Working dads...poor things!

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I work a full time job... high profile. Loads of stress....from home. Remotely.
Today I:
Woke at 6. Read work e-mails. Made his lordship his offer at 7. Dressed our little girl, got ready ...gave her breakfast. Took her to nursery. Worked full day ( in between did 4 loads of washing). Spent 'lunch hour' packing boxes for our upcoming house move... on conference calls for 5 hours. Pickup little munchkin. Cook dinner. Feed munchkin.
Him: works a day. Walks in the door. Plonks on couch. Switches on TV.
Says he is too tired to bath munchkin while I need to read urgent mails....
Ah! Poor thing.

What are you going to do about it? Why are you doing all the work

You sound a little bit like my mother who has been a total martyr to my dad behaving like this for 45 years.

That's not how it works in my house!

Well I guess that means you are too tired to cook any meals, do any laundry, and anything else that benefits him.

Men seem to think their day ends as soon as they get home. Lazy b*!

That doesn't apply to all working dads though.

Deep down do you enjoy doing everything and the sense of being put upon

You mean he managed to sit on the couch AND put on the TV all by himself?
Bathing an elephant might be a job but a small daughter?

Well you need to pipe up and demand some help! Don't put up with it. It's his child too and he needs to take responsibility.

Are you contracted to work those hours?

I'm assuming he will be cooking dinner while you bathe said munchkin?

I'm hoping you made him coffee and not an offer of sexual favours.

Actually I'm hoping you didn't make him anything.

Your post is awful. Just because that was your day doesnt mean working dads as a group do the same.

You could always, I dunno, TALK to him. Make a change. Not be a fucking pushover.

It's not a father issue, it's a lazy wanker issue.

My DH: gets up before 6, leaves the house before 7, works, goes to the gym in his lunch hour so as to not take family time, works the afternoon, gets home, plays with DD, I cook, he washes up and cleans the kitchen. If it's particularly bad I bathe DD while he's still cleaning. If not, he might. One of us puts her to bed. The other sings her a song.

He does cleaning, recycling, home maintenance and similar. I do laundry, cooking, childcare organization and similar.

You get what you settle for.

Stop settling.

Stop being a martyr.

Echo penfold.

If you don't like it. Change it.

And not all men are like that.

He does need to do more. You need to speak to him. However stressful your job is, you are working from home so easier to do household tasks.

It's not a father issue, it's a lazy wanker issue.

Maybe but it's true that women do the bulk of housework, even when they work longer hours than their male partners, according to the ONS. I imagine it's due to upbringing and a culture in which so many still view work in the home as being "women's work".

This is possibly relevant: english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

No context there of what he has been doing. All we have is works a day. What does this mean. Pushing unimportant bits of paper around a desk from 9-5 with an hour for lunch and sod all commute?

Or 12 hours shift in an A&E as a surgeon? 12 hour shift as a pathologist or forensic scientist sifting through evidence from a crime? Police officer having to tell a family about the death of a loved one?

Does he do it every night? Or is this a one off? If no exceptional circumstances did you tell him it was fine and to sit down and then passive aggressively do everything yourself. Or talk to him about it and ask him to pull his weight?

I would have sympathy for you if we knew more. But I cannot jump on a "lazy cock-womble" bandwagon without information - it would be unfair.

Not all dads are like that!

It's certainly not the kind of dad my dh is and I certainly don't do the bulk of stuff we are pretty equal.

Your settling for it, it will only change if you say/do something