To be irrationally upset by DH's vote.

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Just found out that DH has voted Tory for the 2nd time now. He's doing it tactically as hates SNP but I'd already pointed out to him this morning that labour came 2nd here last time. I know it's stupid but I feel really upset about this. I always thought we had a similar world view and I hate the thought that he's done the whole cliche of turning from a left wing student into a right wing middle class professional. He's really angry with me now for the way I reacted but I wouldn't be the person be married if I just said. " that's nice dear". Just now I'm feeling pretty disgusted with him though. AIBU?

YANBU. No one should have to be married to a Tory. Am so sorry for you.

YABU.

He can vote for whatever party/MP he wants, as can you.

I couldn't stay with a partner who voted Tory. My ex told me he'd voted Lib Dem and even that turned my stomach. YANBU

optionrationale That makes about eleven million murderers in 2015 and we will soon see how many this year. You are probably working with murderers, sharing a bus with murderers, passing murderers on the street. You must feel beleaguered.

What larks to feel so jaunty about disabled people killing themselves and people dying after being declared fit for work......

Well thanks Andrewofgg. You've just triggered my anxiety. Thanks a bloody bunch.

Your H is literally a murderer, OP. Literally.

No he isn't.

What a ridiculous statement.

True. So if you can keep your opinions on your finances, your children's school, your local hospital and your Polish neighbour then no one will know your politics

Quite right. All Tory voters are racists plus of course all leave voters. Not many decent people left now, are there. You sound a bit like the woman I followed on Twitter for a while who was the only remain voter in her village and hated everyone else, and just kept up a stream of bile against leave voters. Your politics must be really strange, I must say.

Not unreasonable at all. Whilst he is entitled to vote as he sees fit, you are entitled to judge him on it, and to be upset that he doesn't share your moral compass.
I agree with sonjadog.

Really???? Is he not allowed to hold his own views on any aspects of his life? Is he allowed to dress himself? You are being ridiculous

I would feel exactly the same way. Who you vote for says a lot about who you are and I would think very differently about my DH if he voted conservative. I think it's important to share a similar ideology unless you're prepared to never talk about big issues in your relationship

He doesn't have a moral compass. He's a bloody murdererer!!!!

Grow up optionalrationale

Ffs.

optionalrationale is a Tory. She's winding you all up.

Did someone up post just state that Tory voters have blood on their hands? Wtaf? Now we know where the term looney left originates (ironic that the call for a trial for war crimes recently was for an ex labour pm)

I just cannot imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone whose political beliefs are a mystery to me.

I know. I can't imagine how anyone doesn't know who their partner voted for. Surely you must talk about politics enough to get a good bloody idea of their beliefs? I would hate not to know who dh is voting for because for us it would mean we have stopped communicating and discussing important things.

What????? How very DARE you cast such vile nasturtiums on my politics!!!!

My OH once voted UKIP - how do you think I felt? But I would defend his right to do so even though it felt entirely abhorrent to me.

It depends on whether you are one of these shrill virtue signalling lefties who think they have the moral high ground for wanting to decide how to spend (usually) other people's money

^how does that make any sense? All governments tax and spend.

Oh shit up optionalrationale

Yeah we get it, your taking the piss out if Labour voters.

Despite you bring an apparent lifelong labour voter who is voting Tory this time (I have a good fucking memory)

What's the pint in your stream if bollocks posts? You aren't exactly painting yourself in a fantastic light.

Actually I do think its e3ssential that when people vote the acknowledge that they are voting for ALL the proposals of that party, not some bits of it.

So yes all the cuts on the NHS and benefits have lead to some unnecessary deaths (30k more deaths in a year due to the NHS cuts btw).

You can say that in the last election, we didnt really know.
But now we KNOW the effect of cutting benefits, the NHS having less and less budget etc...
We KNOW it lead to deaths and therefore we alos know that more of that will lead to more deaths.
So yes I agree that voting Tories means also being happy for people to die unnecessaraly.
In the same way, TM has said tat she wants to curtail our human rights. So when we will see our emails and conversations being snopped on, when peope will be deported wo any mean to appeal, when people will be stuck in a centre for months on end wo access to a lawyer (last bit is ALREADY happening btw, along with said 70% of said women having been raped or being victims of sexual assault in that same centre).
Then it will be impossible to say ''but I didn't vote for that. I voted for Brexit/the economy/whatever else it is' because the reality is that you voted for that too. You have given the government your permission to do all that.
And that means you are responsible too.

Basically a lot of Labour supporters see themselves as morally superior to everyone else - it suits their rhetoric to see anyone who doesn't vote the same way as hating everyone and being evil.It's actually rather pathetic. Nothing wrong with disagreeing politically but it's when you demonise people for exercising their democratic right to vote for whomever they want that you end up looking a bit of a knob

To make this assumption you'd need to base it on knowing an awful lot of Labour voters, and I doubt you know that many. I know a few Tory voters who think they're morally superior. I probably know a lot more Tory voters than I think I do actually, because they're not very vocal about it (at least they have some shame!)

Never underestimate the potential obliviousness of mumsnet users to obvious satire.

YANBU I could NOT be with a Tory. I just couldn't.