To be irrationally upset by DH's vote.

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Just found out that DH has voted Tory for the 2nd time now. He's doing it tactically as hates SNP but I'd already pointed out to him this morning that labour came 2nd here last time. I know it's stupid but I feel really upset about this. I always thought we had a similar world view and I hate the thought that he's done the whole cliche of turning from a left wing student into a right wing middle class professional. He's really angry with me now for the way I reacted but I wouldn't be the person be married if I just said. " that's nice dear". Just now I'm feeling pretty disgusted with him though. AIBU?

He is is own man and fair play if he has grown up and realised that most of the other successful people in his office are Tories and the left wing tend acids for all silly student citizen smith stuff.

I would say let him make his own choice and you make yours.

YABVU!

It's up to him. I'm actually on the other end. I voted labour and my husband is irrationally upset with me as he earns over 80 grand and says I've voted against our family. Well no I voted for my children's future actually but hey ho. I can bloody vote who I wish as can your husband.
Maybe next time just don't say anything

I'd be bloody furious with him as disgusted with the Tartan Tories. I get people don't want a second referendum but voting Tory - Seriously?!

All those farmers will get their karma when the EU stops their subsidies and they suddenly realise that theTories don't give a monkeys about their little plot of land or what they grow on it. The banks will love it though as all those repossessions and more land sold off for building plots (with no infrastructure such as schools or GP surgeries as no doctors to fill those).

Voting Labour I could understand but Tory!??! No, that a divorce material now OP! (and only partly joking).

Brotherhood of spam you are well within your right to be pissed off. It may be 'his vote' but his vote affects everyone not just himself. My husband votes the same as me as he knows what I'm talking about. I understand where you are coming from. Let's hope you can talk some sense in to him for next time, which could be soon, hopefully x

Only if its Tory. Then hes either misguided or sadistic.

My partner and I discuss our vote before doing so we have a small child and feel responsible to them to make good decisions for their future, so being on the same page politically makes sense to us. I tactically voted as well to make sure snp didn't get in as I'm so bloody sick of them. I voted labour but my natural vote would have been lib dem. I understand why you would be upset but unfortunately it is his vote and there is no way you could influence it afterwards so maybe next election try discussing the views that are important to you to see if you guys are on the same page before hand. At least it will be less of a shock next time.

It's his choice how he votes, as much as you don't like it. Saying that, I can understand where you're coming from, you thought you were a perfect match and now there's something different in your life. There's a saying, don't discuss politics or religion in polite company. Sadly it's true. But regardless of which way he voted, at least you can stand up and say your family voted, so many don't bother!

This is a democracy - he is entitled to vote how he pleases. So yes, 'YABU'!!

Your poor poor poor dh.

You are definitely nbu. My DH did exactly the same, and I am struggling to see how our opposing views can co-exist in our future together. I'm not being dramatic, but I'm not sure I wAnt to be allied to a Tory! I am not mentioning it to my family as I feel disappointed in his choice - despite the fact he had no problem with me voting Labour

I get where you are coming from, it is after all an expression of personal values, and sharing the same values matters in a marriage.

My ex and DD's dad voted Tory, I'm even more irritated with him than normal for revealing yet another layer of stupid selfishness, so if he were my husband, yep, I'd be annoyed too. It's your world view, strange to feel that your life partner has a different one.

How would you feel if he had berated you for your voting preference?

YANBU I would feel the same

YANBU to care about your husband's vote. What you do in response makes you U or NBU.

does no one discuss politics prior to getting married or v close? Surely no one wants to discover they are hooked up with a BNP supporter?!?

I was a Lib Dem as a student...once I started paying taxes, I changed my mind! It happens a lot.

YABU, but I would be annoyed in my husband voted labour too so I do get it.

Really fed up of people saying that it is selfish to vote Tory. I have a large garden and cannot afford a garden tax. I have already paid over £60,000 in stamp duty getting up the property ladder. My children are privately educated and the fees are already a struggle. I can't afford a 20% increase. I know many people that are richer than me that educate their kids in the state system. That is their choice but why should I pay for their kids school meals? How is that fair?!

It would be grounds for divorce in our relationship, I could never, ever live with a Tory. Fundamental sharing of values.

YABU however he did something very stupid. But it was his democratic right to do that unbelievably naive and daft thing. So forget about it for 5 years. After all I'm pretty sure most of our other halves do daft things daily.

Yes of course we discussed our views before marriage and actually we used to vote the same way. TBH I'd prefer he voted than not at all. People are entitled to vote for who they wish for. It's a democracy.

Bunsy but all you reasons are about why it might be worse for you, not worse for society, so surely that is selfish because you're just thinking about yourself?
Op yanbu

Based on your opening post alone, YABU, and I very rarely say that.