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AIBU?

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To ask what are the best things about having a little boy?

353 replies

KeplerYellow · 06/06/2017 14:51

I'm almost 30 weeks pregnant and really excited to be having a boy. I am however getting a bit scared about the whole giving birth part, so trying to focus on the bigger picture. I would love to hear how great it is to have a son to help me concentrate on the positives.

OP posts:

squoosh · 07/06/2017 15:49

my son is the most intense love affair I could have had were he a grown man (who was not related to me and in fact my son).

How is little Norman doing these days Mrs Bates?

squoosh · 07/06/2017 15:54

it is a little like having a small boyfriend but in a non-sexual way, rather a romantic way. He looks at me and says "I love you mummy" and puts kisses on my lips. My daughter will also say I love you and hug and kiss me but it is less romantic and less, kind of more lingering and dreamy!

Er, ok.

nooka · 07/06/2017 15:58

Sex selection/ abortion in the UK is illegal except for medical reasons (where it is more likely to affect male fetuses as a number of genetic diseases are more prevalent in boys). Where does your 80% statistic come from Jellymuffin?

One thing that I found on becoming a parent of very close in age boy/girl siblings is that I became a great deal more aware of sexism and sex stereotypes. The way that people reacted to my children was eye opening. Always commenting on dd's appearance, saying how 'good' she was, whilst ds got all the 'boys will be boys' stuff. She was a pretty little girl, and she was more likely to sit still than him. However she was also the one that got physical when things didn't go quite her way, and he was often the one crying as a result.

BuckinghamLass · 07/06/2017 16:09

Creepy as fuck.

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:14

In certain USA states/ Cyprus and other countries where it is legal.

www.ingender.com/XYU/Gender-Preference/#SexSelection

user1496484020 · 07/06/2017 16:16

Weird replies on here.

teapotter · 07/06/2017 16:18

Tbh the biggest advantage is that you can reuse a lot of the stuff for your next child. If you have a girl first you sometimes end up with a lot of pink and dresses whereas "boy stuff" is more unisex.

I have 2 boys and if our third is a girl then I am planning on buying some pink ribbon to go on her digger dungarees.

blue2014 · 07/06/2017 16:21

Oh FFS the intense posts aren't creepy, surely you've all felt that intense overwhelming love for your child. And some children (I won't say boys cos I was like that with my mum too) do have that adoring, you're so pretty, idolisation of their mum that parallels romance. That's what they both mean, they obviously don't want to bonk their sons

And actually if you listen to the words of love songs (unless I'm also creepy as fuck) the words are just more applicable to our children. Ain't no mountain high enough to keep me from DS if he needed me. DH? Meh, I love him loads but a whole mountain? I figure he could hire a car and we would meet midway. I would walk 500 miles for DS - I'd take the train to DH.

Jeez, has mumsnet always been this argumentative (I've only just started coming off the infertility boards)

squoosh · 07/06/2017 16:23

Oh FFS the intense posts aren't creepy

They are.

Coddiwomple · 07/06/2017 16:25

it is a little like having a small boyfriend but in a non-sexual way, rather a romantic way.

ahem.. I wouldn't go that far

humblesims · 07/06/2017 16:25

I love boys. I have two, 16 and 18. Can highly recommend boys.

Chipsahoy · 07/06/2017 16:27

I have two boys. Dc1 is the kindest, sweetest boy in the world. Who goes out of his way to help me anyway he can. He's nine.
Dc2 still doesn't sleep through the night, tantrums every day and finds life tough. But oh is he so funny and cute. He is currently running around the house in swimming trunks and goggles (we aren't going swimming). He loves me more than anything in the world. He is so cuddley and sweet. He's six.

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:29

So your young son never said that they wanted to marry you? Or that you look beautiful in what you are wearing? Or insisted on buying you flowers? Unless you have experienced it, it is hard to explain that sort of love (but how many dads don't want their daughter to date ANYONE - why is that?) there is nothing sick or wrong and if you think there is, YOU are the one with issues.

blue2014 · 07/06/2017 16:29

Only if you choose to sexualise them, the poster made it clear she didn't mean sexualised but nevermind I see MN is all about bloody misery and ridicule lately so I'll just be quiet

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:29

I agree blue2014.

BuckinghamLass · 07/06/2017 16:30

"Oh FFS the intense posts aren't creepy, surely you've all felt that intense overwhelming love for your child."

Yes but he's not my boyfriend! A boyfriend is someone you have sex with. Without sex, they're just friends. Would be waaaay more appropriate to say "he's like my little friend" or something.

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:31

But your friends don't want to kiss and hug you and buy you flowers etc.

squoosh · 07/06/2017 16:33

So your young son never said that they wanted to marry you? Or that you look beautiful in what you are wearing? Or insisted on buying you flowers?

Sure. But it's never made me, the adult, even jokily equate our relationship with a romantic one. Because I find blurring lines like that to be a bit intense, and yes, creepy.

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:36

I didn't say I did- but I understand why some people try to describe an indescribable love in that way. Maybe we are a bit more innocently minded? I wouldn't equate sexual and romantic love as the same thing, they are quite different. You can have either without the other.

BuckinghamLass · 07/06/2017 16:36

But your friends don't want to kiss and hug you and buy you flowers etc.

Mine do! It's fairly normal in my friendship circle.

Jellymuffin · 07/06/2017 16:37

Don't be facetious - have they told you they want to marry you too? Then I would be questioning THAT relationship!

blueshoes · 07/06/2017 16:41

I am slightly amused at posters getting their knickers in a twist about incest. Safe to say, much as I adore my son and he does me, there is no confusion in my mind about the non-sexuality of it.

I understand if other people who don't experience don't get it. Jelly, blue and bumps do - we are so lucky. Others don't - too bad.

Oh well.

squoosh · 07/06/2017 16:42

It's not small children wanting to marry their parent that I find odd, they have no frame of reference for love beyond 'I love my mum/dad so much and marrying someone means love'.

squoosh · 07/06/2017 16:45

So now we've progressed to 'people who don't express their love in equally as creepy a manner are missing out'.

BuckinghamLass · 07/06/2017 16:45

When small children say "I want to marry you, Mummy", they don't mean they actually want to marry you or even the Keats-style Romantic Love that's been alluded to here. They mean they want to stay with you forever because they love you and you're the centre of their worlds. It doesn't mean they're like your boyfriend.

But whatever, I guess I don't "get it".

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