger King even if you have been dieting all week. So he probably did u a favour

I really want to know if you punched the sandwich or took an actual hammer to it. The mental image is making me laugh. The reality is actually not funny though, it's a very aggressive way to behave. OP if you were a man and it was your DP posting people would be saying it was was a red flag, LTB etc. It's not acceptable, regardless of his motives.

So by doing her a favour he made her a bacon sandwich instead?

Evans I did read the thread. Did you read my first message?

It's hardly the end of the world if he didn't want to go out to drive her to burger king. As PP have stated, she could have picked it up while she was shopping. He's not there to be her personal skivvy.

Imagine if this was the other way round.

dirtychailatte I have no idea of the calories content of anything, so I Googled. I expect it depends on how thin the slices were. My mum could slice bread so straight and thin it looked like paper. My sliced bread looks like a wedge of cake.

Extreme dieting followed by a trip to BK sounds like a yogo dieting mentality to me. Now that you've lost the weight, why not try to put places like BK out of your mind forever and focus on healthier eating habits going forward.