I WIN MUMSNET WEDDINGS

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So we all love a good wedding thread 'it's not a summons, it's an invitation'..
We have been 'invited' to a wedding WEEK in the USA, prices starting from £3k, with 5 organised events, each with their own dress code, and given a link to the Amazon wish list/registry where the cheapest item is >£300! Children are welcome on the holiday but not at the ceremony, and we're to chip in to the brides accommodation the night before the big day to show her our love?!

Total costing is £5,500 for a WEEK.

So, come on, what do I win??

You should live stream the whole thing on the internet via a webcam hidden in your hat.

Then charge people a couple of quid each to watch. That will cover the cost of going.

I'd watch.

Bet they offer to sell you the DVD of the wedding.

Just say sorry, I'm shaving my legs that day.

Flipping heck - I don't believe it ! Why the hell would anyone want to go to that ?

I wouldnt even spend that on my own wedding, never mind someone elses.

I want to know what the "events" are to cost of £5.5k. I mean, is there a trip to top of Empire State Building or out to the Florida Keys or what?

Another vote for your inability to get a visa for the US due to youthful indiscretions!

Oh holy pigeons of hell tell me that's a joke

baby I love that expression!

felix I've never used it before in my life, I have no idea where it came from, it just seems fitting

Wow you definitely win. Respect. Just one question...WHATS ON THE GIFT REGISTRY????

Please share the registry!!! Love to see what people like that ask for.

I'll stick a couple of quid in the crownfunder

*crowdfunder
Though you could buy them crowns...

Is TidyDancer's thread still online? Link? Please?

If I were your DH I might just feel a little insulted by the invite actually. These so called "friends" weren't close enough to attend your wedding and it sounds like they aren't in regular contact but suddenly you're deemed worthy of attending their expensive wedding fest? I'm afraid it seems obvious to me that they're finding to hard to get willing guests to go so they're expanding their net to fill up the numbers. Apologies if I'm wrong about that.

Bloody nerve of some people!

I agree with Rainbunny, and like I said above its very clear that you are D list (at best) because A B and C listers all turned them down.

Have you put it to him like that?

He doesnt understand why you are so against it, have you asked him why he is prepared to spend so much money on the wedding of someone he hasnt seen in years? How much is your mortage/rent? Maybe put it in terms of "Are you really saying that we should spend 6 months worth of mortgage money on someone elses wedding?!"

TidyDancer's original Gluezilla thread
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

The best bit is that in the US, you are expected to buy a gift or give cash, equal to or more than what it cost the bride and groom to host you at the reception. You might need a second mortgage :D

Not true, missmilla. Maybe some people expect that but I have never heard of it in all my years of wedding attending and present giving in the US.

Oooh yes, want to see the gift list!

The gift=cost of dinner thing is becoming expected over here now. Whether its from US tv or what I dont know but when I got married 7 years ago there were several brides on wedding forums who seemed to think that this was the done thing. As I was a bit older than many of them and had been married before I tried to say that it wasnt a tradition as many of them seemed think, but a very recent idea. I got shouted down

I was on the forums for the bargains on the for sale bits, but my god you could see some truly amazing bridezilla stuff. The idea that it is an honour to be invited to a weding and should move heaven earth, no matter the cost, to attend is the least of it!

Oh and there were a fair amount of threads where brides were slagging off their guests for not giving enough in terms of gifts/cash, which is why I wasnt surprised at that thread where the OP had been emailed asking for more money by the B&G.

I seldom know when I buy a wedding gift what will be spent by the B&G on the wedding. And if you are going to use that sort of logic, you need to factor in the cost of attending: travel, clothes, lodging perhaps.

I thought "covering your plate" was a traditional Irish thing?